Love, Sex and Respect

*Love: to me it means that have some short of affection towards another.

*Sexual preference(Desire/Lust): to me means that you have physical attraction to someone.

*Respect: to me it means having someone in high regard and treat them accordingly. It also has to do with Trust.

Love can turn into hate easily, and vise versa. Love is genderless. Its just that if other feelings come into play.

For example. If you had a friend you knew all your life. You went through lots of hardships with that person. Say the person is outside of you sexual preference. Obviously, your not going to have sex with someone your not attracted to. Well normally at least. But what if this person WAS in your preference? Wouldn’t that love you had as a friend be more like a romantic feeling?

Though how far your love for some one goes IS based of the Sexual preference. Though I think a better way to say it is that, you would only go so far with someone based on their gender, maybe not their looks but that you see their gender as barrier, this is sometime referred to as “Forbidden love.” Though I don’t think any kind of love is forbidden. Its all the things our mind or our body tells us that it wants or doesn’t, or what it thinks is right or not.

The sayings like;

“Love is blind” or “Love is unconditional” and “Love is genderless” only apply if love had a chance to appear in the first place. Love can sometimes be first or last. (or in the middle) . I think its more accurate to say it depends on the situation. Love can indeed take many forms, and there are lots of odd looking couples. But there has to be some kind of attraction to begin with, whether its sexual or not.

Example: You can talk to someone online and end up loving that person because of who they are “as a person” but then you break it off because they didn’t meet your sexual preference.

When I say “Love“. I don’t mean if I want to have sexual and/ or romantic relations with the person. I mean like friendship and stuff or loving someone as “a person”. Because there’s a basic form of “Love” that I have for everyone.

On a side note, a lot of people today cant tell between love and lust. The sayings like “Love at first sight” are more like “Lust at first sight.” Your just attracted to the persons looks, which is just a form of sexual preference. “To be perfectly honest I have never felt this feeling and only basing this theory on assumption and I am fully ready to throw this Idea out the window if given exact proof that I am wrong.”

Yes you can fall in love with looks. Though in itself that’s hard to explain. As I said “Love is genderless” I must add that “Love has no set form.” Like one has love for a pet, family member, friend or lover. One could also love an area, looks, and just existence in itself, then again one could also fall in love with something that doesn’t legally exist. Like a fictional character. Or even an Idea, maybe words or saying. Love has no exact rule and is not black and white. We mustn’t forget that “Love” even though its genderless, formless, or unconditional. It is also Biased.

When people usually think of love they think of it as Romantic love. But there are many forms. “Like” is a form. A really vague form. Things like “Love” and “In Love,” “Like,” or “Like Like,” are just other names people give to their feelings. But these titles are more like grade school terms.

I use love as a general word, and give them sub classes, rather then giving them grade school names. Here are SOME forms of love.

Romantic Love: usually a good romantic love has to not just have those advance feelings. It also has to do with Sexual preference. While usually lust is mistaken for love, its not exactly true that it has nothing to do with each other. Its really is hard for one to love one who doesn’t match their preference.

Though it seems most people only think about their preference rather then love. Reason why over generation marriage’s become shorter. Though lots of marriages in the past weren’t exactly perfect. I mean young people don’t seem to understand what it truly mean to love someone.

Though generally speaking real love is hard to come by. Also it is hard to keep it going. For some its easy others… well some couples aren’t just mean to be. The idea now is not just of being fickle with love. But the fact that no one really wants to stick it out for the long hall.

Side note on marriage: People are reassured that they can divorce their spouse. It really just threw away any sense of Commitment people have. Well no one wants to stay with someone they don’t love. In some cases its better that way. But it sometimes ruins the chance for people could have really gone the distance if they stuck it out but instead backed away and tried for someone else. I blame the sayings like “There are always more fish in the sea.”

But there are those who abuse it, and just see it as a means to and end. Sometimes having to do with making a profit of some kind. Not saying everyone is like that. Its just seems that way to me.

