[Locked] Guys, I got played

like a damn fiddle.

>meet qt. 3.14 at work
>haitian, my age, petite, loli-like body
>She asks my number, know her for 1 month
>I ask her out
>We go out to UNIVERSAL, had spare tickets because friends
>Make her laugh, make her cry, walk through the place
>She's always checking the phone. Some ken guy and some ams something something name
>Ignore
>Carry her tiny body to a ride
>She begs me to out her down, but in her eyes I knew she really wanted to go
>Mount a harry potter ride, dem dragons
>She yelled so much she coughs
>Try kissing
>turns away, barely felt her lil lips
>Invite her for food
>I buy her a shirt she liked because Africanish art
>She buys me a keychain of equal value that looks like my doge
>Eat from a haitian restaurant
>She puts love songs from her phone in creole and translates them for me
>Kokoro.gif
>Be sleepy
>Keep joking around, she likes that I'm trying to learn french
>Take her to work


2 days later

>Leave work
>Another different guy is driving her home, a different one from the last guy who picked her up 1 week ago and then the next day she said was her blood-brother
>Matrix-bullet-time-as-I-see-her-inside-the-car-with-another-guy
>They wait outside our work
>I go around and double-check it's actually her
>It is
>Lose appetite
>Down
>Drive back home
>Smoke after a 2 week no-smoking record
>Poast here and get only 3 hours of sleep before I work my 2nd job

So you made her go on a ride she felt sick on and then tried to kiss her despite her disinterest?

She's a trap, uh.

She just coughed from the yelling. Her interest was mixed signals, ask for my #, tell me she wants to go out on a "meeting" with me. At the end of the day as we wait outside shesays she's had so much fun spending her day off with me.

So the point is is she changing another guy for me or is this some twisted fiddling?



But without the penis or boipussi. D :

Sounds like the old solid we know.
Spaghetti incarnate, and what not

You're both young.
You're both not in a commitment(probably), at the very least with each other.

I don't think it's odd to go on dates with different people.

So you go on one date with her and are pissed that she knows other guys? Like, maybe she just has friends dude. Seems like you just witnessed her hanging out with somebody she knows. If you really care so much just ask if she's seeing anybody else.

^This


Although, just yesterday one of my dad's customers/friends was talking to me about how girls turn guys into players due to just the situation you described. Her son was having girl troubles like you. It seems guys are more insecure than girls are (or at least more posessive), so when a girl strays to other guys, the male loses self esteem and may start playing around with other women as a result (or become a neet). Of course, I brushed off that notion of hers and told her that men and women's libidos are different, which is why guys play around with women more so than the other way around. At first I thought she was just biased because she raises three sons, but she told me her ex boyfriend had a troubled past with women and it took awhile for her to reasure him that she wouldn't betray him. It's funny cause I always had this predisposed idea that men would fuck anything that walked and could care less about comittment. I grew up around guys like that, so it wasn't just the media's influence that had me think that way. But what she explained to me made me rethink things a little, just a little.

No, I actually went out. I had a good time. LRR subforum is home of spaghetti droppers.



Fair point. I was more thinking of the old alpha fucks and beta bucks situation. I've seen so many coworker guys get wrecked and used by hoes I have my hoe radar on maximum alert. No seriously we've all heard our drunk friends depressive stories for caring too much over a hoe.



More like fuck friends would be my worst situation. I will eventually ask. She seems like a kind of girl you might want to keep, but also has 50% of qualities you want to avoid. I guess just keep my expectations low about her and just keep enjoying time with her until it eventually goes.


@FinalBoss:
Nice story tho.

"her ex boyfriend had a troubled past with women and it took awhile for her to reasure him that she wouldn't betray him."
Do go into detail. I'm curious.

Entirely possible you misread the signals and she just wants a friend.

Sounds like she has a lot of guy friends who she may or may not be banging.

Either that or she's just keeping her options open going on dates with other people.

Yeah, I'm not buying OP's sob story

Nope.exe

Sweet talked me in spanish
Always around me. no really, always one step or two. Goes out of her way to spend time with me
giggles alot over the lamest of things. Oddly enough she doesn't talk with any other guy cook or server, and onky speaks with 2 other girls at work.
Talked to me about kids, family, and expectations in her life.
Insinuated about if we were together etc etc


It's the fact that she's going out with other guys that just makes my head doubt.




>sob

So a concern is a sob? Christ woman, go back to the kitchen.

Wow. Patriarchy much. You're not allowed to feel any form of concern or worried at the prospect of the girl you like and went out on a date might be playing the field. You're acting as if you owned her.

Well, one Manes: Yeah, bit of mix signalling there... so if you're really interested in a monogamous relationship, say so. So she says no. At least you can cut it off before you get more invested.

Two, you can rather bluntly be abrasive. Some push back may happen, and even taking you at your word as I am... my inclination is to be blunt, as I am with those I care about.

So bluntly. The only person you control here is you.

First, are you going to turn this into something you have to rehash a billion times? Or are you going to decide to take a sensible action, like ask about being exclusive or move on? And if you have moved on, are you wise enough to not upset yourself over it?

Second, any Should or Musts you have in your head about this girl or any other? Bullshit. If any of your thoughts on how women should be were universal law, they'd be like gravity and just happen. Concentrate on finding a girl that does fit what you want, and worry less about whether anyone who disagrees with you is out of their place.

Finally, take care of you. I mean that.

well, the way your original post was phrased certainly was a sob story; "woe is me, I'm not the only man in her life". Being "concerned" as you call it can be considered "sobbing" instead of taking action.

Now i'm gonna let you in on a secret as well, the signals you mentioned, the fact she makes time for you and laughs at your bad jokes, all of it might just be the way she is; some girls like to collect guys(just as males like to collect girls).

I don't know the situation, I'm not there, seeing what you're seeing so the best judgement of the situation will be yours but remember that emotion can cloud that judgement so try to sit back and look at it rationally.

Id say she has control right now but Eddie's right, you definitely have to make the next move; Stop being passive and man up.

Additionally, and possibly more likely, she was just being polite. I know many girls are taught pretty early/often to be cordial with guys and laugh at jokes, etc.

Listen, your all shit. Do something like lend your services for the world once in awhile~ Redeem the karma points! +1

Stop being a little bitch about it.

That's not called being played, that is called a date. As in 1. Single. Date.

Regardless of where you took her or what money you spent on her/she spent on you, it was 1 date. A date is an interview.

Unless you've specifically asked this girl to be your girlfriend and her response was yes, you don't get the right to be upset that she may be seeing someone else.

Same goes for you, people aren't exclusive after one date.