Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?

This is a question I came across recently and it got me thinking. My friends - that is, if you would define them as friends (they are not 'close friends') - are nothing like me. I enjoy my quiet little introverted life; studying, reading, listening to music, watching anime and reading manga. I'm not into house parties or getting drunk or taking drugs (I have never done either) like my friends are. I have kind of just accepted my friends as who they are, while I get on with my quiet little "anti social" life (as people consider it is) at home, doing my own thing and enjoying it. I suppose to some extent I have kind of been the friend that I would like as a friend - someone who has the same hobbies as me. But that isn't to say that I try and be someone fake - I'm just me. I suppose to put it in better words, I would like a friend who has the same hobbies as me, but of course, not someone who is exactly like me. I prefer close friends as opposed to masses of friends as I am introverted.

So, have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?

Yes, I think so.
Maybe not as available as I should be, but distance is a problem.

Not entirely sure.

Most of my friends do have similar interests as myself. Gaming, some anime and a generally introverted personal state. That said though I've got a friend who is practically the exact opposite of me. She's fairly outgoing, definitely not introverted and hates games. She does like anime and hentai though, so that might make up the difference. Heh.

I think it's often striking up a balance. You have to friends that are both similar, but opposite of you in certain regards. After all, if you as a person was so interesting then what would be the point of having friends at all? A friend who is exactly like you would be so horribly boring.

Hm, i would like a friend who can chat with me all day without me finding up conversation-continuers.

I agree with this. But similar interests are always good.

Yes, of course similarities are fine, but one could have a deeper and more interesting friendship those who disagree or have different opinions than you.
I wouldn't want another me around me. Diversity is good.

We prefer people that think like us. This is entirely true and has quite a bit of experiments backing it.

Though someone that is EXACTLY like you or near it would be incredibly boring.

On a side note, this might be better suited for the Love, Romance, and Relationships section as friendship is a type of relationship.

Even after many betrayals, i've not become so jaded as to trust no one. by that i mean, i have no childhood friends because most all turned on me, or just supported the one who did. i do have a few good friends. friends i would take a beating(or worse) for. they know who they are.

Sort of. I'm More the funny asshole that you need to keep your ass in check then the friend you need to stoke your ego.

I have many friends but I must say I don't like some of them maybe I should call them acquittance I have a bestfriend shes a cosplayer and we talk about anime and mangas but I didn't tell her that I like hentai. but in the other hand she confessed to me she watched hentai and all. so maybe all I can say there are personal stuffs that someone doesn't need to know about you. that all can I say if you really want to know someone that has the same hobby as you have (on my perspective) it can be hard because it really depends on the person. like you have said people people that like anime and mangas are either Geeks,pervs or maniacs but the reasonable and normal type like me are hiding in the closet I really want to be friend you but the problem is i'm really an another person when im out on the blue. plus the country and location is a major problem.

What I want in a friend is someone who is there for me through thick and thin. I have never met anyone yet that has done this. I don't mean that everyone deserted me when I needed help, but that I don't think I ever made a strong enough bond with someone for me to actually consider them a friend. All tis acquaintances.

This being said, I can't really say if I have been the kind of friend I myself would want. I haven't gotten the chance to find out. I try to help people I know out if they need a favor or something. Although I may not show have a welcoming expression on my face all the time, i'm all ears if someone wants to talk to me about something important. People who don't really know me may think im so cold guy. I'm really just down to earth and consistently calm. I don't enjoy faking a personality when I know its not me.

If I do ever meet someone and become close friends with them, i'm sure I would a pretty good job supporting them. I take real friendships pretty seriously.

Over the course of my life, I have abandoned personal goals and moral codes which I have yet to forgive myself for.

I can easily say that I would never be my own friend...and yet, can I judge myself as a friend in the same manner as I would myself as...well, myself? Admittedly, I feel as though the problem is that I know myself too well.

As people learn more about each other, they approach an end singularity of hatred. Familiarity breeds contempt and all that.

Fuck yeah. My friends and me get along really well.
I'm really random and hyper with them. I can be fun, but rational. I make them crack up but also can keep a levelhead.
I'm understanding and easy to relate to. So yep, lol