Vicious cycle

So, lately I've been thinking. I know that I may seem to just be fishing for attention, but I have no where else that I feel I can as openly speak my mind. I've found myself in a very complicated relationship with a girl I hold very dear. She tells me that my feelings aren't one sided and she just needs time to be more comfortable with herself, but despite this, she has little trouble in behaving as if there's nothing between us. I don't know how to feel about this. Being a man of an emotional demeanor, I find it difficult to understand how a person is capable of such a rapid and seamless change in attitude about a person. If anyone has anything to say on the matter, I'm really on need of any form of clarity.

I will speak blatantly.

You are not her first choice.

She is stringing you along in case her first choice doesn't pan out.

That's what I was afraid of. It's not something I like to think about, but you may be right. Thanks for the input. I think I need to talk to her herself now. Again, thank you.

I am not so sure it has to be because of another person. She might just be afraid of a relationship or something like that.
I know i was when i was about to start a relation, it was not becuase i liked someone else but because i was afriad myself and had low self esteem.
Hope it works out for you.

I'm not sure if this is the best relationship for you. If she is one way with you personally and another way in front of others that could mean a few things.

1) Potentionally likes you, but not sure if she want's the relationship
2) She doesn't like you and doesn't know how to tell you
3) May be one of those girls that cock teases your feelings

My advice to you is tread carefully on this situation. If you invest too much of yourself into this, there is a good chance it will hurt you. When a woman isn't committed to a man, there are a lot of other factors involved, the biggest one being she doesn't feel what you feel.

If you don't get a clear response in the next week or two, then I would either keep it casual or cut ties and most importantly keep your options open.

Remember that different people express emotion to different extents and in different ways. Perhaps I'm alone in thinking this, but a time-frame and a brief overview of her personality outside of the relationship would be helpful in establishing her character as a person and may shed light onto this. I can't really say one way or the other if things are bad or merely being lost in the æther. Can you provide some additional information to give a better point of view into the situation?

I miss the old days where men and women when out just to fuck and boredom and not to find their soul mates. Just get out and find someone else if she not into you. I miss the 90's.

Your not smothering her are you? That will make her distance herself from you too.