Advice on orgasims and sex

I apolgize if this has already been done before,but I have some qouestions on how to give a girl a really nice memorable orgasim when having sex. Do you guys have any step by step instructions for sex,positioning and technique in order to make my first time enjoyable.

Every girl is different, and responds best to different things.

Step 1. Ask her what she likes. Fantasies as well as techniques/positions/acts.

Step 2. Google said techniques/acts. Believe it or not, there's a wealth of information, especially sex ed.

Thank you Lollikittie. Qouestion though,Is it true that when a woman has an orgasim the lower extreamities of the vagina warp around the penis and the toes curl back. Also how dose a guy last longer during sex? I know when I finally do it I will cum really quickly in the first 3 min or something like that,so do you or anyone else have any advice?

Stop worrying about it. The first time is going to be awkward no matter what. I think it is honorable that you're concerned about making her feel good, but nobody can really tell you what -all- women like. The best way to know is to ask her. Say: "I'm really worried that I'll finish quickly, but I want to make sure that you have the best time possible with me. I really care about your pleasure. What can I do to make sure that happens?"

As much as people brag about sex with tons of different partners, there is something to be said about being with one person over an extended period of time. You learn what they like, they learn what you like, and you get into a natural rhythm with one another that leads to mutual satisfaction (hopefully). However, the groundwork for this doesn't actually happen in the bedroom! It happens by having an honest, direct conversation with your partner. My boyfriend and I made it a routine to say what we liked and didn't like during every session. EX: "I LOVED it when you did X, but I was kind of meh about Y. What did you think about it?" or "How did I do when I did Z? Is there anything that you particularly liked or didn't like? Is there anything I could do differently?"

It's just going to take time. You will gain more endurance with more practice, and you'll learn how to make her feel amazing as time goes on. There isn't a specific trick. However, if you work yourself up over it then you're just going to put too much pressure on yourself. Trust me, no one expects their first time to be OMG THE BEST THING EVER, because it usually isn't. If you don't make her finish, don't feel bad! Making her feel like she HAS to orgasm for you in order to reinforce your ego is just going to make her less likely to orgasm at all. It's something that usually happens (for us females anyway) when there isn't a million things we're worried about. So, that usually takes trust, time, patience, and above all a non-judgmental partner who isn't searching for all those sure-fire signs that she *really* did finish when she said she did. If she does, she does. If she doesn't, she doesn't. Talk it out.

Best of luck.

If you really, really like [perhaps even love] this girl, there's a significant chance your stamina will be shit. Sex is awesome. Sex with someone you really feel for, is even awesome-r. Chances are, you'll either blow in a few seconds, or try to stay longer and blow in a few minutes despite your best efforts. It's not something to be ashamed of, it happens to literally everyone. Since this is your first time, focus on your connection with the other person. If you cum and she doesn't, make sure she does too. Make sure she's satisfied, and you are too. Enjoy each other.

While it's true that overthinking it and focusing so hard makes you last longer, it also decreases your pleasure. Your first time is something you need to really enjoy. You don't want to look back on it as a 'meh' experience because you were too focused on being perfect. Perfect is an illusion. Take this moment and run with it.

penetrate her in a position where she has enough room to play with her clit. let her do her thing, just dont cum until she does! that's the simplest way really

if it must be asked ... fine

lie down on your back, let her ride you from the top, there she gets full control and space and you actually do almost nothing there. or meet her hard as you grab her by the waist?

or

from the back, hold/pull her by the thigh for harder penetration. dont forget to spank

or

on her back, spread her as much as you can, lean back as you do her and grab her legs, by the ankles, so she can relax. alternative is press in her thigh near the knee joint and make an L shape with her legs pointing up, that can be fun.

theres a ton more really but this is getting too graphic now I think

Just throwing this out there, but orgasm has no i in it.

She's right, in all honesty you won't last long, but first times are always awkward, clumsy, nervous, and generally weird, but that's what makes it so memorable. I misplaced my virginity with a mistake of mine and I remember it being memorable because it was unremarkable. I didn't have the typical awkward first time because I really didn't care at the moment. It's something special and it's awkward nature make it great. It isn't supposed to be good, it's special, but not necessarily good. Follow her advice, if and when you should happen to finish first, finish what you started with her. Just a tidbit of knowledge by the way, if you do cum first (which is very likely) your fingers probably won't be broken. I've learned that humans with our dexterous fingers are very well equipped to explore with them. Use that to your advantage, learn her body the knowledge is literally at your fingertips. The lingual muscle (tongue) isn't as dexterous as the fingers so for primary exploration I recommend making use of your hand's, shall we say, maneuverability.

the fun of sex is more so in that you're doing it with someone you like, less that you're getting off. don't stress too much about it! you're not trying to impress anyone, you're sharing something special and intimate with someone you really like! ❤

and since I haven't seen anyone mention it yet, remember, foreplay! foreplay is super important! much more important than how specifically you're goin' about having sex. remember that! foreplay!

and insofar as lasting a long time in bed.. I wouldn't know much about it? but I guess just practice? but be careful not to lose your erection while having sex, that'd be awkward?

I don't have anything to say but yeah orgasims.. orgasIms... that's just funny.

If you're that worried about her not hitting orgasm; get her close to the point with foreplay, and then enter. Might help? But yeah, it all depends. You may go really quickly, you may not. I somehow managed to last a lot longer than I expected... I think somebody said the nerves help to make you go for longer, or something.
As for what happens to her during orgasm; pre-sure it varies from girl to girl

Thanks for the advice