Do you think that one can lead an eroge life?

Something that I've been pondering. Is our life somewhat like an eroge at times? We meet people, do stuff (and more stuff), lost people, build relationships and such. Of course when it comes to the girls, is one actually able to have a "harem" to a certain extend? Share your experiences if you have any. =D

Of course, there are parallels since most visual novels are based on real life, quite exaggerated most of the time but still.

About the harem: Depends on how you actually define it, if a person with a telefon book full of sex friends is an example of someone having a harem than surely. On the other hand a harem in the sense that one person has many others who are only loyal to him/her are rather rare but they do exist, nonetheless.

Somehow, I miss an option like "Yes/No/Doesn't matter for me I have/want a single partner I'll hold loyalty to the end"

Yes, I believe that it is possible to lead an eroge life, however, the majority of people don't. There are several complications: you would need to be someone who women find attractive (assuming you are a guy) also, not all women would want to be in a harem. Either way, I do agree with the point saibot made, about visual novels being partially based on real life.

i already lead a eroge-ish relationship,although i got no harem there.

Everyone (or at least most) on Fakku knows that I have my very own harem. :D

The possibility of leading an eroge/visual novel life does exists in reality, but the "game" is set at a much higher difficulty. There are times when we do not end up with our desired partner, if one at all, and many other factors, such as one's looks and financial status, play an important part in the entire process.

I concur with Gambler, you just can't spam "Gift her" looking like a hobo.
And you'd also have to be careful to either let the girls no that you are looking for an open relationship or not let them know that you are seeing other girls at the same time. But in reality, I think Hugh Hefner is leading the real eroge harem life.

While I was in high school (my sophomore year) for some reason I managed to develop a "Freshmen fanclub" of sorts. I proceeded to have multiple, unique and engaging emotional relations with a handful (4-6) of the girls, because to be honest, I couldn't just pick one. This would have to be the closest I've ever come to anything eroge and it was very fun while it lasted, alas all good things must comes to an end.

I must say I am thankful that my story ended with a wimper rather than a bang though, i would hate to have seen that lol

My boyfriend leads such a life. Sometimes, it's pretty hard to accept, because I'm the jealous type and he's such a great guy I just want him for myself. It doesn't help that his other girls aren't the brightest bulbs around either, and I dislike them. But as long as I don't think too much about it, we should all be fine. In the last few months, I've come to think around it, I don't have that much against it anymore. And I seem to be important to him (he said he doesn't want to lose me if I'd find an other boyfriend) and that's what matters.

I still don't want to really get to know his other girlfriends >_> To be honest, I find them to be shallow, but that's probably just the jealousy speaking.

Anyway, to answer your question: Yes, it's possible.

This is really interesting because I made a thread about exactly this topic of open and closed relationships.

I'm curious do you have the same rights as your boyfriend in this relationship?

Because of that line, it kind of makes me think that the relationship isn't balanced...which is unfortunate because you seem nice ^_^

Yes. And I like the idea, somehow, as long as I don't lose him in the process. He thinks so too. He just said that he hopes I won't make my next boyfriend my one and only, he's afraid that we won't be together anymore. Personally, I think that's one of the nicest things he ever said to me. I like it when I'm appreciated.

@ nightclock: I explained it a little more in this post ^^ And thank you!

After a somewhat tumultuous relationship last year, I sometimes rather feel that I got a Bad End somewhere along the line... :/

Well we are living that eroge life now. What choices did you make? ;)

Four years, one month old. Little late to the party, no?

I believe it's possible. Highly improbable, but possible. Although Bad Ends can happen without any decisions at all, since it's a lot more volatile in real life.

DUDE! 4 year old thread! What the fuck?!

Crazy necro post of doom! I'll answer the question because it seems fun/interesting. Still though, 4 years is so old.

Interestingly enough I was talking to a friend of mine just this last week on how he is a stereotypical harem/romance main character as he is extremely popular with women. And all of the women he dates/likes/might have an interest in him are really good looking. Oh and on of them is rich seeing as that is a common thing in shounen/seinen romance but generally is mentioned after the character already loves said girl. I often remark on how unfair it seems and how he technically could be considered as "hogging" everything to himself. Although he is a good person and generally doesn't try to do that.

It certainly is possible, but I think for most people it simply is out of the question. And I think for some, having just one girl that likes them is probably more than enough. Waiting for the right dance partner I assume might be a good phrase for that.

Anti bug post.

See, this is the hassle of necroing older threads...

You're the hassle of necroing older threads.

what? o_O

On Topic:

Yes, but I do not suggest pursuing it. A 'harem' aka 'Polyamorous Lifestyle' is not something that you just.. ask for, and receive. For instance, you'd have to actually be capable of polyamory, or 'the ability to feel love for more than one person at a time', and with love all of the things that come with it. The compassion, the trust, the friendship. One relationship can be more than enough for a person, but finding it in yourself to give to more than one person at a time in that capacity is not something that just anyone can do.

I should also stress that multiple-partner-relationships require deep and implicit trust, and full disclosure with all parties involved. Everyone has to feel completely and 100% comfortable with the lifestyle choice.

Yeah being poly ain't easy, I've been trying for quite some time, but non-monogamy seems to bother a great deal of people, and even if they aren't outright opposed to it, there is a pesky inclination towards prejudgment from potential partners.

Sadly we are taught that if you love someone then you get jealous of you see them giving or receiving affection from another. With polyamory you have to work past this conditioning, and it's even more so when you have multiple people involved. Not only that but it's a lot of time, effort and work involved in keeping everyone happy. It's not like dealing with a game at all, each person has different needs wants and expectations from a relationship, and those things need to be taken into consideration.