Now the next love is

Family Love: Like every form of love. Its genderless. But unlike Romantic love. People have mental barriers. People try not to let this love get out of hand. Like incest, morally speaking people don’t think its right. But when you strip all the labels away. All you have are people with feelings. Not saying I endorse incest or anything. I’m just saying people need to be more understanding of others and not be bigots. To shun someone is wrong, and can hurt more then physical pain. Again I’m not saying its ok to physically hurt someone either.

What it really means to be family… Well you can go and read an article about it. It means having a bond. Its kind of like friendship, but no matter the what happens. Family will always be family. Even if you lose contact. Well at least that’s what family should be. Family doesn’t have to be by blood. Heck Your closest friend could be more of a family then your real one. Its as I said before. Love depends on the situation.

Friendship Love: Unlike Family love, friendship is more relax and has a better chance of developing into romantic love. But here instead of The Family Barriers we have the Gender Barrier and Romance Barrier. Some people can only ever see another person as a friend. Or maybe that they wouldn’t date them based on gender or because of their sexual preference.

Friendship Love itself sometimes have more meaning then Romantic Love and Family Love. Your more likely to share experiences with a life long friend then someone you married a year before.

Children Love: Its hard to describe the feeling one has for a child. Especially for a parent. This love shouldn’t end up in the Romantic region. Though I do have a mass opinion about this I will not touch the subject.

Now lets move onto respect. Aw Respect, lots of people take it for granted. I think the most basic forms of respect are, “Respect for someone existence” as in your not going to go off and kill someone willy-nilly. “Respect as a person” like your not going to go around degrading others, and referring to them as such things as items or property. Then there’s “Respect for Property” like your not going to go and break someone else’s stuff. Then there’s higher forms of respect. Like “Respect for Elders: also “Teachers“, “Parents” and “Personal Heroes“. (though that last one is also a bit of admiration). I could go into more the detail but these kinds of things need to be decided by yourself. Though if you really want to know what I think you can just ask me.

To respect someone means to treat them correctly. While I believe higher respect is earned. Basic Respects should be given. You should treat a person like a pile of trash when you first meet them. Though its hard not to base on yourself and how you see others. That’s just basic respect.

Like how Love and Sexual Preference are connect. So does Respect and those same feelings are connected. People tend to think that to love someone is to also Respect someone. I don’t think that’s Exactly true. You can treat someone you love like dirt and still love them. Your treating them more like some kind of machine that does stuff for you.

