Love or Lust?

The past few girlfriends I've had, I can safely say that I was in love with 2 of them, but 1 of them was pure lust. We didn't know too much about each other, it was mainly based on attraction. I haven't been in relationship for ages now, but that doesn't matter.

Say whatever you want, true love is hard to find these days. At least, for me and a few fellow nerdy folks I know.

So what do you think? Does your relationship REQUIRE love, or can it just be some fun lust? (A.K.A "Fuck buddies.")

**Move this to the Love section, if it needs to be. Seems fitting, sorry for not seeing it earlier.**

All my relationships in the past have fallen into one of two categories:

1) Stupid teenager bullshit where I thought it was love but really (insert long psychological explanation that amounts to me not really being in love)
2) She's hot, I wanna tap that shit

Have I ever been in love? I don't think so, but I'm not exactly sure. What is love, after all? I've had feelings that could have been love, but if they were love, then love isn't all it's cracked up to be. Love may not be a feeling itself but instead an escalation of certain feelings, or a mixture of feelings. Like being friends with someone as well as being sexually attracted to them, and not being afraid of commitment. Or it could be something completely different. I don't know.

It's possible that a relationship based on lust can turn into a relationship with love, but I doubt it happens very often. Being in a "love" relationship means that the two people want certain things, whereas in a "lust" relationship, it's about sex.

God, I feel like I could write a paper about love. That sickens me, because I hate love. And it'd be a psychology paper, and I'm no psych major. Why can't I imagine myself writing a paper about an English or literature topic?

Talk about left field. Anyways, love is what you make of it. If you want to be with a person forever, isn't that love? And isn't a bit of lust necessary for any relationship? If you're not interested in your partner's body, the relationship isn't going to get too far. A mix of the two is nice, but "love" should be more important, because looks fade.

You kick ass.

I guess you pretty much just won the topic, as I have no rebuttal here.

Love, and especially "true" love, is imaginary.
Pretty much.
At least lust is fairly honest.

Although, lies are necessary for most people. For most people, absolute truth in all areas of their life would make them kill themselves, or something like that.

Which is probably why relationships for "love" can actually be pretty successful. The most function relationships are the ones based on lies.

I feel lust everyday but I've only felt love once. I'm not gonna go emo on you guys but I just have to say that I've cried myself to sleep and I never even knew her real name.


Back to the lust factor. Yeah relationships based on lust may change to love but in most cases come out to be a prolonged breakup. Those kinds of relationships come and go but true love comes once,twice, three times if you're lucky.

Even if a relationship started at just lust explore it and see it through with the best expectations to the end. Who knows it might end up being the love of your life.

For me personally I've never gotten why people say I love you while they confess to people who they really don't know. They hardly know the person and yet they love them. Is there something wrong with me to think that way?

I think I've felt love a couple times, one time it was with the only female whom I've ever been more than acquaintances with (I never made any serious move) and the other time was when I had an extreme, depressing crush on Asuka Langley Sohryu from Evangelion (my vision of her was a little older than in the anime though).

Now, as an atheist with nihilist tendencies, I believe that love is merely a chemical component of reproduction, and would like to consider myself above such an animalistic behavior, howver, I am conflicted in that I do experience such emotion time to ti-oooh! Ayanami! FapFapFapFap...

My pass relations have been shit since I lost that one true girl. I still hate that feeling every minute of my life, but I won't let it get to me. I feel like because of dumping this one girl I really loved because I was afraid of being hurt (my pass relations were pretty crappy before, a lot of them) I screwed myself over and can't find any good girls anymore. Now that thats happened, I mainly feel lust towards girls. That doesn't mean I don't wanna go out and find a good relationship, I just feel like I need a really long break away from that shit, especially since all my friends are dealing with that crap around me, I'd rather not deal with it too.

I think I was right in joining this forum, it seems like a lot of you guys share my problems.

not much experience but this is my take. :)
lust, a physical attraction. it happens alot for a short time and you break up, there are rare ones where you can find love through lust. When you "lust" for someone you like certain aspects of them like personalities, appearances, whv.
but if you "love" someone you genuinely care for them and emotionally intimate with each other.

edit: haha just read Jebus's post.
so true.

Lust is all bout' one night stands in the public restroom using a rubber glove as a condom

love and lust go hand in hand together, i think.. kinda
because when you love someone your brain just goes haywire around them, and you'd lust after them anyway..
Have a girlfriend now and im safe to say I love her, because just the feeling of her being there is so comforting and estatic, and we're both not afraid of long term commitment..
so i say not love or lust, but love AND lust..

I guess when it comes to love you develop feelings for that person and that is the person you want to be with and if that person where to leave you, you be heartbroken because that was the person you cared about and you wanted to be with if you feel felling like this that means you where in love

For lust if you see a person and you find them attractive i guess you will try things and be with the person not because you want to be with them but because you want sex and if the person where to leave you probably wouldn't feel bad because all you wanted was sex that what i think lust is

i see we have the same situation here
like i said, love will not work without sexual activity
and lust won't work without the act of commitment or love
so i think both of the act must go hand to hand for the relationship to continue