Am I the wrong one here
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This is probably going to be pretty long so
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So I recently moved into a new room since I was in supplementary housing at my school, and I have a new roommate who I have been trying to get along with. However, there have been a few problems since I moved in. the first problem is a smell that lingers in the room, at first I thought it was garbage so I tried taking the garbage out more often but the smell still remained. So I thought it was something that it was food that spoiled or something so I cleaned up the room. The smell still didn't leave; however, one day I walked in the room as he was undressing to take a shower and I noticed the smell was coming from him. At first I decided not to jump to conclusions and had a few of my friends come over to the room to check and they spent an hour in there and agreed with my conclusion that he was the source of the smell.
Now here lies the problem I decided to tell him about it since I didn't know what other people where saying about it, and the first thing he does when I tell him is punch me. He missed however, he then said, "What kind of bullshit you spoutin nigga you the only one that stinks in this room." Instead of fighting him I left the room immediately because if I were to fight back I knew I would get kicked out of the school. Ever since then I've had a few girls who know him and who I thought were friends with me start avoiding me, and a few people in my classes have started talking about me behind my back. Well that's the current situation [spoil]
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So I recently moved into a new room since I was in supplementary housing at my school, and I have a new roommate who I have been trying to get along with. However, there have been a few problems since I moved in. the first problem is a smell that lingers in the room, at first I thought it was garbage so I tried taking the garbage out more often but the smell still remained. So I thought it was something that it was food that spoiled or something so I cleaned up the room. The smell still didn't leave; however, one day I walked in the room as he was undressing to take a shower and I noticed the smell was coming from him. At first I decided not to jump to conclusions and had a few of my friends come over to the room to check and they spent an hour in there and agreed with my conclusion that he was the source of the smell.
Now here lies the problem I decided to tell him about it since I didn't know what other people where saying about it, and the first thing he does when I tell him is punch me. He missed however, he then said, "What kind of bullshit you spoutin nigga you the only one that stinks in this room." Instead of fighting him I left the room immediately because if I were to fight back I knew I would get kicked out of the school. Ever since then I've had a few girls who know him and who I thought were friends with me start avoiding me, and a few people in my classes have started talking about me behind my back. Well that's the current situation [spoil]
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the fact that he flipped like that leads me to believe he does have a odor issue, but maybe it isnt hygiene issue, it might be a medical reason, i dont know how the situation went down maybe you could have been a little more sensitive in the way you approached him, at any rate its best that you go to the school board explain the situation and get a new room.
edit: what i would have done different.....body odor is a sensitive and embarassing issue, especially if you have a problem with it, i dont think i would have approaced dude at all i think i would have just gone to the school board to avoid embarrassing dude any further asked them to just quietly have me moved to another room.
edit: what i would have done different.....body odor is a sensitive and embarassing issue, especially if you have a problem with it, i dont think i would have approaced dude at all i think i would have just gone to the school board to avoid embarrassing dude any further asked them to just quietly have me moved to another room.
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I reported what happened to the RA and they reported the issue to the school board however they told me there is no rooms available on campus and since the dorms are part of a contract I would have to wait weeks for them to release me off the contract to get a new room
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lol you might just have to tough it out for a couple weeks, either that or ask around and see if you can stay with friends or if someone will switch rooms with you. I just wouldnt say much if anything at all to him and stay out the room and his way as much as possible, yall have no choice but to be neighbors for the next couple weeks adding daily fist fights on top of that will make it less tolerable than the smell.
but keep going back to the school board and let them know you are serious about switching rooms,i say go at least once a week just to check up and let them know you are serious.
Edit: if you wanna take it the extra mile apologize to dude even if you dont think you were totally wrong, then try to better explain the situation to him as adult and as calm as possible, you might even wanna ask if he has any friends willing to switch rooms at the very least it will get you back to a tolerable atmosphere as far as the tension.
but keep going back to the school board and let them know you are serious about switching rooms,i say go at least once a week just to check up and let them know you are serious.
Edit: if you wanna take it the extra mile apologize to dude even if you dont think you were totally wrong, then try to better explain the situation to him as adult and as calm as possible, you might even wanna ask if he has any friends willing to switch rooms at the very least it will get you back to a tolerable atmosphere as far as the tension.
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That's a good idea though I'm already staying at a friends place I'll try to talk to the board more often
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Man, what a shitty situation. Talking about being cought between a rock and a hard place. Good luck in resolving the smelly situation. Advice: buy a shitload of car air freshners and hang them all over the place as a constant visual reminder to the skunkman. Maybe he'll get the point!
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Well. On the bright side. Since he's attacked you and you reported it and all they did was stick their thumb up their ass... should he attack you while you wait, it's on them. Negligence on their part.
As for the BO issue. Just ask one of the people avoiding you what he's saying about you. one of them is bound to talk to you about it. It's probably something dumb.
As for the BO issue. Just ask one of the people avoiding you what he's saying about you. one of them is bound to talk to you about it. It's probably something dumb.
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
The fact he freaked and threw the punch means his ass be stinking. You should of just clocked him.. he threw the punch and if they get angry just deal. Anyways bitches aside. If he stinks then buy some air freshers until you or him leave. I have a stink too but i deal by washing, baby powder, and purging my body regularly.. i smell like farmer john's breakfast links sometimes.. i also drink a glass of cranberry juice and take a shower. Works fine for me.
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I will say this now I have used 5 different types of air freshener in the past month before spring break and the smell never went away I think it only got worse
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Lollikittie wrote...
That's the smell of butthurt, man.Couldn't have said it better, and that's all I've gotta say about that.
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Sprite wrote...
By the quote I'm assuming your roommate is a black man born in America with a dubious past.so close he's a black male who acts like he has a dubious past (I have friends who knew him in high school) From what they told me he was a little pussy back home so when he came to college he decided to spend all his parents money on clothes to make himself look cool
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Bossun wrote...
Sprite wrote...
By the quote I'm assuming your roommate is a black man born in America with a dubious past.so close he's a black male who acts like he has a dubious past (I have friends who knew him in high school) From what they told me he was a little pussy back home so when he came to college he decided to spend all his parents money on clothes to make himself look cool
So basically he punched you because you compromised his masculinity and pride.
It's all based on the usage of the word nigga.
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Sprite wrote...
Bossun wrote...
Sprite wrote...
By the quote I'm assuming your roommate is a black man born in America with a dubious past.so close he's a black male who acts like he has a dubious past (I have friends who knew him in high school) From what they told me he was a little pussy back home so when he came to college he decided to spend all his parents money on clothes to make himself look cool
So basically he punched you because you compromised his masculinity and pride.
It's all based on the usage of the word nigga.
pretty much
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
Sigh... I'm with whoever said it above, Talk to the people avoiding you, find out what he's saying... Tell them the truth (be calm, don't get defensive or whatever.. some people take defensive as lying) as for him. Try to talk to him, apologise for your rudeness the other day, and just ask if there is something he could do about his bo... kindly, if he hits you, go to the board, complain, get angry, get scared, cry, flip tables. if he doesn't punch you and actually tells you whats wrong, SUCCESS.
Odds of you needing to flip tables: 97%
Odds of you needing to flip tables: 97%