A relationship with a single mother...

Ok, here's how it is, I've been flirting with a co-worker that's nearly 20 years older than I (age is nothing but a number folks, as long as they aren't underage, you're good.) She told me she has "children" but they are adults now. Should a man that engages in a relationship have the obligation to take care of the single mother's children? Even if they're on their own?

This is my stepfather chris.. we went to high school together...

To take care, do you mean support them or like be a friend and protect them and occasionally buy them a beer?

I guess treat them like adults and be a pal.. since your banging their mom.. but don't be their father and give them money.

You don't have to take care of them. Just always check them up and build a nice relation with her children and you. Anyway, i also prefer older woman. I wish i can find someone who is around 10-15 years older than me. <3

i'm not sure what you want to hear from us since you say they can support themselves and you say you are just flirting, not like you are getting engaged tomorrow or something.

Very true, it's sorta playful and I don't know if she's serious or not but I would like to consider the possibility if it does come to that.

bang her daughters.

How far are you willing to partake in that role? What does she expect you to do? Are they out of the house, independent?

Personally, I'd say no, you have no obligation to be anything but polite and friendly to them.

bang her sons.

If you're just flirting, just treat them like you normally would. Be friendly. The same applies if you two are being serious.

o.O 20 years.

Then aren't the children like the same age as you?

first focus on the relationship that is building between the two of you, the 'children' are actually adults so just wait and see how they react, just be friendly for starters...

Flirting is just flirting. Often times, nothing comes out of it. Even if you end up having some fun together, it doesn't mean she'll want you to marry her. Just have fun and take things one step at a time.

I dont think so. Sounds more like youre playing with her, rather than actually protecting her.

The main question is. Are you really in love with her?

if not then get out of your current situation right away.

There's nothing wrong with being a motherlover.

I second that motion. ^^

I have a 15 year old, not quite out of the house. He is so busy w his own life, he really doesn't get involved in my relationship. He wants to like the guy I'm involved seriously with and that he is a good man. Older kids are busy living their own lives to be very fussy about their parents lives unless the new guy is a troublemaker or a complete douche.

to take care... no... but that doesn't mean that you can't take them out to eat every once in a while, or grab a beer... if your serious then you will most likely have the greatest sex of your life...

so what happened with you two?