Finding Ms. Right

So recently (February) of this year, I broke up with my first official girlfriend. And I've been in a dry streak ever since. But the thing is most of my friends are looking for quickies with random girls or some really outgoing girl who goes clubbing every Friday night.

But me, I want to find a girl who I can just do stuff with. The "wifey" type. Someone who is outgoing and cares enough about her own body to not just sit and become lard. But at the same time I'm a boring dude sometimes. I like to do boring shit like stay home on a Friday night, watch movies, anime, play video games. Other times I like to go out, play pool with a bunch of friends, hang out, smoke weed, chillax.

What my problem is I can't find a girl who is an in between of what I described. (Sorry for the broad generalization). There are the clubbing girls, the girls who I like to chill with when I'm high and there are the nerdy anime girls..or should I just say bunch of white weeaboos who can't speak a word of Japanese.

Sad thing is I know a girl who is like this but she is taken. :(

So how would I find my Ms. Right? Go to anime clubs? (haha, this is funny cause I did and its full of men; sausage fest! And the occasional girl who came just to check it out but didn't stay cause its full of men lmao). Talk to more people?

And also, I noticed that some girls are really really shy. How do I approach them without being creepy. Cause the only time I can talk to girls is if I somehow have a common connection (same group of friends, new class so its easier to meet people, etc.).

This is mainly directed to those who have already found their current girlfriends/wives. But virgins and the like can contribute their thoughts as well.

Stop being such a fucking pussy, you fucking pussy. You see a cute girl? Go hit on her without care. If she's with friends? Hit on them too. Then again, this only works if you're even mildly attractive, and since you're posting this, I guess you're out of luck.

Have you tried eHarmony?

You answered your own question

You can't force relationships, they just don't work that way. But that doesn't mean you just sit back and let it happen either. You have to be willing to take chances, you have to willing to do different things occasionally.

I don't mean you have to do completely different things. Like you know, going skydiving all of sudden. I just mean exploring something different than what you are use to.

The whole point, basically. Is to open up opportunities. And also remember. Relationships are about finding someone who is, or is willing to be perfectly what you want. It's about finding someone who is important to you.

In my opinion there is no Ms. Right there's only a Lefty choice

Mmm love the personal jabs right off the bat...

Looks aren't the issue. Nor is talking to girls. More of I can't find anyone that I want. I've been on a few dates that ended nicely but really the girl wasn't someone who I would want to be with for the rest of my life. Kind of on a search for the wifey rather than a girlfriend/slew/one night stand whatever you call it.

Not to mention closet hentai lover. Gotta be weird to the average person.







Thanks. I'll keep that in mind. As I stated before, problem is not what I want or what I find important. But I can't find anyone with the traits! Its like a needle in a haystack and the only one I found is taken by someone else. I guess time will tell if I can find another one.



I spend time with Ms. Lefty everyday, if y'know what I mean ;D

Maybe you need to spend time with Ms. Wrong before looking for Ms. Right.

are you being serious with this shit ? I mean really ? the odds of you finding someone you magicly connect with on a first date to the point you can imagine a life with them is low...the odds of her having the traits you stated are unlikely ,and just to cap it off the odds of her being all these things AND interested are next to null..be realistic

Response: 0/10

At least Mr. Obvious can see the obvious. Thanks for the compliment, Mr. Hopeless ;)

"yeah I know that what you said was right tms, but I'm a complete faggot"

Oh ok, friend.

W00T! You said it! -snaps fingers-

Seems like you can either just for for someone to magically appear that fits your criteria or realize that there really ar no perfect people and find someone who makes you happy rather than completes a checklist.

There is a Mr. Right

Matching personalities only gets you so far... finding someone with the opposite makes for interesting relations... (Less boring)

You and I are searching for the same thing, my man. And going through the same shit as well.

What you're doing is making a checklist, and every time you encounter someone, you start checking off things till you hit one or three that aren't on that list. At which point, you say, "Oh, they don't have this.... NEXT!"

Shit don't work that way, and even if they did, the world isn't nice enough to just have them magically appear in front of you like some surprise Christmas gift. You have to work for it.

My suggestion is stop with the checklist. In fact, toss that shit out the window. Just date people for who they are, and if you find someone that makes you happy (even if they aren't everything you want), than just go with it. You can try clubs, parties, or anything that may spark an interest. As for approaching someone, a simple "Hi, how are you. My name is [name], and I noticed you were [find something]." A simple introduction, even if slightly out of nowhere, can go a long ways.

Who knows. You may have met "Ms. Right", but were too busy with the checklist-ing, that you didn't notice that what you need/wanted may have been right in front of you, if that makes any sense.

Just a thought.

Your second paragraph got me thinking. I realize I'm being unrealistic when looking for a Ms. Right. A day ago, I asked a few of my friends (girls) cause my bro's give advice on getting laid rather than a relationship. They said that I'm looking for something too specific which is pretty much what you told me. I'm WAY TOO nit picky with what I want in a girl. But the thing is I want the person to accept me for who I am, a hentai loving Japanholic jock lmao. I like working out, smoking weed on occasion with friends, anime, japan and hentai lmao!

I've gone out on one date with this one girl during the duration of making this thread. I don't know if I "like" her. I'm thinking I like her because she is beautiful (to me) and I'm being controlled by hormones but we just talk about music and class. Conversations get boring really fast.

I was wondering do you guys find it wrong if I date more than one girl. Meaning just going out on dates..with no anything really. Just talking, hug when we part, stuff like that. Or should I just stick to one at a time searching?

Thanks for your input, was very thought provoking.

EDIT:
Sorry if I sound like I have girls lined up to date me, just reread my post. I don't lol. I only have 1 girl I'm currently sort of dating, nothing is official. Just dates.

You'd have to make sure all the parties involved understood it the same way you do if you were to even try that.

Personally, I'd tell you to go one at a time. That way you're more focussed one one thing at a time and you could avoid messy confrontations based on misunderstandings.

my brain is not working right now. so I'm copying and pasting an article online that sums up the definition and nuances of casual dating.



In short, there is absolutely nothing wrong with going on dates with multiple people. Hell, this is how courtship was done back in the day. One had several suitors (is suitors gender specific? what would a female suitor be? curiouser and curiouser) vying for one's attention and the best match would be picked accordingly.

That having been said, it is never a bad idea to make sure all parties involved are aware of where you stand with them when things seem questionable.

She may not be a Ms., but she is a Mrs. and she is politically very right!