Friendzoning

What is the opinions of my fellow Fakku'rs on "Friendzoning" or the "Friendzone"?

It's stupid in my opinion. If someone would willingly lay there heart and soul etc out and really love you,yet you either would push that someone who would give you all of themselves and shit yet you friendzone them What the Fuck ?

That's why I hate the concept and think it's bullshit.


P.S Classical Romantics Rule

friendzoning someone is no good at all. you took the feelings of a guy/girl and wash the floor with them, without caring back.

Friendzone = Being an asshole.

Friendzone doesn't exist. It's a bullshit concept made by idiots who can't move on after being rejected.

It's also an underrated zone. Anyone who complains about being in the friendzone is complaining about actually having someone you care about as a friend to you. Really? You're complaining about having a friend? Did you ever think that maybe that's the reason you got "friendzone"? Because you actually might not be that nice a guy, and are instead an ungrateful, selfish little prick?



NB: If, however, the person friendzoning is using that as an excuse to not date you, and actually has no intentions of being a real friend, then they can go fuck themselves (and the person trying to date them should be ashamed of having bad tastes and being attracted to a bitch/asshole).

People who complain about being friendzoned are silly because either they don't know how to sit down and have a proper talk, or they only take friendship at face value. They want a cop out, self-vindication. They think their desires supersede what the other party wants because they deserve it.

To me, that's the whole joke behind the friendzone. This notion that the person you like put you under this label just so you can suffer. You're making your own self suffer, man. If you think they're missing out, just take it as their loss and move on. I believe that a great friendship involves knowing when to step in and say "Hey, you might not realize this but I'd appreciate it if you stop treating me this way," and reach a mutual understanding from there. You would think that the person you like isn't the type to devalue you - at least, intentionally.

Like, let's say that someone is making subtle passes at you, flirting with you, getting close and personal with you - then they dump cold water on you. You kind of like these passes but you're uncomfortable with the weird intimacy; you might even feel emotionally used, confused, or that they make you feel un-dateable. I can understand that, because I've been there before.

However, I think it's important to be verbally direct about your feelings, instead of hiding behind the friendzone card. With proper communication, you'll eventually be able to tell the difference between a person who's on the fence about taking the next step with you, and a person who's just taking advantage of your interest for his or her own ego.

Don't be that person who makes your love interest an antagonist, just so you can get over your self-applied butthurt.

I've used that word many times in the past but later on came to a very important realization: I don't want to be in a one-sided relationship.

I'm sure one day, I'll find that person who loves me intensely and who loves me more than "just a friend". When that day happens, I'll be glad to have all theses close friends I've made other the years.

There is no friendzone. There is love, and friendship. Some people love you a lot but don't want to be 100% of the time with you or don't want to sleep with you.

I ended up using it a lot especially in a bad part of my life. I'm still single and I still complain sometimes but now I don't blame others for it. I'm glad to be loved and being able to share my life with so many people.

Does it count as Friendzoning if a girl you harbour feelings for openly admits they harbour mutual feelings for you after you've been friends for a while, but they then went on to say that they didn't want a relationship with you, only to get a boyfriend soon afterwards?

Because that's what happened to me a few times and it feels rather shitty.

I wouldn't chalk it up to friendzoning. That girl openly lead you on to believe she intended to date you; there's no room for doubt and ambiguity there. She could have rejected you with a grain of salt and some genuine appreciation for your feelings, and you could have gone along your merry way. But instead, for her to say that she reciprocates your feelings only to reject you and hook up with someone else?

That ain't right - that's fucked up.

I'm sorry to hear you went through such an ordeal, because nobody deserves to be treated like that.

I can say I have had this happen a few times, and most recently last week, and its really fucked up....

I think it depends. Both men and women can both be "friendzoned". Friendzoned being put in a category of implicit friendship without room for romantic pursuits. I remember when I was recently single and my old workplace was having a Christmas party, I asked my long time bartender friend if he wanted to go with me as kind of a date. I basically made the first move. His response was "I don't want to ruin our friendship" which I respect but at the same time.. no one wants to hear that after making the first move lol. But you take that rejection and you move on, you don't wallow in it and make "friendzoned" posts online. It's not going to change anything!

I think sometimes you're put in a position where you HAVE to friendzone people. If you're in a committed relationship, if you're single but pursuing someone else, if you're not entirely sure whether or not you want to pursue this person as more than a friend.

Also I saw a post I really liked saying that girls are not vending machines you pour kindness into until sex comes out. Also with that being said if you're interested in a girl/guy you should make it known point blank. Enough of this mind-reading shit, just tell them how you feel if they say no suck it up and take it.

Eventually you will find someone with a mutual interest. You just have to be patient and wait for the right one to come along. If the person you think is the right one is constantly blowing you off (teehee not sexually) and friendzoning you, maybe they're not the right one?

/ end rant

"There's no such thing as the Friend Zone, it's called being a bitch, and being a fat ass."
-FilthyFrank

It's not a thing, and it's a viewpoint that is directly resultant of a patriarchal society.

No one is 'owed' sex.
No one 'deserves' a relationship.

This idea is solidified by the fact that every male protagonist in every movie, game, or story at some point is 'rewarded' with a 'girl'. "The hero gets the girl, the villain dies." all it does is create this mentality that if you behave a certain way, it means someone should sleep with you or throw themselves into your arms because you are so clearly a catch, and you just deserve it, man!

If someone's not into, they're not into you.

But putting time and effort into a friendship should be its own point. If you're 'trying to be a white knight' for the purpose of getting a girl into bed, you should have your testicles removed, because you don't deserve procreation rights.

"He's just an asshole because he likes you so much!" and "Dude, she totally friendzoned me!" are both about as stupid as each other. It doesn't do anyone any favors to go around with this idea of what your love life should look like.

P.S.

If you're trying to be 'a nice guy' so you can get ass, or make someone your significant other, and it's not happening, it's probably because you also happen to be an asshole for thinking that's how women work to begin with.

hell,

HOW ANYONE FUCKING WORKS TO BEGIN WITH.