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1st of all before i tell my story the reason im using this account is because i do not want to reveal my real user name to the community.
so here is my story.
I am a married man with a wife and 3 beautiful children.i love my family and they mean the whole world to me. so about 4 months ago my wife asked me to if i could go grocery shopping, go the the dry cleaners and then pick up her sister along with her kids up for dinner on the way home. I knew she was gonna ask me do the shopping and get the dry cleaners so i had it done b4. so i decided that i would pick up her sister and my nieces and nephews and take and head home to and have a fantastic lunch, surprise my wife and then ask her sister to baby sit so i can take her out on night of romance. Things just did not go out as planned.
1st what happened was that my sister in law had the nanny at her place to watch the kids and take them to school, so that she could go out, relax and enjoy the day because she is a single mom with beautiful children and she needed some time for her self. I managed to catch her as she was leaving and she was thrilled at the idea of having lunch at our place. so we go home without telling my wife and tried to surprise her. me and her walk into our place and we hear loud moans coming from the master bedroom. at this time our kids were in kindergarten. At this moment i knew my wife was cheating on me and so did her sister, and she knew how heartbroken i was. I was filled with rage and i wanted to burst in there, but my sister in law knew how much i cared about our family, and she knew i didn't want a broken family so she stopped me and told me to head to the car with her and pretend it never happened.
She knew i could not let this go and she knew i was in pain. this is when it all changed. when i got in the car with her she told me how she felt. she told me that i was a good man and i was to good for her sister. she kissed me on the lips and told me how she was always jealous of her having a perfect husband. she calmed me down and got me to talking. i told her that i did not want a broken family. that i did not want our kids to choose. i wanted to divorce my wife and rip her soul apart, but i didnt want my kids to suffer and choose what parent they wanted. i told her everything and my sister in law comforted me. she convinced me that i was okay because my wife was cheating on me and even though i always knew how beautifully my sister in law was i kept my urges in check and was happy with my wife. I know its wrong but i cheated on my wife with her sister that day and we enjoyed dinner and pretended nothing ever happened.
i soon started to fall for her sister more and more. my wife also realized that something was off cause i didn't touch her the same after that day. i told her sister that i was in love with her but i dont want to break my family apart and i know that my wife still cheats on me. so me and her sister started seeing each other. one day my wife came in lingerie and tried to have sex with me, but i asked if she still loves me the same way and how she feels about our family. she answered but i knew she was being deceitful and stormed away from my house to her sisters place.
This time my wife called her sister and told her how i am acting all strange. she even told her sister how she has been cheating on me for the past year with 2 other guys.
So now i been cheating on my wife for the last 4 months with her sister and im in love with her. i also think i got her pregnant and plan to take responsibility. She told me that i should still pretend to be in love with my wife and have sex with her etc and that she will tell her sister that it was a 1 night stand. This is my baby with the women i love.
I want to know what you guys think
I plan to go against the women i love and tell my wife its over between us. that i want a divorce, i also plan to propose to her sister who i am madly in love with and know its real. Her sister is afraid how her family will take it how awkward it will be. i want to take custody of my children and marry the women i love.
So what do u guys think?
i want to send my wife the divorce papers and tell her in laws and ask her in laws if it is okay to marry her sister.
i plan to get married but should i go against the women i love and break up with my wife. also can i get a womans perspective on this because i do not want her to think i betrayed her wishes and i am being selfish.
so here is my story.
I am a married man with a wife and 3 beautiful children.i love my family and they mean the whole world to me. so about 4 months ago my wife asked me to if i could go grocery shopping, go the the dry cleaners and then pick up her sister along with her kids up for dinner on the way home. I knew she was gonna ask me do the shopping and get the dry cleaners so i had it done b4. so i decided that i would pick up her sister and my nieces and nephews and take and head home to and have a fantastic lunch, surprise my wife and then ask her sister to baby sit so i can take her out on night of romance. Things just did not go out as planned.
