Age Difference Between Partners/Couples
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What is your acceptable upper & lower age limit for a serious relationship? For a sex partner?
A woman who is substantially younger than me has made it very clear she wants to start a relationship with me. As in, I'm older than her parents. I'm well aware of the pitfalls of such a large age difference. But also that the heart has a will of its own. So this topic has been on my mind for a bit now.
A woman who is substantially younger than me has made it very clear she wants to start a relationship with me. As in, I'm older than her parents. I'm well aware of the pitfalls of such a large age difference. But also that the heart has a will of its own. So this topic has been on my mind for a bit now.
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I'm 22. I refuse to date anyone under the age of 21, and I'll only date up to five years older.
You two are in completely different stages in your lives, and grew up in completely different time periods. Your interests, your viewpoints, etc, are all bound to be extremely different. Not only that, but the fact that a girl her age would even be interested in someone your age is indicative of a whole slew of emotional problems that go back to her childhood - most likely a broken relationship with her father OR she's merely interested in the financial stability that you most likely will be able to provide for her. Don't be an idiot. Think with your head, not with your cock. This isn't a good idea.
You two are in completely different stages in your lives, and grew up in completely different time periods. Your interests, your viewpoints, etc, are all bound to be extremely different. Not only that, but the fact that a girl her age would even be interested in someone your age is indicative of a whole slew of emotional problems that go back to her childhood - most likely a broken relationship with her father OR she's merely interested in the financial stability that you most likely will be able to provide for her. Don't be an idiot. Think with your head, not with your cock. This isn't a good idea.
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HappyDia01 wrote...
I'm 22. I refuse to date anyone under the age of 21, and I'll only date up to five years older. You two are in completely different stages in your lives, and grew up in completely different time periods. Your interests, your viewpoints, etc, are all bound to be extremely different. Not only that, but the fact that a girl her age would even be interested in someone your age is indicative of a whole slew of emotional problems that go back to her childhood - most likely a broken relationship with her father OR she's merely interested in the financial stability that you most likely will be able to provide for her. Don't be an idiot. Think with your head, not with your cock. This isn't a good idea.
I *am* thinking with my head and not with my cock. Nothing has been committed to yet.
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Archon1995 wrote...
I *am* thinking with my head and not with my cock. Nothing has been committed to yet.
And nothing should. You're old enough to be her father. That's disgusting. This topic doesn't deserve a second thought.
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personally i find a "5 year" gap acceptable being 2 years younger/older and the one being the same age,there is some problems if your old enough to be her father/or something who is close to 2x my age (im 21 not that thats relevant)
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Just curious, how old are you two? That might matter quite some, if you ask me.
But generally, I wouldn't want to date, or even do anyone, significantly older or younger than I was. We'd start to have differences like parents and offspring. Fuck that generation gap.
But generally, I wouldn't want to date, or even do anyone, significantly older or younger than I was. We'd start to have differences like parents and offspring. Fuck that generation gap.
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I really don't see the problem in age differences. If both parts are up for it then there really is no reason not to have a relationship other than social stigma, if you care about that sort of thing.
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Hmmm i dont see any problem whit big age difference, but then again my parents got 22 years difference and they are happily married for over 25 years.
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Age differences aren't exactly the biggest problem in a relationship, but generally I think that a 6-year difference is fine, but up to 8 would be really pushing it. Of course, the closer to one's actual age, the better off you tend to be. For some reason.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
My personal preference is 4 years younger, 4 years older.
Though there is a stigma when it becomes a decade older/younger.
Though there is a stigma when it becomes a decade older/younger.
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artcellrox wrote...
Just curious, how old are you two? That might matter quite some, if you ask me.49 and 23. We were acquainted with each other through a LARP club since 2010, but lived on opposite coasts until last fall when I moved for work reasons. The local members were a ready-made social circle here, and she was part of it.
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You're both adults honestly, so do what you guys want.
However, going off on what I've seen in other similar situations, I don't see it boding well.
