Anyone ever experienced chemistry?

Has anyone ever experienced chemistry? As in love at first sight? Or first encounter?

When I see hot girls, I just think they're hot, never anything else. Nothing special.
Sure, I might have long-term crushes, but never any just clicking right then and there.

Have any of you guys (or girls) met your "perfect one"? Is there such a thing, or is that just a product of imagination and Hollywood romance?


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To be honest, yes. I never did anything about it, though.

Nope I have never experienced chemistry.

i dont think that exists in the real world as much as we have all come to crave and expect it... ive felt attraction to somebody like that but it was purely physical. i mean how are you supposed to "click" if you dont even know what kind of clickables the other person has?? i think its all pheromones or whatever- bod feels

It's all on your personal view.
I mean it wasn't love at first site, but I definitely can feel the chemistry between my boyfriend and me.
To me chemistry isn't love at first site. Chemistry is being able to feel love without doing anything.. I mean, love isn't just about hugs, kisses, sex, and "I love you's" .. you've got to be comfortable, trusting, and caring.
I don't exactly know how to explain it well, but example for me is;

My boyfriend and I, can be sitting beside each other doing nothing, and then next thing you know we're poking each other, or joking around, next thing you know we're wrestling around, acting like fools, but are smiling and laughing our asses off for like an hour.. doing nothing but being silly. He makes me happy by just him being him, nothing special, it doesn't take fancy dates, and material possessions.

Being able to stay in the same room, but doing two different things, or cooking meals together.. small little things to me are what builds chemistry. It's not something that is JUST THERE, it's something you build together, between each other.

We built chemistry before we got together. We hung out just us, talking about nonsense, never bringing up our "relationship status".. just having fun, hanging out, being able to laugh with each other about dumb things that we've done that day or week. Going out for pizza and just walking home from work ^^ .

That's just how I feel about it ^^

Love at first sight does not exist.
It's just an attraction to the person due to physical attributes.

I agree 100%, you may fall for their looks instantly, but being in love has to do with feelings, not looks.

I fell in love at first sight twice and in both times I ended up heartbroken. It can happen and I consider them very dangerous

Love at first sight doesn't exist. Rather, lust at first sight DOES, and it can develop into something more meaningful over time. If you feel like you've fallen in love right away, it's probably more likely that you've fallen in love with your IDEA of the person rather then the person themselves. After all, you don't know them. Due to your lack of knowledge, you fill in the gaps with your hopes and expectations, even though it is likely they won't be met. Due to the fact that a lot of people never actually establish a relationship with those they supposedly fall in love with at first sight, they usually always carry their faulty impression along with them.



Nobody is perfect, nor is someone ever going to be the perfect person for you. It's too much to expect them to be. Rather, there are a lot of people out there in the world who might match up on a lot of the traits and/or qualities that you desire in a significant other. It is as you grow and face hardships together as a couple that someone slowly becomes your "one true love" - for lack of a better term. Saying that there must be someone perfect out there for you is a naive notion, I think... It implies that a relationship will be easy - if it's too difficult, they must not be the right one for you! - where-as even two people very well matched for one another will face a lot of difficulties even in an otherwise healthy relationship.

It's only natural that there will be hardships as two individuals begin to share their lives together. However, as long as you ALWAYS strive to communicate openly and honestly with one another, and treat one another with affection, love, and respect, then there is a good chance that with a mature, open-minded nature that you will one day come to find yourself very happy with someone regardless of whether or not you fell in love with them at first sight. That was a hell of a run-on, but hopefully you get what I mean!

My advice - stop holding onto unrealistic notions of what love should be or how it should come about, and simply approach others with integrity. You'll be a lot better off.

ha, fuck no
I don't understand when people say they love someone, I've never been in love or really liked anyone
I didn't like the girl I had sex with, I didn't like any of the girls I dated and I don't like any of the ones I talk to now...
I wonder if that's normal or if its just me

Not in a romantic sense. I remember that in the tenth grade I met this really cool girl. She was incredibly social and easy going with both the girls and the guys. She was also remarkably intelligent, she was one of those people who, for some reason, know everything from school subjects and chess to the noises the zombies make in COD.