1st what happened was that my sister in law had the nanny at her place to watch the kids and take them to school, so that she could go out, relax and enjoy the day because she is a single mom with beautiful children and she needed some time for her self. I managed to catch her as she was leaving and she was thrilled at the idea of having lunch at our place. so we go home without telling my wife and tried to surprise her. me and her walk into our place and we hear loud moans coming from the master bedroom. at this time our kids were in kindergarten. At this moment i knew my wife was cheating on me and so did her sister, and she knew how heartbroken i was. I was filled with rage and i wanted to burst in there, but my sister in law knew how much i cared about our family, and she knew i didn't want a broken family so she stopped me and told me to head to the car with her and pretend it never happened.
She knew i could not let this go and she knew i was in pain. this is when it all changed. when i got in the car with her she told me how she felt. she told me that i was a good man and i was to good for her sister. she kissed me on the lips and told me how she was always jealous of her having a perfect husband. she calmed me down and got me to talking. i told her that i did not want a broken family. that i did not want our kids to choose. i wanted to divorce my wife and rip her soul apart, but i didnt want my kids to suffer and choose what parent they wanted. i told her everything and my sister in law comforted me. she convinced me that i was okay because my wife was cheating on me and even though i always knew how beautifully my sister in law was i kept my urges in check and was happy with my wife. I know its wrong but i cheated on my wife with her sister that day and we enjoyed dinner and pretended nothing ever happened.
i soon started to fall for her sister more and more. my wife also realized that something was off cause i didn't touch her the same after that day. i told her sister that i was in love with her but i dont want to break my family apart and i know that my wife still cheats on me. so me and her sister started seeing each other. one day my wife came in lingerie and tried to have sex with me, but i asked if she still loves me the same way and how she feels about our family. she answered but i knew she was being deceitful and stormed away from my house to her sisters place.
This time my wife called her sister and told her how i am acting all strange. she even told her sister how she has been cheating on me for the past year with 2 other guys.
So now i been cheating on my wife for the last 4 months with her sister and im in love with her. i also think i got her pregnant and plan to take responsibility. She told me that i should still pretend to be in love with my wife and have sex with her etc and that she will tell her sister that it was a 1 night stand. This is my baby with the women i love.
I want to know what you guys think
I plan to go against the women i love and tell my wife its over between us. that i want a divorce, i also plan to propose to her sister who i am madly in love with and know its real. Her sister is afraid how her family will take it how awkward it will be. i want to take custody of my children and marry the women i love.
So what do u guys think?
i want to send my wife the divorce papers and tell her in laws and ask her in laws if it is okay to marry her sister.
i plan to get married but should i go against the women i love and break up with my wife. also can i get a womans perspective on this because i do not want her to think i betrayed her wishes and i am being selfish.
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Man, that's rough bro. You should have busted your wife when you had the chance. I wish I can offer more advice but I want to see what else the other members have to say about this before giving my final comments.
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sad story bro i will have to agree that the only way her family besides the sister will see her in the wrong id if you busted her in the act.. hate to bring this up but you have kids with her right 3 if i read right are you sure they are all yours.. i mean i know you love them all but you stated she has been cheating on you for 2+ years.. i hate to make you look for more wrongs shes done you but seems as at this point if you gona ask for divorce you need to start finding flaws in her chracter so you do win custody of your kids.
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MigZilla wrote...
sad story bro i will have to agree that the only way her family besides the sister will see her in the wrong id if you busted her in the act.. hate to bring this up but you have kids with her right 3 if i read right are you sure they are all yours.. i mean i know you love them all but you stated she has been cheating on you for 2+ years.. i hate to make you look for more wrongs shes done you but seems as at this point if you gona ask for divorce you need to start finding flaws in her chracter so you do win custody of your kids.Ty, you do have a point . i want to keep the kids and i would say that but i don't want it to go through DNA testing, because in worst case sceneario. maybe or or two of them arent my kids. i win and get my kids but she gets the one that ain't mine. for the kids it will be tearing them apart from family and i just would prefer not do that. i want to hurt her and keep the kids i love not hurt them. and i might got another coming soon to
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ya i understand raising them since birth to you even if not blood they ARE YOUR KIDS, much respect for that if you need any advice i went threw a divorce and custody battle 3 years ago. PM me if you want to know my specifics.
