Death and Mourning

Due to my circumstances, I have had the knowledge the someone close to the people around me has died. It was really quiet in the building that I hang in which is very unusual.

I haven't actually had to experience such a great loss yet, and very thankful that I haven't, but there's something that I'd like to see happen. The norm for when people to die is for tears and sadness to take over the minds of individuals affected by the loss. I've always wanted it to be turned around: I want people to be celebrating the life that the one who has passed away. People should share the good moments and the bad sad times.

How hard do you think a change like that would be for people since death has such a negative connotation hanging over it? Or do people already do this and I didn't know about it?

I find the whole traditional mourning of the dead weird for a lot of people especially for Christians... they should be happy the person is going to the afterlife with god and Jesus. My religion we mourn with remembrance of the dead and prayer(and booze). We don't fret on the afterlife and if were going to hell or heaven, we live in the here and now.

Back in Louisiana we have Jazz Funerals. Basically, they play happy music and people dance in a parade. One could mistakenly think that the wicked witch of the west just died, but it is actually because we are supposed to celebrate that someone went to heaven.

You don't see much people celebrating the death of a person unless he's someone they considered evil like Hitler. Through the centuries, it's become a norm for people to mourn for the loss of a loved one.

I haven't experienced a loss of someone really close to me, and I have always been curious as to how I will react if my parents die, because i'm not really that close to them.

But from watching others, what I do know is that it really hurts to lose someone you love. You don't see people laughing when they're seriously hurt (unless they're faking or are mentally unstable). And when someone dies, I guess you feel an obligation to mourn for them since they'll never experience life further than they already have....

Ahh, the (seemingly) infinite wisdom of George Carlin. They really should create a sort of Tao Te Ching type of book from his writings and thoughts on various things.

All I know is that I want to RickRoll my funeral procession.

I've dealt with the loss of several people close to me, and I've found that it takes a long time for me to go through the mourning process. I think that it's definitely a hard thing to to try to think positively about losing a loved one. Nowadays, though, I can smile and remember the good times, but when I was dealing with the deaths, all I could do is grief, and I don't think that I could have reacted differently.

Ive dealt with so many serious hard blows. Ive lost uncles, aunts, cousins, friends, damn...even talking about it, hurts. Because, life is short and We dont know when its our turn. And i often do wish for people to instead of mourning after the funeral, to celebrate the persons achievements, his life, his legacy if he she has one. Just to cherish a life that can no longer be replaced. But its hard for people to accept that. Its just human nature to do so, when a Loved one has passed away, you are left with emptiness that cant be easily or maybe never will be replaced.

I've had several of my uncle and aunts die...a few from cancer. I've been around death since I was a kid because many of my aunts and uncles, as well as other family and friends, are very old, so it doesn't hit me as hard as it used to. when I mourn it usually lasts a few days and then I accept that they are gone and have either moved on to what ever awaits us after death or have become part of the world around us. I think depending on how much death people have seen,along with religion and how the individual thinks themselves, it effects people all differently. certain cultures celebrate deaths while other honor their ancestors, while at the same time believing that their spirits have not in fact left earth. There are so many different views and traditions that it's hard to say how humanity or even smaller groups of people react to death.

I apologize if that was kind of long or if some people think I have disrespected them, as it was not my intention.

I'm a Christian and I do mourn their deaths, sure, heaven sounds like a chill place and all, but I'm not jumping to get there. Once they leave this life their isn't a DAMN thing you can do to get them back, just last week my grandmother on my fathers side died, and during the summer my grandfather on my mothers side; both from cancer, when I think about it, the scariest part is, that's an entire generation of the S******** family gone forever, my parents have no one left besides siblings, which neither my mother or father were ever close to, and when I think about it, it means my parents are next and I'll have no one except my brother, although we have a fair relationship. I also try and do things to cope with the death before they die, such as visit, and visiting in a specific manner, sure we discuss the funeral arrangements, but we come smiling, and leave smiling, and that to me, leaving happy is one of the biggest parts, life is short and people are killed in an instance where you may not can say good bye at an appropriate time. Also, for the funerals, we do nothing depressing really, just sermons about the deceased that people will remember him by joyfully, a joyous song, followed by a wake/dinner in their honor. Although, death doesn't normally hit me like other crying and such, I just get more isolated than normal, keep to myself and easily agitated. After a few weeks I'm good to go, but I can't let it show in my schooling and work, but inside I can resolve it for myself. Mourning isn't my thing, I press it aside, until I get worked to hard and drive myself into despair, which is a bad habit, but I am by nature selfless.

I understand the need to mourn for the loss of a loved one, but I also think that the person should be remembered and honored in a fun way to commemorate them. I've already told my friends that when I die, I want them to celebrate by getting drunker than they have ever been and show up with a hangover to my funeral. That will give them something to feel bad about. I would feel honored and probably get a good laugh if I could see all that from wherever I may be.

my father died when i was ten years old, and most of my grandparents have gone too with the exception of my grandmother on my mom's side... it really sucked, big time. my dad died from cancer and i think he's gone to a better place, but i cant help but miss him, after all this time. i mourned for maybe 2 years, i had to repeat a grade because i was so depressed. And i agree with you (Zero_Hour)! when i die, I want to have all my good friends to sit around a tv, watch the entire series on Evangelion right before my funeral, and show up drunk off there ass! i'd get a good laugh out of that!