Screw the scientific response
I'm too tired to write two responses
or rather too lazy
Love: Yes, it is a sort of affection to another, but its supposed to be a feeling that cannot be defeated by any other feeling, a feeling in which one considers the one they love as far more important than any other person that they do not love. Personally, i consider it the point where someone will always love someone, no matter what. Anything else, I consider as liking
Lust: I would agree
Respect: I would have to disagree
Just because one respects doesn't mean one trusts. Amongst the people I know, I respect few, but I trust many that I dont respect. Respect is, in my opinion, a feeling that is formed because that person has a quality that is aweinspiring, but not necessarily because one trusts. For example, I trust one of my friends greatly, I know he would never betray me, but I don't respect him much, because unfortunately he has many negative qualities
Like I said, I consider Love to be an unreversible emotion. Liking someone, on the other hand, can turn easily into hate, because there area wide variety of things one can do to make someone hate another.
About your friend example
Not always true. If you've had a childhood friend in your sexual preference, for example, sometimes, your brain is so wired into theat person is my friend, that it is impossible to pull away. Being used to the relationship that one has with a friend means that it can be that much harder to pull out and og ot the next step.
I think that liking someone would realy push into a psycological process. How you've been raised really affects you. Those sayings about love are false, because a huge part of liking someone is the environement in which you've been raised. For example, a person that was indoctrinated with hating gay people will never like a guy, because he was drilled with hate for gay people and relationship. The average person as well, looks down on gay relationships because it was considered taboo and disgusting. However, anything outside of that environmental pull, its an anything goes. Life is unpredicatable, and a series of events canr esult in someone liking someone they normally wouldnt like. People are fickle too, and thoughts that they cant understand come often to mind.
For your example, I would say that that person is a very common person, one that is attracted to physical beauty, rather than the type of person. Those people tend to go for people that fit their sexual preerences, whether they are a good person or not. Which is why there are a lot of problems in marriage
I wouldnt quite say thats love, because I consider love to be something more untouchabel, but thats all a matter of opinion so thats not important
I would say that you wouldn never throw away this idea because...there will never be enough proof to counteract it. Love at first sight is bullshit, because you can't just fall in love awhen seeing them the first time, thats obviously a physical attraction, because how do you know how they are really like? You know nothing about them except that they are good looking, so its impossible for it to be a non-physical attraction.
Love is not genderless formless or unconditional. Its all shaped by how you've grown up, and how you as a person think. Its controlled by factors from the start.
I guess the way you catalogue love is asimilar to the way I catalogue liking, which is why my whole thing is going to be rather confusing, not to mention that I suck at trebuttals, but liking doesnt always mean romance, like you said. People can like their jobs. I like playing as a goalkeeper. Some people like money, others like sports, what are those things going to be called?
Like I said, attraction to someone really is shaped by how you've grown up. Sexual preference and lust all stems from that original factor, your childhood, thats wehere everything is developed
Marriage in this generation is indeed short, and I owuld agree with some of your points, like the divorce thing, which does indeedgive people a feeling of if it goes bad i can always back out. But it also has to do with today's generation. Kids these days all want to be quick, no patience, they have no respect for their body or anyone elses, they are addited to pleasure, and they are naive and dont listen to their parents and elders, who rightly say that their supposed love is not really love. Kids of the generations now, tend to want to do everything as quickly as possible, and they dont respect their elders, and they think they are always right, thye have a very worrisome conceited streak in them, not willing to listen to another's opinon, quick to fight and such. Because of this, they think that they have fallen in love when it is nothing but a kids crush, and they end up getting married, and that crush falls apart as all crushes do, and they end up being divorced. not to mention that marriage has lost its value, as something eternal that you should sstick with forever.
Family love...thats a very debatble topic. Yes, people do put barriers, one again, the environmental factors, they[ve grown up in an atmosphere in which incest is heavily looked down upon, then they will kee themselves from loving their families. Also, family can be a loose word. Family means that you consider them as members of your group, your most closely knit group, a group of people that you feel so close with that you want to be in a relationship that is supposed to be the highest realm of closeness, being a family. Friends can be considered family members. If one has been abandoned by their family, but picked up by someone else, obviously, they are going to grow up considering the person who raised them as their family, and their biological family as crap. Family is all about the actions that take place and the amount of esteem people have for another, not about bilogical relationships or bloodlines.
I would agre concerning the Friendhsip love, but I would also say that people dont like to change much, and are afraid of the future,and sometimes they dont like taking the next step, they like staying where it was always the same, where friends were friends and nothing more. However, there is alos the trust and time factor. Even if you have married someone, the friend whom you knew longer and trust quite a lot, can sometimes be your pillar of strenght when your wife or hubby just ownt cut it.
Why not touch on children love? the love that parents feel for their child can be very confusing sometimes. There is also a mental illness factor to be considered.Being a lolicon myself, I dont insult people that like children,but I know its wrong, especially because children are generally not developed enough to truly understand love yet, and relationships and such. Any romance should wait until they are mature enough to understand their decisions and choose wisely.
Concerning respect, I would say that what yo said are some forms of respect
However, I would say that respect is when you respect them for something that you really admire thae fact that they have. Of course, the basic respect is a given. Everyone should be considered a default same, and then when one distinguished themselves, then a higher level of respect should start to be given.
Respect really has nothing to do with love though. Respect is a lesser level of emotion. And like you said, one can treat someone like dirt and still love them. You can love your mentally retarded kid, but of course, you have nothing to respect about them. Respect is quite different from love


Basically, I agree with most of your points, with a few exceptions from here to there. Additionally, you must forgive some of the stupid stuff I coouldnt help putting and the grammer because while I am writing, this damn Reply things is getting annoying. I guess it really hates it when you write long things. Ic ant write a single thing without it bursting to the top everytime I give it like a second of rest. Dammit.