Have you ever been caught with Hentai/Porn on your computer?

To clarify, are you a guy or a girl and are you step or blood-related?

No. But I'm pretty sure my mom discovered one of my cybering sessions from back when I was 14 or so.
I came home one day (she was at work) and there was a program open with code and it had all my convos from AOL posted on the program including a long cyber session. I don't know if she actually looked through it before I deleted it all, but she never brought it up.

All of my family members have their own computer including me so I never have the problem of anybody finding anything. Also I don't bother downloading anything so all I have to do is delete my browser history from the past day

Sure, I've had this happen to me before and the first time it was a little embarrassing because I was showing a friend my art and forgot to move my hentai art into a different folder. Now though, if it happens I just shrug it off and laugh about it because "Who hasn't looked at or drawn porn at sometime right?"

I'm a guy and we're blood-related

Not really, mostly my exes porn was always found -_-

Lol, I don't see how that isn't anything but good, if it "escalates" into something.

Yeah all that webcam porn he stashed escalated to him actually going online to sites like Omegle and shit, jerking it to other chicks, and cheating on me online with girls on Skype.

That escalated quickly.

That is actually a topic that could develop some interesting conversation if a good number of female users commented. Does masturbating constitute cheating? If so, in what way? Or rather, where is the line drawn?

I dunno, sounds relevant, especially considering the nature of Fakku...

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Oh definitely a good subject to talk about.

I personally don't care if my partner masturbates, or watches porn. I only have issues with them watching webcam porn, or like livechat shit.. because as you might be able to tell my fears of it going further came true, and my ex actually started talking to other girls and having cam sex with them.
Masturbation is natural, and even us females do it, so there's no reason to shame men in relationships who do it... as long as it's not in the presence of their partner in the other room.. if you want sex, bang your partner, if you're masturbating a lot and not having sex with your partner, I do see an issue. (It happened with me :( let me tell ya, waking up and constantly walking in on your man jerking himself instead of banging you, is really soul crushing.) Get what I mean? My boyfriend masturbates when I'm not home sometimes if he's feeling horny, doesn't bother me, but when I am home and he's horny, we bang, so no issue.

That sentence is basically the title of a rock song lol

I understand your point and since I don't think there's a right answer there wouldn't be much point in continous arguing, just a slight back and forth to clear things up and show different views.

Also, you draw the line at cybersex but I'm wondering about this and I think different girls would draw it in tons of different places. It sounds fascinating to me for some reason...

Oh. Well... not the kind of escalation I was hoping for. Sorry.

More than I can count

Yeaaah, but that escalated him to being dumped and broken hearted because he was a cheating fuck, also after going through some emails (while looking for an account password for gaming) I found out that he had done the same things while he was with his ex girlfriend who used to be my friend... so really he's always been a pig :/.



That must be a funny rock song :P

Oh yeah there are definitely argument points to go back and forth about, it does depend on the persons views. That's just mine.

Some people do draw the line at different places, but most people would draw the line at actually chatting with and having sexual contact with another person while cybering on cam. Or atleast I figure most people don't like being cheated on.

I may have stated this before, but I believe cheating of any kind can basically be generalised to one question.

Are you doing something with a third party that you'd keep a secret from your SO because you know they'd disapprove?

If you answer yes, you're cheating on your SO.

I agree with Skelli and Art on this topic.

I have no problem with my boyfriend mastrubating to other women in hentai/magazines/porn vids, etc, but live webcam would be a line. Communication and openess is something we value with one another and it's very clear between us that if there ever comes a time where we don't feel emotionally or physically attracted to one another then we will call it quits. If he communicated with another woman his sexual desires and commenced to get off with her in sight and mind (even if only in that instance) then I see that as a breaking point for our relationship.

My own personal standpoint (as Skelli said everyone has their own) is I want the person I am physically with to want me and no one else. This is selfish, but it's only because I would do the same for them. I am able to give to those as they do unto me, at least when it comes to love/relationships, but again everyone is different.

Exactlyyyy.

I haven't given this much thought although I do think cybersex is a bit much when you are in a relationship. Still, I think your question is a bit insuficent for being vague in two instances. The first being the action which you refer to as «something» and the second being the lack of information as to what makes up a third party.

The first objection you might answer easily. That would be rephrasing to: Are you doing something in order to achieve sexual pleasure with... and so on.

The second objection is a bit more subjective, even though I'm starting to think the first can be subjective as well. On this one though, what exactly is a third party? Some people disapprove when it is a person on the webcam, others disapprove when it is a pornstar on a previously recorded video, others might disapprove when it is a pure thought (pure, not in the sense of being clean but in the sense of being the basic meaning of the word «thought»). What is it exactly?

Even in the webcam issue we can move forward. How about those webcam websites where women get paid for it? They aren't pornstars, it isn't recorded and, with some reserve, we can say they do it as a job. Yet, they are really there and really talking back. Does that make it different than random girls on webcam?

I'm just raising questions, I have yet to make an opinion on this...

Being subjective is the very reason I kept those two aspects vague, though yes, the first could be rephrased better to mean "something you're doing with another person when you could clearly do it with your SO, be it sexual, physical, emotional, or mental".

For instance, I know of some people where the guy wasn't even allowed to look at porn, and another girl cann't even do it out personal guilt (she thought even listening to erotic audios would be a kind of cheating).

If you want my opinion, if I'm in a completely closed relationship*, public webcam shows without interacting with the camperson would be the limit for both of us. What matters to me is the actual interaction and wanting of another person. I agree with Skelli on the fact that, if I'm lusting for a specific person and not just some porn fantasy, I'd go bang my partner.

[size=10]*Note that I am pretty flexible when it comes to limits, so I am willing to be in an open relationship, depending on the girl involved, so by closed, I'm thinking of being in a relationship where I want my girl to be mine alone and always.[/h]