I'm sure a lot of people have had bully experiences in their lives
how did you deal with it?
do you have any regrets in the method you chose to handle it?
if you ignored did you ever wish you fought back?
if you fought back did you ever think about what would have happened had you just ignored?
here is my experience and how I dealt with them if anyone wants to know.
first school I was at I was bullied heavily I tried to ignore it(after talking to teachers and my mom slapping me for even bringing up me having a bully problem) was a group of 4 one day I had enough flipped out and threw a chair at one of em rushed and jumped on another one and started punching him repeatedly his friend was on the ground bleeding and trying to recover from getting a chair thrown at em and his other two so called "friends"(fucking cowards really) ran while the teachers frantically tried to get me off of him they left me alone(well my mother did beat the crap outta me call me a weakling and tell me to just handle it myself... so naturally I did) after that till new students came in some got brave and some new guys who didn't know me tried to prove themselves with me till one time the teachers and staff dogpiled on me(it was a hands on school) slamming my face into the ground after they let me up my nose was bloody and some was coming out of my mouth too out of rage I spat my blood at them screaming at them I still remember the look of fear on the teachers face while I was spitting my blood at him it looked as if he had seen a ghost, everyone did more then just not talk to me for a whole week after that they never even mentioned my name not even once.(atleast not around me)
2nd school had a problem with two dudes one of em took it too far and I flipped the table on him(literally lifted a tabled onto him) his friend jumped back and was continuing to move back while screaming I still remember exactly what he said "damn, damn! what the fuck is wrong with you!" I was suspended however once I came back to school they still talked shit about me but they kept there distance mostly just a few gang members here and there(basically some fights after that but they mostly stayed away atleast)
3rd school there was a rumor set up about me people saying I was gonna be some mass murdering homicidal maniac, maybe I'm putting it on a bit thick but a serial killer basically at first I tried to say it wasn't true but then nobody believed me so instead I just used it to influence fear throughout the school people left me alone except a few gang bangers trying to prove something I beat them down every time but mostly people stayed back out of pure fear
final school and the one time I wasn't ever approached by a bully trying to bully me but it was the first time anyone asked me to approach a bully
he was going too far and even worse he had already been beaten down once out of rage and stupidity he punched a iron signpost right after the fight that he was beaten down in I tried to approach via friendlier methods then a girl got involved one that wanted nothing to do with him(or anyone for that matter) seeing as how I was a loner myself I know even the ones who isolate themselves want some method of interaction even a minor gesture of kindness I said good morning to her everyday as time passed I asked her how she was doing or feeling eventually started including her in jokes trying to make her laugh a bit she became comfortable with me sitting close to her and he took offence to that he challenged me several times over other things before and now he became more aggressive due to his infatuation with the girl I had already told him "you've already been beaten down by one of my other friends he was smaller then you and not as heavily trained as me and yet you ended up in the hospital because of him... let me be very clear with you if he was enough to hospitalize you then any attempt at fighting me wont result in a hospital visit it will end in a one way trip to the morgue"
he challenged me over her and said not to talk to her I laughed at him and told him
"first off I'm just friends with her, she isn't very trusting and is very alone and you want me to stay away from her? 2ndly you realize your challenging me for a girl right look maybe you don't know this but places I been that's like challenging a guy to a gunfight so don't be saying shit like that to me unless your ready to draw guns are we fucking clear?"
our last interaction was one where he almost actually pushed it too far he picked up a table in the lunchroom while screaming at me the teacher was trying to calm him down but he wasn't listening I stood my ground looked at him and smiled honestly I was hoping he would throw the table so I could have reason to beat him down he just looked at me and put the table down then started crying in that moment I felt my smile fade in that moment I realized I was no longer protecting my friends from a bully I realized I had become a bully and I had utterly destroyed him
pushed him so far he had a mental breakdown... or as my friend the school nurse said
"its not about who won just whos the bigger asshole" guess it was his way of telling me I was just being the bigger asshole.
in my mind I think I may have gone too far in multiple places but what do you think.
too much too far? maybe just a few mistakes?
