How do girls fall in love? (female point of view)

Like a trap floor.

PAINT ME LIKE ONE OF YOUR FRENCH GIRLS

It starts with lots of talking. You get to really know someone and then it just kinda hits you on the back of the head. True love doesn't just happen. It takes time. Those romances that they say they're gonna get married after a week of dating is a bunch of bullshit. They don't last. However, the ones that you work on and let develop naturally. Those do.

Umm... There is a guy that I truly loved, kinda still do but can't do anything about. The way I fell for him was we talked a lot. We worked on something together, with a little bit of flirting. Then I started learning more about him. I kept looking forward to talking to him and seeing him. What really finished it though, was that I shared something super personal that still scares me. I've been trying to remember what exactly he said, but it was one of the sweetest things I've ever heard. It, no, He made me feel better about it. Now when I thinking of him, it's this warm feeling and a smile. Every time I talk to him, it just refreshes that feeling.

I have to admit though, some facts (as it was put) come into play. It helps that the guy I mentioned above is fairly close to my age, same religion, likes the same music as me, and etc. The key thing is getting your foot in the door, to let the girl know you. Those facts block the girl from putting in the effort to know you, but once she does. It's just a matter of time.

Does that help?

Looking back on my love life (which is relatively short mind you), I fall in love by first sight. Simply spontaneous feelings. It sucks and I really hate my dopamines and serotonins.

There's a really good manga by CLAMP about girls in love, The One I Love. It's actually a set of 15ish stories about different girls in different situations.

Here are two stories:

Suddenly: "Love always happens suddenly." A girl working in a design company thinks about her past relationships, and one of her coworkers, whom she doesn't get along with. When a design job goes wrong and that coworker offers his ideas, she realizes that she is in love with him.

Normal: "How do all those couples cross the threshold from 'love' into marriage." A young woman has doubts about getting married to her boyfriend. In the end, she realizes that even if they marry, nothing will change between them.

Anyway, I think it's a good example of how differently women's emotions can develop. I've never fallen in love in an instant. It's only through a man's personality and our connection that I can get to know him well enough to fall in love. And usually there is a time when I notice I've crossed from fondness to love, without even realizing it~

In most of my previous relationships, I fell in love at first sight - almost. Especially with girls, at the time I was immature, and would fall in love with anyone who fit into the my "ideal" mold - short, cute, girly, generally younger then me, people who excited me by their lukewarm attentions that burned hot and then ran cold. These are very quick relationships that ended just as quickly as they began. Nowadays, I've become more open-minded, but even so my desperation to find someone to love still lead me into a "trap". I fell in love hard, and put up with his abuses just because I wanted it to be the happily-ever-after that I'd always dreamed of. He ended up emotionally (and probably physically) cheating on me, making me feel that I was making everything up, and eventually dumped me once he had gotten everything he wanted from me. I felt very scarred from this, because I had entered so optimistically; so vulnerably. I put so much energy and emotion into the relationship that I was scared to fall in love again - would I be blinded? Would I give away the rest of myself to someone undeserving of my unconditional, self-sacrificing love? But I was lonely. I still wanted to connect with someone. Deep down, I still believed in that happy ending. When I met my boyfriend, I was distant towards him. I had a "take me or leave me" attitude, and because of that honesty, we were blunt with one another and open with one another and I began to trust him. It wasn't until I visited his family for the first time that I truly believed that he was as wonderful as he had portrayed. I fell in love with him not suddenly, but by the time it had fully blossomed it was a strong and devoted love. He is respectful, considerate, and kind towards me always... but we can also laugh and pick at one another when it's appropriate. I'm happy that I didn't fall head over heels for him, but instead let our love grow naturally. We've been together for two happy years :)