Internet Relationships
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Not like E-harmony or something like that. Like meeting someone on a forum and some how falling for them by the words they type and how they react to you. I know there have been 2 couples that met on fakku. One couple married already and the other getting ready to marry. A toast to ziggy and fpod may your otaku marriage be a great one! Wouldn't it be great to find someone with the same interests in anime like you? No more "hey anime is for kids" comments from gfs but they'll actually discuss with you about a certain anime. I could understand why there would be white knights on an anime site when they know there is a girl posting because a thought in your mind clicks and says " Hey she likes the same things you like."
Which makes one wonder, how does an anime net relationship happen?
Which makes one wonder, how does an anime net relationship happen?
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Uh, I met my ex girlfriend on an anime forum of all places.
I don't even really remember how we started talking. I think she randomly IMd me one day because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to. We talked for a few weeks and we hit off so well that I asked her if it was okay with her if I considered her my girlfriend. Yeah, I even asked it in such a lame ass way.
We had similar tastes in anime and manga, yet strangely we rarely talked about that. We were more interested in each other's hobbies and private lives than what we shared in common. I wonder now that if we focused a bit more on what we had in common if things would have turned out differently, but oh well little late to be thinking that now. Heh.
From there we only had contact on the computer and on the phone, and that lasted for a couple of years. As far as personal interactions it's the standard internet affair. No need to explain.
That was about the extent of our relationship. May have been simple, but it worked for quite a long time, but eventually the distance thing became one of the leading factors as to why we broke up.
I also wonder how it would have turned out if we were older and could have actually gotten together and lived together, but then it could have turned out similarly despite all of that, and it would have been quite the pain in the ass.
I don't even really remember how we started talking. I think she randomly IMd me one day because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to. We talked for a few weeks and we hit off so well that I asked her if it was okay with her if I considered her my girlfriend. Yeah, I even asked it in such a lame ass way.
We had similar tastes in anime and manga, yet strangely we rarely talked about that. We were more interested in each other's hobbies and private lives than what we shared in common. I wonder now that if we focused a bit more on what we had in common if things would have turned out differently, but oh well little late to be thinking that now. Heh.
From there we only had contact on the computer and on the phone, and that lasted for a couple of years. As far as personal interactions it's the standard internet affair. No need to explain.
That was about the extent of our relationship. May have been simple, but it worked for quite a long time, but eventually the distance thing became one of the leading factors as to why we broke up.
I also wonder how it would have turned out if we were older and could have actually gotten together and lived together, but then it could have turned out similarly despite all of that, and it would have been quite the pain in the ass.
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Well, I've never really been in an relationship as such but I met one of my best friends on a forum.
Just as with Tsurayu I don't really know how we started talking, we had been roleplaying through the forum a couple of times and somehow started talking about various stuff over PMs and MSN.
From the start we mostly talked about anime and books and that stuff, but with time we started talking about more and more personal stuff.
After about half a year or something we decided that we should meet, so I actually took the train about 400 miles down to her town and stayed there over a weekend, it was really cool since it was the first I actually met someone in that manner. (I had met people from the forum before when they arranged gatherings and stuff but I had never been so personal, like meeting one specific person like that.)
We were really close to eachother after that and talked about considering our relationship a "real" one, but decided that the distance thing wouldn't work out and gave it up.
Nowadays(This happened about 5-6 years ago) we have close contact through IMs and phone, and meet up about twice a year.
Just as with Tsurayu I don't really know how we started talking, we had been roleplaying through the forum a couple of times and somehow started talking about various stuff over PMs and MSN.
From the start we mostly talked about anime and books and that stuff, but with time we started talking about more and more personal stuff.
After about half a year or something we decided that we should meet, so I actually took the train about 400 miles down to her town and stayed there over a weekend, it was really cool since it was the first I actually met someone in that manner. (I had met people from the forum before when they arranged gatherings and stuff but I had never been so personal, like meeting one specific person like that.)
We were really close to eachother after that and talked about considering our relationship a "real" one, but decided that the distance thing wouldn't work out and gave it up.
Nowadays(This happened about 5-6 years ago) we have close contact through IMs and phone, and meet up about twice a year.
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Looky-tan
Got Megane?
Not much for relationships, just I've met nice people, all of which I can't see in real life, due to vast distances. 1 person is relative distance and is a special person to me, we might be able to met during the summer. No more info will be disclosed.
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mibuchiha
Fakku Elder
Wha- FPoD and Ziggy are seriously gonna marry? This is an awesome news. Gratz to them both.
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Man,it's rare these things work out, Then again I never get close enough to the inner community in sites like these(bigger sites). Which is pretty much the reason Why I stay in here and serious section so I know the people who visit those 2 places often...
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mibuchiha wrote...
Wha- FPoD and Ziggy are seriously gonna marry? This is an awesome news. Gratz to them both.I never knew that!!! That's actually amazing! Congratulations to both of them!
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Brittany
Director of Production
We're not engaged D;
Though there are anime dating sites, where you can hook up with locals, whether just for friends sake or for something more.
Though there are anime dating sites, where you can hook up with locals, whether just for friends sake or for something more.
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Ziggy wrote...
We're not engaged yet D;Though there are anime dating sites, where you can hook up with locals, whether just for friends sake or for something more.
Fixed
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TBH i honestly don't know what to think of relationships where neither party has met each other irl yet... i mean things are real different online than offline. i've had three girlfriends online, two of them i asked out after meeting them IRL first, and those worked out okay, but the one where I hadn't even met her before ended in a disaster, and even tho we broke up before we met IRL, when we finally did meet it was also just a hot mess.