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Confront her, and get everything out in the open. Nobody here can give you great advice since nobody really knows what each party is thinking. And really, do you want people on a forum giving you advice to alter the rest of your life so drastically?
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I feel bad for you. What a stressful situation.
However, I say go along with the divorce and marry your true love.
If you know you will always be faithful to her, and she will to you.
Final answer: Follow your true love, with your honest feelings.
However, I say go along with the divorce and marry your true love.
If you know you will always be faithful to her, and she will to you.
Final answer: Follow your true love, with your honest feelings.
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yeah i never plan to cheat and also i am on here asking if i should go behind the women i love and tell my wife soon that i want a divorce and let her get shcoked to find that im with her sister
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imzrenchel wrote...
yeah i never plan to cheat and also i am on here asking if i should go behind the women i love and tell my wife soon that i want a divorce and let her get shcoked to find that im with her sisterYou got some real shit down in your life.
2 points I'd like to make:
1)I agree with Migzilla, even if they aren't related to you by blood, they are still YOUR KIDS. So what, you plan to let those childhood years they've had gone down to waste? You spend time with them, played with them, ate with them, have fun with them, and love them as a father. If you are really thinking about the kids, are you really ready to give up your time and precious memories with those kids away?
2) Try talking it seriously to the sister. See if her feelings can return to you even if the family matters will be awkward. Confirm if your own eyes and conscience that her love for you is real just as you are to her. As for your wife, well...you should know about her true feelings.
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I'll try to set aside the fact, that I despite liking NTR, it is something only for emotionally mature people.
Now first of all, divorcing or not will affect your kids significantly, judging from the way you describe your wife and from yours and her sister's reactions, I am pretty sure a lot of drama will follow for years to come.
Second, if you really love your kids or any of the sisters, you should control the damage you already did, by letting your wife humiliate you, then ASAP returning the favour with the worst person imaginable, and now pondering about exposing what all three of you feel uncomfortable being involved in to everyone else.
I don't want to sound too judgemental, but the events you describe show an utter lack of reason. The only thing left to do is to minimize the consequences of your actions (all three of you), and try to hurt as little as possible your kids, since already what happened will take them years to get over.
And remember good parenting is not done by love and wishes, but by maturity and responsibility.
EDIT: Oh! and I really hope you're a troll!
Now first of all, divorcing or not will affect your kids significantly, judging from the way you describe your wife and from yours and her sister's reactions, I am pretty sure a lot of drama will follow for years to come.
Second, if you really love your kids or any of the sisters, you should control the damage you already did, by letting your wife humiliate you, then ASAP returning the favour with the worst person imaginable, and now pondering about exposing what all three of you feel uncomfortable being involved in to everyone else.
I don't want to sound too judgemental, but the events you describe show an utter lack of reason. The only thing left to do is to minimize the consequences of your actions (all three of you), and try to hurt as little as possible your kids, since already what happened will take them years to get over.
And remember good parenting is not done by love and wishes, but by maturity and responsibility.
EDIT: Oh! and I really hope you're a troll!
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
for this, i'm going to call your current wife bob and your current wifes sister derp. purely for the fact writing it all down as i had before was going to confuse somebody...
