Date? ... or what?

So basiclly I was talking to a friend and we talked about meeting up sometime since it's been a while(aproximently 6 months) and we decided to catch lunch togethor.
After deciding a place to meet i said, as a joke, :
"it's a date then <3"
and she replyed:
"if you want to, absoultly"
which i replyed:
"yeah sure."

So... yeah. We went to school togethor for one year so we kinda know eachother. But this is the part when you answer..
How should i prefer for this? Should i take it super-serious or should i just be casual as i've always been around her.
I'm not sure how seriously she is taking this so i dunno...
Also.. i've never really been to a date like this before, so i feel unexperienced and somewhat lost.
Tho i know she hasn't either, and that makes me even more confused.

Life advice someone?
Oh... it's tomorrow btw..

i feel you man honestly i haven't been on a date myself but you are gonna have to find a middle between both of those extremes of super serious and casual and be consistent about because coming on too strong or too weak can be a turn off i suppose.where are you having lunch anyways?I suppose you know youre going to pay after all you did ask her out but that isn't the only reason its just the right thing to do and there is a small chance when the bill comes she will sway that she might want to go dutch(50/50) just keep that in mind,dress appropriate for the atmosphere/type of place your gonna eat at,be mindful of what you eat cause if it goes well and you have the nerve to give her a kiss onions are a no no and you dont want to kill her by accident if you eat something made/prepared with something shes allergic too :) ,don't forget to about body language ok not only yours but hers as it can help in seeing how its going,and don't inadvertently flirt with the waitress if in the event the waitress is a lady,be yourself,if its the case y'all will find your rhythm.SO good luck and hope it goes well and "we" cant wait to get an update
BE A GOOD LISTENER cause the whole hearing waves/pretending to listen and agree doesnt fly unless you are in the doghouse/argument even if you make that work

sorry for the big block of text and be a gentleman

There's the possibility that she didn't take the "It's a date" comment too seriously. But just to be safe, dress smart-casual. If you overdo dressing up for the occasion and she didn't expect it to be an actual date then it could scare her off.

Otherwise just be yourself and try to keep conversation going. Occasional awkward silences aren't a big deal as long as you're both having a nice time.

Thanks a lot man. Getting this kind of insight was great for me. Even tho... i think i wasn't so clear on some parts.. ^^'
Starting off, I'm 18 years old and she's 17. I'd still consider us children and therefor no really adult issues comes around.
Also concerning all naught stuff... that i'm sure you all would like to know about... I am certain that she is a virgin and i'm quite sure she hasn't even kissed someone before.. i'm not sure if that's better or worse for me. So i'd say i get hug as teh best xD(it's not really that bad)

We were talking about going to a starbucks or something like that so it'll be quite casual after all but still.
Also(i'm sorry this text is messy but i'm writing as it comes to my mind, sorry) She was acually the one suggesting that we were going to eat. As i mention in the OP, i only asked her if we should meet up sometime and didn't intent to get a date from the beginning. And since we're Swedish it's not really up to the guy to pay so yeah. But i am ready to do it if she expects me to. I'm thinking to offer to pay but most likely she'll want to pay for herself.

WE'll see how it turns out. I'll be sure to post everything here when its done.



I'd probebly go for a white shirt, black tie, red pants. all worn casually. It's my style unless im wearing t-shirt so i think it'll be fine. She should know me well enough to not be suprised if is showed up in a shirt.

I'm kinda afraid of silence... But at the same time i'm afraid to talk too much... i might need a backup plan. /:

So your problem right now is panicking and overthinking things. She may be in the same position as you are.

Try not thinking of it as a date in the traditional sense and try to think of it as hanging out with a friend. You'll be fine if you just relax - good company comes from someone who feels comfortable and relaxed.

I never even though of her thinking the same...huh...
Or maybe she doesnt really care?/:

I totally do agree with you and theoritically speaking you re right but it somewhat harder for me than just understanding the concept. What if i end up saying something completely weird :s

Wait until halfway through the date and then scream at the top of your lungs "LET ME GIVE YOU THE HONOR OF HAVING MY PEEPEE IN YOUR VAGOO!"

Gets them every time.

Girls go through similar thinking processes dude. I would tell you not to sweat it, but it can be inevitible. Don't act any differently around her and read how she is talking to you, how her body language looks, her eye contact, what she is telling you etc. It's a casual coffee place so don't go too crazy on how you dress for this.

Remember this; even if she says this is a date and turns out to be an actual date, be careful. The reason I say this is us girls are emotional and flippant creatures. Even if she has a good time and gives you the signs, we can turn at the flip of a heartbeat and can act differently the second day and play it off. Too many reasons for this and for now get through the first day casually, but don't think you're girlfriend and boyfriend atfher this.

Good luck and hope it turns out nice.

Thank you once again.
But i think i'll skip the screaming part^^'

Im laying in my bed atm and can not sleep. Should be up in 7 hours..
Oh well, i gotta admit tho. I think it will just turn out as a non-date but i would be kinda sad if it did.
Not saying that i am hoping for a relationship(not until we get to know eachother better) but just saying it would be kinda sad not having a date ^^'

I'll keep you updated

Don't worry about dressing I never do

So i ended up going like this.
Gonna have a pair of black boots and a black trench coat.


My hair seems to hate to today so it's just plain.
1hour left now

Okey so i am back.

This will be dull but it just ended up like to friends having lunch.
We talked and laughs and think both had a good time so i'm fine with that.
but romance? not even close.

Well it wasn't awkward or anything so...
We had lunch and after talking for a while we went to another cafe and had coffee so it was all good.

Well thank you all for support anyways <3 next time i have a date.. i might come back here XD

And there you were pissing yourself with worry.

At least you had fun, that's the main thing.

Should have done this
"Wait until halfway through the date and then scream at the top of your lungs "LET ME GIVE YOU THE HONOR OF HAVING MY PEEPEE IN YOUR VAGOO!"

Thank you for this wisdom you have imparted, master

P.S what's up with people wearing pants more eye-catching than their shirt? red on top please. That way it doesn't accentuate your freaking legs and give off a more aggressive look

I disagree.

He should have worn red underwear on the outside of his pants so that her eyes where immediately drawn to his crotch.

And then he could have gone "See anything you like!!?!?!?!?!?!" *wink wink nudge nudge*

I cant put my finger on it but i like when the pants are standing out.
I ofteb wear white t-shirts or so...
I have red, purple as well as black and white pants. Ive always been like that and even if some people disagree... I want to be myself and i would no be that i i started wearing dull pants.
Besides... Red is my favorite color.

I am seeing that it is a joke too

On a serious front.

The red pants are absolutely hideous. You look like you're wearing pajama pants with your shirt.

You honestly want to avoid flashy pants. Why? Because of where other people's attention are going to be drawn. You don't want them to be drawn down away from your face, especially if it's a girl you want interested in you.

The less focus on your face the less interest they have because they will not see facial cues and such. There will be less of a connection due to this.

That's why you want to wear either neutral colors when it comes to pants, or complimentary colors. The more contrast and flashy you wear the worse it is.

As far as shirts go, you honestly want shirts that compliment your facial structure and attributes. So colors that draw out your hair, eyes, or any other facial features are a big plus, especially in a romantic sense.