Self psychotherapy...staying happy.

I'm a constantly happy person.

I can't be pissed off, though not for lack of people trying to change that.

And why am I always happy? Because a long time ago, when I was about...12...my parents got divorced. While I had no particularly strong feelings about their decision concerning eachother, they decided i should be placed in Therapy anyhow, just in case I would develop some sort of depression. Therapists, despite being mocked al the time for not being real doctors, do know what they're doing. The therapist knew I had no problems. Instead of asking me about my life, or how I felt about myself, she merely told me different things I can do to keep myself on the current path I'm on. I recieved sound advice.

"It's good that you aren't depressed. But never be indifferent, for that leads to depression over time."

Also.

"Always try to maintain happiness, even in unhappy times, it's mentally and physically healthy."

Then she told me different things I could do to follow this advice at all times.

The main thing I do is self psychotherapy. I analyze my own subconscious. How do I do this? Well I don't actually know all the different things about my mind that means whatever the hell. I have no extensive training in psychology and all that shit, so know I don't truly mean I analyze myself in the scientific way, but in my own way.

My...way...of doing this is to sit down, set down an hour of free time where I talk to myself, via the computer. I open up Microsoft Word, and stare at a blank page, waiting for something to talk about. It can be something deep, like the existence of god, or something extremely trivial, like the necessity of bendy straws. I talk to myself, seeing what my subconscious thinks about these topics. If you simply let your head gpo...you don't truly think about these things, just let your first thoughts cthat comme to mind be put down on paper, you can see what youre subconscious thinks. How does this help? It's therapeutic. Constantly communicating with yourself helps you reaffirm yourself. It makes you more content with yourself. All depression stems from being unsure. when you are sure of yourself, and know yourself, you can change yourself, or at least accept yourself...this keeps you from ever being depressed.

I ask Fakku, you know how I keep my jollynessnessness, I now ask how you do it? How does Fakku keep their happiness?

Im not that happy, but what seems to work is to figure out the causes of my unhappiness and remove them whenever possible and get more of those that bring me happiness, may they be people, objects or intangibles.

As for talking to myself, Im not ready yet to talk about such...

Lundi, we can try that here, why dont you em do it here instead of word and type what comes to mind as an example then maybe others can try it too.

Alrighty,, here's an example.


I'm just going to do a small sample now...not the full hour I do some days, but it's still an example.

Ahem...so...I was thinking about that one day earlier this week when Steve at work told me he felt like I was getting special treatment at work. I wonder if I am...no...no i'm not...I mean I've been reprimanded for being late beforte, just like other people. Then again I also know that others in a similar position ahve been fired, even for less problems. Maybe because dad's the boss I just can't be fired...it's a possibility, but dad told me he specifically told them not to treat me different, and that he encouraged riding my ass, and firing me if the occasion ever arose. Maybe they aren't listening. No they're listening, Steve's being overreactive. You know how dicks can be, yeah I do know how dicks can be, I mean I remember that one time back in high school, that one kid Soboleski hated me for no reason at all. But WAS it no reason? I mean when I first met him i was still in my cocky 7th grade persona...but I don't remember saying anything to him that warranted him gathering people to make fun of me, and kicking dirt on me. Nope, can't remember at thing, don't worry about it. Doesn't do any good to dwell on that right now. I mean that's in the apst, and I haven't seen Soboleski for 4 years so what does it matter now? It doesn't, nope it doesn't."

That's just an example.

Lundi, I can understand in a way I guess, the pressure and impression from people with your father being the boss at work. People tend to think that its not fair, also at times people tend to think you rose to your position coz of the biological and not the skill. Its like its harder to gain real respect from others.

You know, people can actually be trying to be nicer to you as well and giving you some slack for their own personal agendas. You yourself are sensing it already anyway from what you say.

The best thing to do is just prove that you are worthy and deserving of being where you are. Atleast even if not everyone would believe you, you can believe in yourself.

If others perform better than you and you get the promotions and praise or you slack off and those who work hard get reprimanded or sacked... its reasonable for people to think what theyre thinking right?

