1 day girlfriend

So the other day she agreed to get in a 'trial' relationship with me,and the next day we broke up,and the reason was because she 'couldn't be herself around me,and started acting a little weird'.

And I was wondering what does she mean by that? Well the conclusion I came up with myself was she doesn't like me enough,it's just some pity love... I really can't bring myself to continue pursuing, I don't like girls that could just come and go like that...

Any thoughts?

I agree on this part.

Tho maby shes just shy and whole idea of relationship creates some stress on her part. Well its you who knows her so you should know best what you want.

lol wat.

Best not to pursue people like that.

She probably felt anxious since it was a "test".

If it was her first "relationship" too then than just added to the anxiousness.

Don't beat yourself up over it. You're probably not that ugly.

That's how I tried to tell myself too,but it sure as hell didn't work,if she's just anxious she would just came straight out and told me right..?

The way she put it is like hate me all you want but I really don't want this to continue..

THe most confusing thing is why'd she even agree to a 'trial' if she didnt felt anything for me at all..




I can't say I really 'know' her.. So I'm confused myself too..

It was a 1month trial thing... but then it turned out... yeah...

Why'd you want a trial anyways?

If I was in a trial relationship I would have been like "meh"
It's going to end anyways, I might not as well get too involved in it.
I'd feel pretty weird because I wouldn't know what to do in a "trial" anyways.

So maybe that's why she ended it.

Isn't it obvious? Coz I like her..
You're right though.. She shouldve just shut me down with a no instead of giving me some hope.

You know how much I put in waiting for her yes or no.. and how much figuring out what to do within this month to impress her..

Maybe it only works when both sides share a mutual feeling... Which I never tried..P/S I'm pretty confident about my looks so.. I dunno.

Problem is.. it's not so easy to come by,you know? The feeling when you know that girl is the one.. This is the 1st time for me since like,3 or 4 years ago.

Mate, if you wanted to impress her then you should have done that first before "convincing" her into going into a "trial" relationship with you.

You don't get into a relationship THEN start liking someone.

I'm not the one requested the 'trial' man, I confessed when I felt the time was right,after doing the 'impressing'..

And she said the 'liking you' is there but there's just no spark.

Sounds like she has some growing up to do. Either that or she just didn't like you in the way she thought she did.

What you can do is man up, learn from it and move on.

Any amount of time trial thing for relationships is kind of dumb if you put it that way..
There's this thing called DATING, where you take someone on a date, and get to know them better.. you can't just jump into a relationship whether a trial or not, it's the worst idea I've ever heard of.

If you like someone, you ask them on a date, and be a man, and set up a nice date, and then you do your best to be yourself, and then see how things go, if it goes well and she likes you, maybe set up another date, different place and event next time, and see how that goes, if it ends well you could always give her a small kiss and see how that goes or leave it at that. Then after that if you can tell if she likes you or not, maybe talk it out a little, or ask her to go out with you, or you could do the safe thing, and keep dating for a few weeks.. if it goes sour well you were only dating anyways, if it goes well, than wooo you just got yourself a girl. Make sure you keep communication, that's usually the reason things fall apart, because there is no communication and it's all awkward and silent lol.

Honestly to me, if any guy had ever asked me to have a trial relationship with them, I'd probably tell them they were stupid. Relationships aren't things you can test run.

If you like someone you date them for a bit, you don't trial run them.

Not pursuing is probably a really good call.

Honestly, I find the concept of a "trial relationship" baffling. I mean, either you're dating or you're not dating. A "trial relationship" seems to me like an arbitrary contrivance someone puts in place because they want the luxury of being able to cut it off at any point without feeling bad about it.

It's the type of thing I'd stay away from.

If I was in her position, my (her) thoughts would be that I'm really into you, so much that I get nervous about it and I'm so shy around guys I actually like. If I didn't actually like the guy, I would never do a trial date thing with him unless I feel intrigued by his looks only, but then I wouldn't get as nervous since I wasn't that into him. So I'd say in my opinion (and only mine, since I think quite weirdly for a person) she's so into you that she's so shy she can't take it and would rather not have a relationship than ruin the one you already have even though you go separate ways. But this is just my thoughts.

It means she's just not that into you.

Did you forget to pay the subscription fee? (Yeah that was bad. Sorry.)

Okay joking aside, a trial period is kind of sketch isn't it? To me that's sort of saying she wasn't committed in the first place. You seem like you're looking for a serious long term relationship. Judging from your brief description of her, seems like she's probably not in the market for that right now.

Or perhaps you two just don't click that way. Tough luck. Brush it off and move on.

Also, you should really try to get to know this person better. More often than not, the person you see as a friend is a completely different person you see as a significant other. If you can't bring yourself to pursue her any further, than don't. A mistake that happens is that a person will make it all about the other party, and sure that's cool and all but you gotta remember that it takes two to tango and if you completely neglect your own feelings then you're worse off than when you started.