Unsure about how current relationship is going to go.

So about a month ago I got into this relationship with this nice girl and it's great but I can't get over these jitters I have about this current relationship. I'm afraid it might turn out like my last relationship, my ex was only with me because I was the only first nice guy she met who didn't beat her(I realize it makes me an ass for leaving her). There was no love or passion, the only thing we had in common was sex, which was great I'll admit but everything was bad. I didn't really love her and I know she didn't love me it was just complacency not love. So I ended the relationship before there was no going back. So meeting this new girl we have a lot more in common and there is a little bit of chemistry but I'm afraid it will turn into another loveless relationship. I'm also scared by the fact I haven't dated in almost two years and I'm scared about how to proceed. Any advice on what I should do or If my my fears are valid or not?

Wait, so you are saying that you were getting sex... and you broke up with her because there wasn't any love or passion? I fail to see the problem. Most people get only love and no sex. So this new girl. If you love her I'd at least take your chances. You say you are looking for love and passion, not just sex? Go for it.

Please tell me you're trolling.

OT: How close are you with your current girlfriend right now? If you're both on a pretty intimate level already, then try not to be scared. Ask if what you have now is worth it, or if you really want it to succeed, despite your insecurities. Another thing is communication. It's vital in any relationship.

You're not an asshole for leaving a relationship that doesn't make you happy. If you stayed for that reason ("I was the only good guy she found thus far, so she probably won't find another if I leave...") then you're staying out of guilt which is toxic to begin with. Besides, that sort of thinking isn't true whatsoever. The longer you stay with her, the longer you're preventing her from finding someone better - someone who actually DOES love and respect her, and who wants to be with her for more then sex.

But that's the old relationship, this is the new one. You have to handle it as what it is - new - and stop trying to tie it in with your old relationship's failures. If you constantly think that this relationship is doomed from the start, then it WILL be. Love is a choice that you make. It's nice to think that it's some fluffy, fate-bound emotion that just washes over you randomly, but more often then not there are a lot of decisions that come into play that foster that feeling. Love are the many, many actions performed day in and day out. When you are both performing these daily acts of love, you will eventually feel good about each other. If you want to call this gooey, happy feeling “being in love,” then call it that. Call it whatever you want. Just know that the behavior precedes the feeling. If you want to feel in love, you need to act in love.

Stop being so insecure.

I agree, you shouldn't feel bad about breaking up with your ex. I kind of did the same thing, if there's no love and only sex, it's bound to go downhill.
I'd say just stay positive about this new relationship. Things will be okai, just don't get your hopes up to high. That's what I find is the downfall for many, they get their hopes up and then get hurt.
I'm not saying don't go for it, go for it, stay with it, I think things will work out :), but if you think about it too much, you'll stress yourself out, and then it may become complicated, just try not to rush things ^^

YOU GO TIGER!

Don't rush to sex. Give it a couple of weeks, months if you're patient. Then when you still actually feel tha you still lover her and she loves you; do it.
Sail the sea before striking ashore.

thanks guys appreciate the advice