first time livng with a girl problem
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so its been 6 months since i got out of my parents and moved to a new house. (renting a house with two of my friends) and a new city for my cooking school. i started to date a friend, of the girl of my roommate. its been 2 mounts and i really like her. we share many interest including anime and games. (even if her games and manga are really not up my alley)
so here is my problem she is spending more and more time at my place at first i was trilled but i realised Somme weird things i dont like sleeping in the same bed. sleeping alone is way more comfortable and i dont know if its because i just started living alone but i dont like the fact that she is always near me is starting to bug me a little. i like to be ALONE sometimes .so how should i tell her.
so here is my problem she is spending more and more time at my place at first i was trilled but i realised Somme weird things i dont like sleeping in the same bed. sleeping alone is way more comfortable and i dont know if its because i just started living alone but i dont like the fact that she is always near me is starting to bug me a little. i like to be ALONE sometimes .so how should i tell her.
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Tell her how you feel.
Tell her the truth.
Say that you really like her, want to continue dating her, but you need a little space from time to time. Or maybe suggest her going to hang out with her own friends every so often, something of that sort.
Tell her the truth.
Say that you really like her, want to continue dating her, but you need a little space from time to time. Or maybe suggest her going to hang out with her own friends every so often, something of that sort.
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What Aki-chan said, but be careful on how you say it. She may interpret it as "Why are you taking me for granted?!" Honestly, some girls are like that. And if that happens, then say, "I'm not taking you for granted. I really do like you, but sometimes we need time to do our own things by ourselves." Or something like that, I dunno.
Be open to sleeping with her every now and then, so that she doesn't feel like you're in total disgust of her or something.
Be open to sleeping with her every now and then, so that she doesn't feel like you're in total disgust of her or something.
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Mr.TifaLockhart wrote...
Tell her to give you some space.Gotta agree with this.
A man needs his space or else we feel smothered.
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Well, first of all... make sure your bed is big enough for two! If space is an issue, could help. ;)
If it's just the time alone and time to think you need, yes, tell her to give you some space.
If it's just the time alone and time to think you need, yes, tell her to give you some space.
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
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I agree. Two people on a twin.. very uncomfortable.. But if you want to coexist with a mate then you need to learn to sleep next to a person for a long periods of time.. cohabitation and marriage is just a big fight with the covers.
I agree. Two people on a twin.. very uncomfortable.. But if you want to coexist with a mate then you need to learn to sleep next to a person for a long periods of time.. cohabitation and marriage is just a big fight with the covers.
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Like the others have mentioned, really try to *softly* express that you do enjoy having certain boundaries. For a relationship to work, honesty and open communication really are important. You want to tell her how you feel, in a way that will not hurt her feelings, so that you both feel better about everything as a whole.
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You could always say you like it really old school, like mid 20's-50's or so. Back in a time when married folks had two separate beds and you were getting a peep show with everything covered except her ankles. That may be a bit extensive though... You could also argue that not sleeping together means you don't need to worry about blanket thieves.