To be fair I will try it too, and just type what comes to mind:

Well im thinking of Private donut and caboose. Shiella the tank robot. Oh O'Malley!!! "Dont ever be alone! "Im scared of myself". Ok now Im thinking of american mcgee's alice and Johnny depps freaky picture on the new movie. Donuts! I want donuts! Why cant I eat donuts!!!! Stupid fuckin diet crap

People aren't supposed to be happy, nothing good ever came of it.

I sort of understand what you mean. I'm not immune to sadness or anger(I've actually got a pretty bad temper), but I'm generally satisfied with my life. Of course, I always want more of something, something better, but the very least I try to do is be happy with what I've got. There's no reason in my life to be unhappy, and things could always be worse.

I went through a pretty nasty breakup a couple years ago, moped over the guy for two months, and just one day realized that he wasn't worth the effort of being upset. Since then I've got a generally optimistic view on things, and it's not hard to make me happy. I don't think happiness is really a difficult thing to achieve, you just need to learn to appreciate what you've already got.

i do get angry but. . .like 2 seconds later its all over so generally i never manifest anger till i bottle up like 5 or 6 years then i'll destroy you seriously, teh last time i broke a guy's jaw just cus we were "old skool pals" and we had afew things to say to each other, although in that state of anger i'll never hurt a women u-u, when i do i fell like my face is on teh floor :S

anyways i very rarely get angry nor sad :y
im just a happy boy (^^)

I really appreciate this, Big Lundi. I do something similar. I write novels for my own pleasure and read and edit them every month. I can see how I'm feeling through my characters, what they're concerned with - Love, philosophy, Life in general, something specific like work. I realized when I was 16 that the more realistic I made my characters, the more I thought about them and wrote about them, the more I could also get to know myself.

Also, it's just not in my nature to stay angry or unhappy. My parents were very unhappy but I had three brothers who knew how to keep themselves together and held each other up. They worked really hard and played really hard. I'm just like them. The only difference is that I probably surf the net for porn more than the three of them combined. Honestly, when I have expended my ability to reflect on myself, I just watch porn and forget what made me sad in the first place. Because, if it's easy to forget, it ain't worth rememberin'.

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Oh, man, two months of sadness is torture for me. It's my kryptonite. I'd probably die if I was sad for that long, so I really feel for you. I'm happy that you developed a great attitude from the hell of a nasty break up you got. It's so true, too, it really isn't hard to be happy at all, if you're appreciative and need very little. Rock on, Jules.

Same thing happened to me.

I accept the world, I smile no mater how I feel and hope that through my false shards of happiness that some one else benefits. If not, life would seem utterly pointless and I fear I would have to kill myself. I hate this world and I hate how it runs but I love its people. I wish joy to everyone. May your lives be filled with joy and never once you see a day without point. For without meaning life itself is pointless. That's all i have to say about this, bye now.

I always try to act happy but inside i think differently. I dont let this side show and because of the way i act i tend to be treated like a fool and a child. Ever since i was younger i was given grief and so i dont let thinks like others opinions bother me anymore.... well not a lot atleasy ^_^

I used to have a wicked bad temper when i was younger. to the point of violence on more than a few occasions. i forced my self to not get mad anymore. even little things like smashing my thumb with a hammer, or dropping my plate of food. i just let it go. even when people try to piss me off or start an arguement, i will most times conceed. there have been a few times since that i have come very near kicking someones ass, but i just walked away.

i also looked at it logicaly. when has getting angry ever been helpful? i do get angry when i see injustice, or someone getting hurt. so far i've been able to control it, but there is always that fear in the back of my mind that i might go to far.

There is only one situation where anger is a powerful tool and that's war. In war anger is a tool for destruction like it is in life. Anger, hate and just plan sadness are only destructive and bring nothing to this world but more of themselves ^_^ anger breeds anger, hate breeds hate and sadness breeds sadness. The worlds would be a better place without these emotions but when it comes to sadness the worlds is just not an idealistic enough place for it not to exists so we just need deal with it and deny the existence of anger and hate.

ha! thats nothin 4 me

my parents got divorced when i wsa like 6, so 2 months later he died in a car accident XD, so we got no inheritance, he changed it all to the other whore he was goin out with >_>

so i was like "mom WTF!! you should've waited 2 months XD" but its okay, i hated him though :P