I seriously need advice right now I'm so confused....
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I really need help with this because I just don't know what to do anymore.
I guess I should start from the beginning.
At the start of this year I met this girl who I started talking to alot and ofc I started to really like her. Sadly however, she never liked me the same way so I did act abit stupid when it came to asking her out (infact I done it 4 times...yh it was pathetic really). But during these few months I really felt like I was just being annoying and I felt that each with each day past I was making things worse. I also really hurt her twice by accident aswell which really did get to me. So I tried to move on from her since I didn't want to hurt her again and I would much like to be friends with her still. Then a friend of mine before that broke up with somebody since things were not working out and a few weeks after that he told me he likes the girl that I liked. Since I was trying to move on from her anyway and I knew that he could do everything that I couldn't for her. So, I really wanted for him to get with her since I wanted to see him happy and her happy.
So anyway not long after that I started talking to this girl again that I knew. I use to talk to her a few months back but I never talked much so I decided to talk to her properly this time. Long story short I really started to like her. I never once thought about the other girl while I was with her even once and she is just...exactly my type. But sadly she had a boyfriend. That fact alone didn't bother me really since I wasn't exactly looking for a relationship with her at this moment anyway. But what did get to me is that she is going out with the same friend that told me he liked the other girl and he has been actually going out with her since he broke up with the other girl (I may like to add that the girl did end it not him) Also, he said that he may still have feelings for her aswell.
So right now I just really don't know what to do. I would like to go out with the girl I started talking to again but she's going out with him and it's made me really confused since he told me he likes the girl I liked first.
I'm sorry if I confused you aswell while you was reading this but....I really do need help here. I honestly do not know what do....
I guess I should start from the beginning.
At the start of this year I met this girl who I started talking to alot and ofc I started to really like her. Sadly however, she never liked me the same way so I did act abit stupid when it came to asking her out (infact I done it 4 times...yh it was pathetic really). But during these few months I really felt like I was just being annoying and I felt that each with each day past I was making things worse. I also really hurt her twice by accident aswell which really did get to me. So I tried to move on from her since I didn't want to hurt her again and I would much like to be friends with her still. Then a friend of mine before that broke up with somebody since things were not working out and a few weeks after that he told me he likes the girl that I liked. Since I was trying to move on from her anyway and I knew that he could do everything that I couldn't for her. So, I really wanted for him to get with her since I wanted to see him happy and her happy.
So anyway not long after that I started talking to this girl again that I knew. I use to talk to her a few months back but I never talked much so I decided to talk to her properly this time. Long story short I really started to like her. I never once thought about the other girl while I was with her even once and she is just...exactly my type. But sadly she had a boyfriend. That fact alone didn't bother me really since I wasn't exactly looking for a relationship with her at this moment anyway. But what did get to me is that she is going out with the same friend that told me he liked the other girl and he has been actually going out with her since he broke up with the other girl (I may like to add that the girl did end it not him) Also, he said that he may still have feelings for her aswell.
So right now I just really don't know what to do. I would like to go out with the girl I started talking to again but she's going out with him and it's made me really confused since he told me he likes the girl I liked first.
I'm sorry if I confused you aswell while you was reading this but....I really do need help here. I honestly do not know what do....
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You stated you aren't trying to pursue the second girl, and the first has firmly rejected you. I'm confused as what you're agonizing over. Whether to tell the second girl your bf is likely going to dump her or that he's aggressively pursuing the first?
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I'd stay out of it. Just sit back and watch the situation blow up on your indecisive friend, then see whats up for grabs in the aftermath. Sooner or later cheaters always get cought.
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First off- did your guy friend know you had the hots for either of these girls? You have no control over whether girls are into you or not. I agree w/ the guy that there is nothing there to agonize over. I'm less concerned over the girls that aren't into you and more concerned over your friend who is effectively poaching your love interests. In the future, you and your buddies need to be clear about who considers what girl a prospect and the other guy need to respect that. If he isn't loyal enough to respect your interests (realistic or not) he is a shitty wingman and you need more loyal guy friends. You should be given the room to lay the foundation for your prospective relationships or to not watch your crush get busy with your supposed friend. He should be supporting your cause and helping it, not undermining it by swooping your prospective girl. He has put you in a bad spot and isn't being a friend!!!
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
Trade girls. You get his girlfriend, he gets the girl that rejected you.
I think it's obvious what you should do, you need to speak to your friend and both the girls involved about all this. Try to arrange for the four of you to meet up, sit down and just talk about the situation.
You obviously have a crush on his girlfriend (I'm assuming the feeling's mutual as you've not told us whether she likes you back), while he's actively pursuing the girl you like/liked who just so happens to be his ex (again, assuming she likes him), but the problem is he hasn't broken up with his girlfriend so he currently has dibs on both of them, which isn't fair on you.
There seriously needs to be more communication going on here because by the looks of it there isn't any at all.
I think it's obvious what you should do, you need to speak to your friend and both the girls involved about all this. Try to arrange for the four of you to meet up, sit down and just talk about the situation.
You obviously have a crush on his girlfriend (I'm assuming the feeling's mutual as you've not told us whether she likes you back), while he's actively pursuing the girl you like/liked who just so happens to be his ex (again, assuming she likes him), but the problem is he hasn't broken up with his girlfriend so he currently has dibs on both of them, which isn't fair on you.
There seriously needs to be more communication going on here because by the looks of it there isn't any at all.
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Honestly stay out of it. I know it sucks when people take the one person you want away, but if they are happy with them, then let it be, I've always been a strong believe of not butting into another persons relationship whether you feel you could be better for them or not.
Now if your friend is harshly pursuing girl#1(the one you liked first) than I'd let his current girlfriend, girl#2 know that he's after another girl right now. Or even ask how long they've been together, because for all you know the way it sounds is that he may have been seeing her before him and his original girlfriend broke up. (Plus you stated she left him, so she may have left him for being with girl#2 behind her back ya know?)
In the end don't do anything just because you want to be happy, if you try to ruin someone elses happiness for yours, you'll lose friends and he's a dick about it enough possibly try and kick your ass.
Who knows maybe in the end he really does like girl#2 over girl#1.
Key thing, don't assume anything till you know the facts.
Now if your friend is harshly pursuing girl#1(the one you liked first) than I'd let his current girlfriend, girl#2 know that he's after another girl right now. Or even ask how long they've been together, because for all you know the way it sounds is that he may have been seeing her before him and his original girlfriend broke up. (Plus you stated she left him, so she may have left him for being with girl#2 behind her back ya know?)
In the end don't do anything just because you want to be happy, if you try to ruin someone elses happiness for yours, you'll lose friends and he's a dick about it enough possibly try and kick your ass.
Who knows maybe in the end he really does like girl#2 over girl#1.
Key thing, don't assume anything till you know the facts.
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I'm not sure what to tell you. Breaking up the second girl's relationship with your friend is just wrong, as that truth is his to tell. You could push him to come clean, but that is ultimately his decision. If you like this new girl, but aren't willing to commit to a relationship with her, then it's not something worth crying over.
You and your friend have more or less made your beds. You have to lie in it.
You and your friend have more or less made your beds. You have to lie in it.