Halfway through the year, my teacher moved around our places and I got next to her and, for some reason, it was as if we knew what the other was thinking and we talked about profound or ridiculous things with the feeling that the other had perfect understanding. I never liked her in a romantic way and I still don't but I think a lot about her when I feel nostalgic.

I completely agree. Love at first sight doesn't exist... but I think chemistry does. Chemistry being a combination of sexual attraction, hormonal interaction, and... maybe something mysterious. A draw. You can instantly want to fuck anybody - there are tons of hot people out there to check out. But sometimes, there can be a spark. Something that makes you wonder what could be. But as far as instant love, no. More like... an instant pondering of potential. I agree that you shouldn't 'idealize someone' - I've done that. It never ends well. I think it's more about feeling this instant 'I want to get to know this person, there's just something about them'



Right on point, Dia. In my opinion, that's what a 'one true love' is. I think... I think you can have chemistry with someone, and click really well from the get-go, which opens up that potential, that 'box' that is 'yet to be checked' until you've really gone through the ringer with them in terms of ups, downs, highs, lows, hardships, and generally just life in general, that you realize they're your one true love.

But it's never something that happens immediately. I mean, I personally feel that the term 'soulmate' doesn't mean 'instant perfection', and I agree 100% that real, true, forever love takes effort, fighting [as in FOR the relationship], and time to build a real companionship, but I feel like... everyone has a handful of people that can really fit what you want, but only one person that... despite all rationality, despite all the others, you can't help but love them, completely, and that's what a soulmate is.

I feel like it's a little more than just true compatibility - because many people can fit that. I think it's about... that little magnet in your heart that draws you to that one person. I'm not saying it's like codependence - that this person treats you like shit and you 'just can't help it', I'm talking about the real, true magnet. The idea of True North, when inside your deepest of deeps, that person feels like home.

You can have many 'compatible' significant others, but I feel like there's only one True North.

It's just you.

Yes, I have been in love before, and not that puppy love shit, I'm talking about completely head over heels, madly in love. but I've never experienced love at first sight.
I definitely know for a fact that true love does exist, but its never going to be perfect.

I have definitely experienced it once, well it was all me though.

She was a classmate of mine in 2nd year high, she just transferred. At first sight, I thought she was beautiful but as time passed, like 2 days or so, I discovered that she was an amazing artist, very amazing. When I saw her amazing art, suddenly my heart just pumped fast and I was not thinking clearly. It was so amazing, she was my inspiration why I started drawing till now *still sucky at it*. I definitely fell in love at her. Times passed, my love fell deeper as her art gradually never ceases to amaze me every time. I really wanted to be close with her, but she has this wall that I kept feeling around her that made me hard to show my feelings of love to her. Time passed (again), I had this feeling that she was avoiding me somehow and kept moving away as I wanted to be closer to her. Turns out, what I thought, she knew I liked her and she kept avoiding me so that she wanted me to be friends with her. I had this feeling that I must accept it and move on. (don't call me a coward, it's just my way of waiting for the right time)

Moving on to now, I don't know where she is and what's she doing now with her life. It hurts me to feel that she's not keeping in touch with her old friends, also with me. I haven't seen her since 1st year College, never seen her online in FB, no new posts. I am waiting for her return, and still hoping that she would contact her old friends....

When I first met my girlfriend, we hit it off and became friends pretty quickly. I guess the chemistry was there, and we've built on it to the point of being in love with eachother. It wasn't love at first sight per se, but I'm completely nuts for her now.

Alas I've yet to experience that. Online sure, but it's it's not the same.

Chemistry? Yes. That "love at first sight" bs, I really do not understand something like that. I can't really like anyone till I at least get an idea of their personality.
I think love isn't something that happens upon first sight and for some it's not easy to identify what love even is. That thing called "love" could be different for each individual so don't be quick to label those "butterflies in your stomach" as your feelings of undying love for that individual.

yes
with my ex
and i think she's the only one for me
but she's already leaving this world

it's absolute chemistry
but,i think chemistry is not what you get from first sight or anything
you get it after you know each other better
good or bad, sincere with each other
etc

this post make me sad