Fair point.. It would be a hard thing to do... either way, if you hadn't of cheated on bob, and busted in there, you most likely would have ended up in a divorce, and hating life.. My only concern is, that if you do divorce bob, don't be the sucker who gets nothing cause his wife is a manipulative biatch (no offense, I've seen movies when this happens, not fun, and yes i know movies aren't real, but shit happens)
But I'd say follow your heart, and try to take custody of the kids and at least your car and whatever else you've bought.. so you aren't soley relying on derp (this being after you've asked her on how she feels, and she says she's ready and fine with the consequences)
Also, be aware if you do go ahead and marry your derp, and divorce bob, the two sisters will hate each other, and it may tear their family apart slightly... But then again, bob may be outcasted from the family for cheating on her husband.. depending on how her family goes..
All I can do, is wish you the best of luck and hope your new life with derp goes well, and that you get the children and your car and whatever else. Just don't be greedy.. may not work out for you :/
Again, best of luck. I hope derp is up for marrying you and such.. If it gets bad enough, you can get a restraining order on bob.. but y'know that's only if shit gets bad...
That's my 20cents :)
hope it provided some help
Fair point.. It would be a hard thing to do... either way, if you hadn't of cheated on bob, and busted in there, you most likely would have ended up in a divorce, and hating life.. My only concern is, that if you do divorce bob, don't be the sucker who gets nothing cause his wife is a manipulative biatch (no offense, I've seen movies when this happens, not fun, and yes i know movies aren't real, but shit happens)
But I'd say follow your heart, and try to take custody of the kids and at least your car and whatever else you've bought.. so you aren't soley relying on derp (this being after you've asked her on how she feels, and she says she's ready and fine with the consequences)
Also, be aware if you do go ahead and marry your derp, and divorce bob, the two sisters will hate each other, and it may tear their family apart slightly... But then again, bob may be outcasted from the family for cheating on her husband.. depending on how her family goes..
All I can do, is wish you the best of luck and hope your new life with derp goes well, and that you get the children and your car and whatever else. Just don't be greedy.. may not work out for you :/
Again, best of luck. I hope derp is up for marrying you and such.. If it gets bad enough, you can get a restraining order on bob.. but y'know that's only if shit gets bad...
That's my 20cents :)
hope it provided some help
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I've seen some doozies in my day but this is one fucked up double crossing shit. So what happened in the end?
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you have it rough bro, but if i were you, the moment i cought her cheating. The obvious response would be to storm in, but since you didnt i think its for the better because you care for your children too. But the thing is, i dont think you should have cheated on your wife either way. Even though you were mad i know its unreasonable but it really would have been better if you havent cheated with your wife. It would be best to talk it out first, i know a shout fight would be unavoidable in the current situation, but its for the best. Taking custody of your children would be the right choice too since your wife has been cheating on you. But, you made a mistake yourself for cheating on her too. You should have just talked to her, gotten a divorce. And be a single dad with your children, but tough luck cause since your children are still young, chances are they would side with the mom. But then if you have gotten a divorce and taken custody of your children, i suppose it would be fine to go for her sister. But it is unavoidable to not look like a douche to your ex wife.
In short, you shouldn't have cheated on your wife, left her with your children. Rest and think things over a bit. And then i suppose it would be alright to remarry again. But since im catholic i wouldnt remarry until my wife has passed away. Note im not married, i dont plan to get a wife until im stable.
In short, you shouldn't have cheated on your wife, left her with your children. Rest and think things over a bit. And then i suppose it would be alright to remarry again. But since im catholic i wouldnt remarry until my wife has passed away. Note im not married, i dont plan to get a wife until im stable.
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I want to keep my answers short as much as possible so I'll just keep this simple.
You should reconsider doing that divorce. Think about your kids man, it's not only about you, your wife, and her sister, the kids are in this too. I would be pissed to see myself grown up with a stepfather.
One question, did you ever confront your wife about this? I'm talking about her cheating on you. If you didn't, I think you should talk about this first before any divorce papers come at hand.
Anyways, it's still your decision in the end.
EDIT: It's funny the way you asked the Fakku people about this. If this is actually true, then you're asking the wrong people.
