Ayulsa City - Ieeya
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Cinia Pacifica
Ojou-sama Writer
mibuchiha wrote...
Psh, timezones and distance trolling me.I helped Luvy wait for you wait for you. ;P
Though she'd be fine anyway.
Semesters are real chat-killers, eh?
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mibuchiha
Fakku Elder
[i]I looked in the sky and there
I saw a star shining so bright above
I closed my eyes and wished upon that star
that I would find true love
Someone who needed me
Someone to share my life
For a love that would be true
I would wait forever
So...no...matter how long it may be I will be waiting
One star - brighter than the others
Two Hearts - beating for each other
I believe wishes really come true
Love at first sight I knew it from the moment
when you said hello
I hoped you felt it too,
but we were both so shy - how was I to know
when you reached for my hand
I knew you were the one
We laughed and talked for hours like
I`d known you forever
Like...a...dream or something from a book
True love has found me
One star - brighter than the others
Two hearts - beating for each other
Now I see wishes really come true
You just have to dream
Nothing`s as bad as it seems to be...
believe me
Someone`s waiting for you to try
There in the sky
One Star - brighter than the others
Two Hearts - beating for each other
You will see wishes really come true
You can`t stop believing - wishes do come true
You gotta believe me
wishes do come true...
I saw a star shining so bright above
I closed my eyes and wished upon that star
that I would find true love
Someone who needed me
Someone to share my life
For a love that would be true
I would wait forever
So...no...matter how long it may be I will be waiting
One star - brighter than the others
Two Hearts - beating for each other
I believe wishes really come true
Love at first sight I knew it from the moment
when you said hello
I hoped you felt it too,
but we were both so shy - how was I to know
when you reached for my hand
I knew you were the one
We laughed and talked for hours like
I`d known you forever
Like...a...dream or something from a book
True love has found me
One star - brighter than the others
Two hearts - beating for each other
Now I see wishes really come true
You just have to dream
Nothing`s as bad as it seems to be...
believe me
Someone`s waiting for you to try
There in the sky
One Star - brighter than the others
Two Hearts - beating for each other
You will see wishes really come true
You can`t stop believing - wishes do come true
You gotta believe me
wishes do come true...
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Cinia Pacifica
Ojou-sama Writer
D'awww... such a nice poem. Yet somehow giving the vibes of depression.
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mibuchiha wrote...
[i]One star - brighter than the othersTwo Hearts - beating for each other
I'll be borrowing this if you don't mind. Such a wonderful line.
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mibuchiha
Fakku Elder
@aspyon: go ahead, someone else showed that to me to begin with. and I too was totally in love with it.
@shane: haha
love will always involve some measure of trust. not just trusting the partner, but also trusting him enough to expect him to trust you, and answer the trust accordingly. that's why honesty and openness (and the strength to accept that openness) are very important, because they open the way to that trust.
sometimes we close ourselves up out of fear that we'd hurt the people we care for the most. but we don't know, our act of closing up hurts the partner more than anything...
how contradictory.
@shane: haha
love will always involve some measure of trust. not just trusting the partner, but also trusting him enough to expect him to trust you, and answer the trust accordingly. that's why honesty and openness (and the strength to accept that openness) are very important, because they open the way to that trust.
sometimes we close ourselves up out of fear that we'd hurt the people we care for the most. but we don't know, our act of closing up hurts the partner more than anything...
how contradictory.
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Asphodel wrote...
mibuchiha wrote...
[i]One star - brighter than the othersTwo Hearts - beating for each other
I'll be borrowing this if you don't mind. Such a wonderful line.
Time to make alterations to this.
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Neoro~n
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mibuchiha wrote...
love will always involve some measure of trust. not just trusting the partner, but also trusting him enough to expect him to trust you, and answer the trust accordingly. that's why honesty and openness (and the strength to accept that openness) are very important, because they open the way to that trust.
sometimes we close ourselves up out of fear that we'd hurt the people we care for the most. but we don't know, our act of closing up hurts the partner more than anything...
how contradictory.
You don't really understand how it goes do you? Especially this part. Correct me if I'm wrong lol. I want to see your point of view before I assess anything.
sometimes we close ourselves up out of fear that we'd hurt the people we care for the most. but we don't know, our act of closing up hurts the partner more than anything...
Oh well.
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mibuchiha
Fakku Elder
Neoro~n wrote...