But the decision is ultimately between the two of you.
However, going off on what I've seen in other similar situations, I don't see it boding well.
But the decision is ultimately between the two of you.
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If she's willing (and you said she was), then go for it!! You're acting like she's underage or something.
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Flashbacks of Kodomo no Jikan are running through my mind.
For age, I usually do a 7 year plus/minus guideline unless they are so hot that the concept of math is melted from your mind.
For age, I usually do a 7 year plus/minus guideline unless they are so hot that the concept of math is melted from your mind.
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I seem to have given the wrong impression, I wasn't looking for advice on my personal situation. I was more interested in opening the topic for discussion in general. I do see where I didn't need to share as much info as I did in providing context, and I apologize for that.
No, I'm not. If she were underage the chance of a relationship would be ZERO.
cheengala wrote...
You're acting like she's underage or something.No, I'm not. If she were underage the chance of a relationship would be ZERO.
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For me age doesn't matter so long as you both mutually love each other.
I accept up to 6 years older than me or 1 year younger than me.
6 years because my parents have a 6 years age different.
1 year because my first love is 1 year younger than me.
I am fine up to 8 years gap, but 6 is my preferred.
I accept up to 6 years older than me or 1 year younger than me.
6 years because my parents have a 6 years age different.
1 year because my first love is 1 year younger than me.
I am fine up to 8 years gap, but 6 is my preferred.
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Archon1995 wrote...
I seem to have given the wrong impression, I wasn't looking for advice on my personal situation. I was more interested in opening the topic for discussion in general.No, I'm not. If she were underage the chance of a relationship would be ZERO.
Good to know. Anyway, you made it seem like she was younger than her 20s. You're focusing too much on age. 23 is young, but 49 is not that old. Wait till you're 60 to say that. If you feel attracted to her and she to you, then don't think too much on what other people would think of the age difference. Because you are both grown and consenting adults.
I personally don't care too much about age as long as I'm attracted to that person. I prefer guys older than me though, simply because most guys my age are just... >__> The youngest I'll date is 1 year younger but they have to be extremely mature and taller than me.
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I don't think age really matters at a certain point, granted both parties are legal and willing.
What it really comes down to is if you're wanting a relationship with her.
There will be people who look down on you if you do persue her but you should do what makes you happy.
What it really comes down to is if you're wanting a relationship with her.
There will be people who look down on you if you do persue her but you should do what makes you happy.
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Well, legally there are issues with age differences. In my personal experience when I was 22, I was involved with a nice girl. She was fun and mature and we had a great time together, but what caught my attention is that she wanted sex almost off the bat once our relationship started. Besides my first impulse, I decided to wait because something just didn't feel right; I had to shake the funk I felt before.
Best decision of my life.
About a month after being in a relationship I was approached by an older man who claimed to be her father. He had discovered my contact information and confronted her about it. He made it very clear that he would pursue charges if I didn't terminate the relationship immediately, seeing as to how she was only 16. Needless to say I was shocked, since she looked much older than she was and also attended classes in my college (fake of course, you could walk in at any time since no roll-call). I agreed, explained my side and broke up with her. Quite the little liar really.
Anyway, I don't think age is a factor into love and relationships, but too young for a certain age will draw bad stares and sometimes big trouble.
Best decision of my life.
About a month after being in a relationship I was approached by an older man who claimed to be her father. He had discovered my contact information and confronted her about it. He made it very clear that he would pursue charges if I didn't terminate the relationship immediately, seeing as to how she was only 16. Needless to say I was shocked, since she looked much older than she was and also attended classes in my college (fake of course, you could walk in at any time since no roll-call). I agreed, explained my side and broke up with her. Quite the little liar really.
Anyway, I don't think age is a factor into love and relationships, but too young for a certain age will draw bad stares and sometimes big trouble.
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luinthoron
High Priest of Loli
My mother's parents were apparently 16 years apart, so I can't really judge anyone. Whatever works for the couple involved.