A question for you ladies...

Is it true that you prefer the "bad boy" type when it comes to sex? I mean the arrogant jerks who do stupid things and don't give a shit to anyone? Or is it only if you're looking for a short term relationship?

Definitely. A bad boy's rougher, I like rougher men.

o3o
Nonono... I don't really know, I'd guess for the short term, but a nice guy gets boring if he's... y'know, too nice.

There's a lot of reasons why girls go for the bad boy behavior and I want to say this up front before I even get into it: I 100% am not attracted to the bad boy attitude. I'd rather watch their eyeballs bleed then spend time with them.

There's a lot of what I call personality disorders girls have that just crave for the bay boy behavior, but I'm only going to name a few off the top of my head.

Someone to change. Many girls have this delusional idea that they can change people and make them into better people. That's why a lot of marriages fail too. Thinking it'll get better, until they wake up and realize they're only legally bonded now and stuck with each other unless they get divorced.

Something to complain about. I'm not kidding either, and girls do this subconsciously. Lots of girls love shit to talk about, and a lot of girls love attention, even if it's the wrong kind of attention - and what better kind of attention is pity and a male hate fest from all her female friends?

Easy to get in a relationship with. I have a friend who is this and the one above. She'll even admit that the only reason she's dating X is because there are more jerks readily available than nice guys. She's said she'd rather be in any type of relationship than not in one at all, because to her she's not worth anything if she's not in a relationship. Which leads me to

Low self confidence. Girls may think they don't deserve anybody better.

Now, before I get every girl on my case about not all girls have those issues and that there are others, there are some attributes jerks have that women like for legitimate reasons.

High self esteem. When a person takes care of themselves and cares about themselves they automatically just seem more appealing. Which also ends up making it so they're normally more attractive. If you're attractive then you'll obviously like yourself and the cycle continues. Personally I find it disgusting when a person is so full of themselves they'd date their self if they could.

Sex. High self esteem is the root of this, a good self esteem makes for good sex.



So why can't nice guys have high self esteem without going overboard? If you're one of those guys who feel like no matter what you do you're always on 'let's be friends list' - take a look at your self esteem and look at where you're at in life.

Keep in mind there's a lot of attributes that the jerks may have that I didn't include, because most of those are which can easily be found in the 'nice guys.'

"I like bad boys because they're funny! I like them because they go out and do things fun!" Okay, okay. But I'll lump all that into self esteem.

Self esteem is just the water that makes everything else grow, so start watering if you lack it. Look in the mirror and find things you like, and what personality qualities you like about yourself. Then take it from there

Well, time to get crackin'. o3o

Let me ask you then.


And you have your answer.

Well said, Kuro.

Bad boys are just not my cuppa tea. Sweet, passionate and sensitive lovemaking comes from having an attentive and sweet partner. The knowledge that he does everything in his power to please me as I please him, heightens my own arousal when it comes down to it. I like funny, sensible men that exude confidence because they are comfortable in their own skin. It is a boon to have a such a guy.

Yeah thats pretty much the reasons why my sister married her current ass of a husband.- -;;
Violent,disrespectful,arrogant and irresponsible



AWWWWWW SO CUTE.Sounds abit like me if i do say so myself hehehe

Well then I fail at life.

@ Gugu: When I say bad boys, I'm really referring to guys that will hurt their girls physically. Assholes that gravitate to saying mean things about you, slapping you, emotional blackmail kinda thing, Gugu. Fuckers like that are in no way cool. I know this firsthand.

@ Argentine: ^^ Glad to know there are still sweet-natured guys out there like you.

Lawlz.
What about the guys that don't have confidence but are nice anyway?
*coughmecough* olol what was that?

They are endearing and appealing in their own ways and there are girls who are attracted to that quality.

Of course not. Like Ziggy said: there are reasons for some to like them, but I am really not like that. Sure, I've dated people like that before and also had sex with them, but I just wanted to have the experience. They were easy to reach, basically.

But I limited myself to otaku's now. =P

I notice a recurring theme, confidence. i guess it does take a certain amount of confidence to ba an asshole. cruel irony, when i am interested in a woman, i get a little nervous/anxious, and my confidence goes right out the window.

since i'm normaly a nice guy, as an experiment i tried being a major dick with two different women that i had no intrest in. one was stuck up and cruel to people she thought were beneath her, and the other was under age and lied to me about it. i think it was easier to be a jerk because i wasn't attracted to them. i did things like ignore them when they talk to me, walk ahead of them in public, flirt with other women in front of them, and just generaly being rude to them. both were all over me. one actualy pushed me down and tried to take my pants off. to protect the integrity of the experiment, i didn't do anything sexual with either.

Yeah, but I'm pretty sure that's more because they were afraid of losing you to someone else, more than because you were such a badass.

Maybe it was a combination of both.

Quick version; He changes. He becomes an "ass". He is now viewed as confident. This new confidence interests them. In turn, they see things like him flirting with other women. In turn, they now see a confident male that needs to be taken ASAP. Comedy ensues.

My point is, is that a simple change, can really have an impact on someone. This would be a perfect example of how. However, I would never try it. I may be a bit sarcastic, and slightly egotistical, but still have a bit of a soft spot (People say I'm one of those 'few' tsundere males... I can see why looking on it...). One which I don't plan to get rid of for any reason. I very much like who I am. Anyways, just my opinion...