Concerns about your future partner

In this age where information are easily spread, knowledge easily gathered, exposure, and stimulation of sexual desire are near effortlessly easy to find - introduces the social phenomenon where sex isn't really as taboo and sacred as it is before the age of internet (quite possibly before 1990). After observing for 6 years in south eastern Asia and Japan, a question popped in my head and i would like to hear some input.

I born in a family that adhere religion as their value and abstinence is hard-coded into our genes maybe...that's why the idea of date, sex, dump, date, sex again seemed extremely immoral or just plain unthinkable. And if someone ask why I'm here? i like being here and don't stick your nose to someone's matter if you didn't asked for (no mean to offend you)

If you are looking for a partner, what level of sexual exposure would you like her to have prior to your relationship?

Please spent a minute to take the poll and gave a reply, your time and effort is greatly appreciated.

well im a bit of a moraless atheist so i may offend you cuase ya seem like a bible thumper to me, but anyway, it doesn't matter the level of exposure, it all depends on what you looking for, if you just want sex then you probaly want someone who knows the ropes, or if your looking for love then it doesn't really matter to much, or if you want to corrupt an inocent virgin, which is near impossible to find out of highschool nowadays. either way. sence im not looking for a relationship right now, infact im trying to end mine i dont have any concerns

I found it non-ofensive:-) i appreciate your input by the way, and no i'm not a Bible thumper - since my religion is quite the opposite one (hint: south-east Asia and middle east kind of religion). I believe no one have the right to force their opinion to others.

I appreciate your time, Trekki859. Hope we cross path again in this forum. :-)

Modest, simply because due to all the anime I can only fall for cute, quiet and shy girls of whom I know they are still sexually innocent.

Expect the same of them as you have had yourself.

Otherwise, you're being either sexist or (if your partner is your sex) setting your expectations higher than what you yourself have done.

"Expect the same of them as you have had yourself"

This maybe the answer to my/someone's curiousity

I'll keep that in mind, since i haven't had one yet. Still, thank you for your opinion.

Don't really care either way. I used to be very fervent that I wouldn't go out with a girl who wasn't a virgin, but that's just silly. Things sometimes happen in previous relationships, and it isn't right to base a relationship with someone based on what they have or haven't done in the past.

I still like the idea of dating virgins though because I'm one of those hopeless romantics that is attracted to the idea of us losing our virginties together, but I'm not going to be upset if that isn't the case.

[font=Verdana][color=green]Tbh, it doesn't matter either way. If they are the one for me, I'm not going not have a relationship with them if they haven't had sex.

But, that being said, if I take it to both extremes; virgin and whore, I'll pick the virgin every single time.

What about what women look for in guys?

There should be polling options for that. :)

I was sure that i didn't want no virgin for a wife, and i didn't marry one neither. Purity is overrated, has long she don't have no std's or she can said that she suck a mile of dicks.

normal, i would not mind...if she rly loves, and try to understand me, which is extremely difficult (once i was told that), am ok, dont have any particular reason for not loving her if she loves me too...but i rly doubt will find somebody...xD.

As long as she's the type who hasn't had an STD before or needs a yearly AIDS test, I'm fine.

I don't really care about history. as long as she is disease free and faithful now.

Well personally I don't care but virgins are very cute on there fist time but they don't do any kind of kinky stuff. So I can see there appeal but you would be hard pressed to find one in our current society.

due to the fact that I was born too in a country that the bone structure and pillar of the country is faith with jesus christ and God I must say I find what the maker of this thread true many people find sex dirty and immoral due to the fact that our country (my country) is wasted and poverty is on a rise. if your asking me if I like a man in my life? ofcourse! but he needs to be like funny,charming,happy-go-lucky,respectful,handsome and a very polite and humble guy plus rich and ofcourse good at sex and no evil side I will poison him while his eating if he's bad or worst kill him blackmail him call the police and file a case against him and everything bad that I can do if he has a evil side in him. :D

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Getting back on topic, some of us cannot afford to be choosy when it comes to our future partners. When opportunity comes knocking, we should grab it immediately. It is easy to say that the past doesn't matter, but there are occasions where our family members and friends may feel differently. However, it is the love between both parties which is most important.

I will end my reply with the following quote:

"Whether you come from heaven or hell, what does it matter, O beauty?" I hope the quote has been applied to the correct situation, mainly because I just learned of it recently. ^_^;;

For me, it doesn't matter if they are pure or not. I'm still a virgin to be honest, and I would like to have a relationship with another girl who is also the same, but I don't really mind if I find someone who I love, but already has done it before.

Love between couples to me seems like it should be the only thing that matters. We shouldn't judge people by past events.

I know I'm still a virgin and I have no experience with these types of things, but hey, what can I do? I'm a hopeless romanticist at heart. :P

the more experience the better along with a legitimate level of trust as well.

I think this answer might change with age; at 30, I'm one of the few who voted for 'intense.' But that I think comes with experience-- I've done the whole 'innocent' thing, but now am looking for someone more my own speed, more of an equal. Also, as I tend to prefer 'open' relationships (or for those that know the term, poly relationships) if I'm looking for someone of similar background then it's probable they will have a similar number or higher number of previous partners-- after all, it's (generally, though not always) easier for women to find partners.

My advice is to look for someone who you feel comfortable with; if that person happens to have a high number of past partners, then why should that bother you?

That's even a benefit, if you're open to it. Trust me, sex between two people who know what they're doing is way better than awkward sex between people who don't have a lot of experience-- if you're inexperienced, an experienced partner can teach you a lot (not to mention blow your mind). You can build experience between two inexperienced partners, but that's a steeper learning curve-- granted a steeper learning curve that could possibly build more intimacy. In general, though, I'd rather have one experienced, enthusiastic partner than a harem of virgins who aren't even sure they like sex.

But, to break the news: the first person you have sex with is by statistical likleyhood unlikely to be your last. Most people have a few serious relationships under their belt before they settle down successfully with a life partner-- this is why most people who get married before the age of 25 end up divorced (at least in the US). So maybe it's not as serious a deal-breaker if you're not thinking about it in terms of forever and ever, but rather terms of 'for this period of my life.'

Wow thats pretty much exactly what I want! (Except in Female form)

1) Funny
2) Charming
3) Happy-Go-Lucky
4) Respectful
5) Beautiful
6) Polite
7) Humble
8) Rich beyond my wildest dreams :D
9) Fucking blow my mind, Sexually
10) Not 'Spawn of Satan' Evil

I dont think im asking for too much... Amirite!? :D