You don't really understand how it goes do you? Especially this part. Correct me if I'm wrong lol. I want to see your point of view before I assess anything.Yeah, I might really not understand it. But the way I see it... basically yeah, that. If you really love someone, Wil, would you put her in a catch-22 situation? There's a mess (yours) that needs sorting. She pointed it out because she cared. And she's more than willing to help you through it, with all of her abilities. (admittedly it won't amount to much, let's be realistic. since it is your problem, you can't do nothing and it will get solved magically) So would you really close yourself up to her, out of fear that you might not be able to solve it afterall? Giving up everything you had together etc? It's a catch-22 since the trust is ultimately up to you. she can't do anything about it. One way out is to let you go, and that's just... well she loves you! The other way is to make you trust her, and mind control isn't part of a human skill. I doubt she would want that too, for love needs to be real.
The only happy end in this is by you actually mustering the courage and believe in what you both have together. Else it'll be just a future of pain for her, and for you too if you really love her. She'd be filled with so much regret for pointing out the problem, when in fact she only did so because she cared so much.
You closing up to her and refusing to believe leads to a lot of pain for her and she regretting that she cared for you, that she believed in you. If she didn't, the relationship between you two would continue on as usual, the happy path, the fair weather friend style. Continue based on the not-so-much care.
Yeah, I guess I really don't understand your point.
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Neoro~n
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I've been through that. I was once the type who take on everything alone, I didn't want share my burden with anyone in fear of troubling them, exactly what you mentioned, but in the end, it just troubled them even more and a great friend of mine made me promise to talk if it gets too much, hence why I kinda talk about my problems to those that I really trust while still leaving out the full details.
Ultimately, this isn't a matter of trust but of who you want to talk to and how much you want to share to that person. Yes, you might be the most treasured person to her but still, it doesn't give her the obligation to tell you everything and it doesn't give you any rights to force her to talk about it and you shouldn't even feel like your trust is being put into trial by it. Being bothered is a normal and natural feeling since you're worried about her.
The thing you could do in this kind of situation is to show her you'll wait for her, show her that you're on the same ground, on the same level as her, that you're always right next to her and not someone's pushing her back so she'll reach you, the you who is a thousand steps in front of her. Like I told you, everyone's not the same. Perception of limits are different to each person, the time it'll take will be different.
The fear of making the other worry too much, the fear of making the other one putting us way too much before everything worries us more than our own problems themselves, so we choose to close ourself up so they can focus on their own wellbeing, but in the end, both options, if they truly care, will make them worry about us. Again, the level of worry will vary.
What you have to see in that quote of yours is, all in all :
- Leave some them some space, let them come to you when they have calmed down
- Respect their choices and don't take it personally, don't rush them and wait for them. I know it's hard since I know you're a paranoid person, I am too, but it's best if you leave it aside and trust.
- Everyone has their special person for each kind of case. I'll be honest with you right here, there are many things that I share with other people that I don't share with you and things I share with you that others don't get to know. You should understand that don't you? Things that can't be spoken to certain people until you're ready.
- Empathy. Understanding. Understanding oneself and understanding third party people doesn't necessarily mean that you understand the person right in front of you. Each person is different. Certain rules will apply, but some tangent will apply to those very rules.
I might have missed some points, but that's pretty much it.
Although, I have failed to see some of the points myself lately and I kind of feel bad.
Ultimately, this isn't a matter of trust but of who you want to talk to and how much you want to share to that person. Yes, you might be the most treasured person to her but still, it doesn't give her the obligation to tell you everything and it doesn't give you any rights to force her to talk about it and you shouldn't even feel like your trust is being put into trial by it. Being bothered is a normal and natural feeling since you're worried about her.
The thing you could do in this kind of situation is to show her you'll wait for her, show her that you're on the same ground, on the same level as her, that you're always right next to her and not someone's pushing her back so she'll reach you, the you who is a thousand steps in front of her. Like I told you, everyone's not the same. Perception of limits are different to each person, the time it'll take will be different.
The fear of making the other worry too much, the fear of making the other one putting us way too much before everything worries us more than our own problems themselves, so we choose to close ourself up so they can focus on their own wellbeing, but in the end, both options, if they truly care, will make them worry about us. Again, the level of worry will vary.
What you have to see in that quote of yours is, all in all :
- Leave some them some space, let them come to you when they have calmed down
- Respect their choices and don't take it personally, don't rush them and wait for them. I know it's hard since I know you're a paranoid person, I am too, but it's best if you leave it aside and trust.
- Everyone has their special person for each kind of case. I'll be honest with you right here, there are many things that I share with other people that I don't share with you and things I share with you that others don't get to know. You should understand that don't you? Things that can't be spoken to certain people until you're ready.
- Empathy. Understanding. Understanding oneself and understanding third party people doesn't necessarily mean that you understand the person right in front of you. Each person is different. Certain rules will apply, but some tangent will apply to those very rules.
I might have missed some points, but that's pretty much it.
Although, I have failed to see some of the points myself lately and I kind of feel bad.