You should reconsider doing that divorce. Think about your kids man, it's not only about you, your wife, and her sister, the kids are in this too. I would be pissed to see myself grown up with a stepfather.
One question, did you ever confront your wife about this? I'm talking about her cheating on you. If you didn't, I think you should talk about this first before any divorce papers come at hand.
Anyways, it's still your decision in the end.
EDIT: It's funny the way you asked the Fakku people about this. If this is actually true, then you're asking the wrong people.
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Hmmm i was going to say "Divorce that slutty how and be happy with the sister" BUT you could always go the Revenge route by just sleeping with the sister and totally ignoring your wife, for example, when she asks you to do something, tell her to do it her fucking self.
Or you could set up a camera in your room before you leave, and monitor her actions. You catch her and the guy in the act, keep it for evidence. THEN to the above. When she asks why the fuck you did that, and starts bawwing, drag her sorry ass to th loungeroom and play the video of HER FUCKING THE GUY.
If she still tries to deny it or starts arguing with you, hand her the divorce papers with your side already filled out STRAIGHT AWAY, then pack your shit and go to your sisters house.
(If court proceeds, then you might wanna keep that tape for more evidence.)
If this story is true, and you haven't done anything wrong, then you obviously don't deserve this shit.
Last of all, before you attempt the above and proceed with anything you might wanna goto a lawyer first, that way you're covered if she decides to try and fuck you over.
Or you could set up a camera in your room before you leave, and monitor her actions. You catch her and the guy in the act, keep it for evidence. THEN to the above. When she asks why the fuck you did that, and starts bawwing, drag her sorry ass to th loungeroom and play the video of HER FUCKING THE GUY.
If she still tries to deny it or starts arguing with you, hand her the divorce papers with your side already filled out STRAIGHT AWAY, then pack your shit and go to your sisters house.
(If court proceeds, then you might wanna keep that tape for more evidence.)
If this story is true, and you haven't done anything wrong, then you obviously don't deserve this shit.
Last of all, before you attempt the above and proceed with anything you might wanna goto a lawyer first, that way you're covered if she decides to try and fuck you over.
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Speaking as a girl, I personally think you should be with the one you love. Your wife's cheating habits are probably a sign that your marriage is probably not in the best condition as is, and may lead to a divorce in time. You should probably affirm that your wife's sister is actually in love with you. You should also confront your wife.
How you choose to approach this problem is entirely up to you. Since your children are so young they might not entirely understand the situation. Either way, they're bound to witness some tension considering the circumstances, even if you chose to stay with your wife, so it's best to get everything out in the open now. Of course, this is just my opinion so you should act the way you see best.
How you choose to approach this problem is entirely up to you. Since your children are so young they might not entirely understand the situation. Either way, they're bound to witness some tension considering the circumstances, even if you chose to stay with your wife, so it's best to get everything out in the open now. Of course, this is just my opinion so you should act the way you see best.
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Flaser
OCD Hentai Collector
Guy here. Before you drag the whole issue into a courtroom you could try and settle this peacefully. Granted she's the one who started the cheating, but since you've been with her sister and kept it secret I don't see how you'd have the moral high ground if it came to court.
...and even if she's not faithful to you, has she done *anything* neglectful toward your kids? Much as it hurts now, she's still the mother of your children and should have a chance to be part of their life.
What if her reasons for keeping things in the dark was, because she too wanted to keep the family "going" for the sake of the kids?
Granted I *don't* know the details of your situation and I *don't* know her, but before you go to full blown legal war over your children the least you could do would be to *consider* a peaceful solution to all of this.
You don't want to live with her, and probably neither does she want to be with you either... however this doesn't meant that you can't come to an understanding.
I know what I'm writing is probably hurtful, but you should hear at least a single voice of reason that advocates being mature and responsible (toward everyone involved) rather than going off on either a revenge scenario ("hurting the bitch") or playing false ("keeping up the pretense").
Finally you'll also have to sort out your own feelings of hurt and betrayal. Did her cheating hurt you because if betrayed your trust or because you felt like you "owned" her? Was her lying to you constrained to this singular issue or other things as well? Don't write whatever you came to, just take the time so you know it yourself, so you can think with a clear head.
PS.: What I write is possible since that's what my father did before marrying my mother. He already had two daughters at that time and even after his divorce they were very much part of our life, so thanks to his mature approach to the whole issue I have three sisters instead one.
...and even if she's not faithful to you, has she done *anything* neglectful toward your kids? Much as it hurts now, she's still the mother of your children and should have a chance to be part of their life.
What if her reasons for keeping things in the dark was, because she too wanted to keep the family "going" for the sake of the kids?
Granted I *don't* know the details of your situation and I *don't* know her, but before you go to full blown legal war over your children the least you could do would be to *consider* a peaceful solution to all of this.
You don't want to live with her, and probably neither does she want to be with you either... however this doesn't meant that you can't come to an understanding.
I know what I'm writing is probably hurtful, but you should hear at least a single voice of reason that advocates being mature and responsible (toward everyone involved) rather than going off on either a revenge scenario ("hurting the bitch") or playing false ("keeping up the pretense").
Finally you'll also have to sort out your own feelings of hurt and betrayal. Did her cheating hurt you because if betrayed your trust or because you felt like you "owned" her? Was her lying to you constrained to this singular issue or other things as well? Don't write whatever you came to, just take the time so you know it yourself, so you can think with a clear head.
PS.: What I write is possible since that's what my father did before marrying my mother. He already had two daughters at that time and even after his divorce they were very much part of our life, so thanks to his mature approach to the whole issue I have three sisters instead one.
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The first mistake you made was pretending what you heard never happened. The second, was cheating on your wife with her sister. Yes, your wife cheated on you, but it doesn't mean you're entitled to cheat on her too.
You've only been with your wife's sister for 4 months and you say you love her. How long will that last? Your wife's sister knowingly slept with a married man, whose to say she won't do it again when she finds some other 'perfect husband'? Instead of talking things out with your wife and saving the marriage you jumped the gun and destroyed any chance of possibly fixing it.
How about your kids? How confused are they going to be that now Daddy is with their Aunt? How is that going to be explained?
You've only been with this woman for 4 months, put your dick in your pants and think for a second.You haven't even SPOKEN to your wife about the problem yet! Honestly you're just as bad as she is, but you're just taking the high horse angle by telling us "WELL SHE DID IT FIRST!". You did the same exact thing she did. You're the one whose divorcing her. You're the one who will probably make your kids life miserable because they will want their mother not their aunt. She's the one that cheated, you're the one that didn't do anything about it. On top of it all you made the same exact mistake your wife did. So, you take the coward way out. This is why most marriages are doomed to fail, lack of communication.
You've only been with your wife's sister for 4 months and you say you love her. How long will that last? Your wife's sister knowingly slept with a married man, whose to say she won't do it again when she finds some other 'perfect husband'? Instead of talking things out with your wife and saving the marriage you jumped the gun and destroyed any chance of possibly fixing it.
How about your kids? How confused are they going to be that now Daddy is with their Aunt? How is that going to be explained?
You've only been with this woman for 4 months, put your dick in your pants and think for a second.You haven't even SPOKEN to your wife about the problem yet! Honestly you're just as bad as she is, but you're just taking the high horse angle by telling us "WELL SHE DID IT FIRST!". You did the same exact thing she did. You're the one whose divorcing her. You're the one who will probably make your kids life miserable because they will want their mother not their aunt. She's the one that cheated, you're the one that didn't do anything about it. On top of it all you made the same exact mistake your wife did. So, you take the coward way out. This is why most marriages are doomed to fail, lack of communication.