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Brittany
Director of Production
Jacob would be enraged if we were engaged and he hadn't heard about it ;p
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I want to say that meeting people online or dating someone because you both had similar interest will end up badly because it is a bad foundation. But Ziggy would be a living contradiction to that statement. I guess it doesn't matter how you meet someone, it is just if you have complimenting personalities and you both put in effort to the relationship.
@himeko - hrmm... hot mess you say...?
@himeko - hrmm... hot mess you say...?
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Brittany
Director of Production
Neko, I'll semi agree with that.
While Fpod and I have similar interests, our personalities are vastly different from each other. He can be more aggressive and typically when he gets annoyed I'm the one that is calm and gets him to calm down. However, he's very responsible and creates a foundation that I can slip up with due to constantly having a full plate of things to do all the time.
We have this perfect balance of giving each other enough space because we both seek our own time to ourselves (IE Him playing video games/watching TV and I edit/chill out on the computer).
Our relationship is very what one lacks another one makes up for, so that alone is probably the key factor that we work out so well.
Sometimes people will ask me how our relationship ended up working as if I hold a secret on how to get an online relationship to work and it really wasn't something I'd suggest to anybody else
When Fpod and I started talking, that's all it was, we never imagined we'd get close, let alone move in together.
It wasn't until he asked what I wanted to do for a career and told him I was moving out of state to go to a university that he realized the university I wanted to go to was 40 minutes where he lived.
And I didn't meet him until my mom couldn't come with me to Georgia for the college tour because of health issues. I couldn't rent a car because I'm not 25, so I asked if he'd pick me up at the airport and take me to the campus for a tour.
We enjoyed our time together, and we knew we had feelings for each other after spending months talking to each other online and on the phone a lot and then spending a few days together.
We moved in rather quickly, and I would absolutely never suggest the idea to anybody else. I needed a roommate, and he wanted out of his parents house. We had feelings for each other and we figured we could work things out between us.
I only got to meet him a few times between the move to georgia and when I lived at home. He'd travel up to see me whenever he was on the road and heading in the general direction.
We've lived together for a year now, and we're still in a healthy relationship with each other, and both of us see each other as a long term/permanent partner. There are sometimes tiffs that come up, and sometimes we get frustrated at each other - but if we NEVER disagreed on something, we wouldn't be human.
But quite honestly, if there's no intention of one person relocating from a long distance to a local relationship - I don't see it lasting. At some point somebody has to relocate.
While Fpod and I have similar interests, our personalities are vastly different from each other. He can be more aggressive and typically when he gets annoyed I'm the one that is calm and gets him to calm down. However, he's very responsible and creates a foundation that I can slip up with due to constantly having a full plate of things to do all the time.
We have this perfect balance of giving each other enough space because we both seek our own time to ourselves (IE Him playing video games/watching TV and I edit/chill out on the computer).
Our relationship is very what one lacks another one makes up for, so that alone is probably the key factor that we work out so well.
Sometimes people will ask me how our relationship ended up working as if I hold a secret on how to get an online relationship to work and it really wasn't something I'd suggest to anybody else
When Fpod and I started talking, that's all it was, we never imagined we'd get close, let alone move in together.
It wasn't until he asked what I wanted to do for a career and told him I was moving out of state to go to a university that he realized the university I wanted to go to was 40 minutes where he lived.
And I didn't meet him until my mom couldn't come with me to Georgia for the college tour because of health issues. I couldn't rent a car because I'm not 25, so I asked if he'd pick me up at the airport and take me to the campus for a tour.
We enjoyed our time together, and we knew we had feelings for each other after spending months talking to each other online and on the phone a lot and then spending a few days together.
We moved in rather quickly, and I would absolutely never suggest the idea to anybody else. I needed a roommate, and he wanted out of his parents house. We had feelings for each other and we figured we could work things out between us.
I only got to meet him a few times between the move to georgia and when I lived at home. He'd travel up to see me whenever he was on the road and heading in the general direction.
We've lived together for a year now, and we're still in a healthy relationship with each other, and both of us see each other as a long term/permanent partner. There are sometimes tiffs that come up, and sometimes we get frustrated at each other - but if we NEVER disagreed on something, we wouldn't be human.
But quite honestly, if there's no intention of one person relocating from a long distance to a local relationship - I don't see it lasting. At some point somebody has to relocate.
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I forgot to mention I'm kind of turned away from internet relationships now. I had another one going recently, but I started feeling uncomfortable with it and put and end to it before it really got going.
Meeting someone on the net, and finding out they don't live too terribly far away is one thing, but I'm definitely done with the whole crossing state lines for an internet relationship. It is just more hassle than it is worth now.
Meeting someone on the net, and finding out they don't live too terribly far away is one thing, but I'm definitely done with the whole crossing state lines for an internet relationship. It is just more hassle than it is worth now.
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Oh and normally the Love Romance and Relationship is such depressing place.
Heh, I feel happy for y'all but in all honesty I think this is a very very rare occurance and that no one in their right mind should put their hope of meeting someone in a place like this
Heh, I feel happy for y'all but in all honesty I think this is a very very rare occurance and that no one in their right mind should put their hope of meeting someone in a place like this
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Cross state boarders fine, International lines start to get a tad hard (unless its like Australia/New Zealand Canada/US.)
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Ziggy wrote...
Neko, I'll semi agree with that.While Fpod and I have similar interests, our personalities are vastly different from each other. He can be more aggressive and typically when he gets annoyed I'm the one that is calm and gets him to calm down. However, he's very responsible and creates a foundation that I can slip up with due to constantly having a full plate of things to do all the time.
We have this perfect balance of giving each other enough space because we both seek our own time to ourselves (IE Him playing video games/watching TV and I edit/chill out on the computer).
Our relationship is very what one lacks another one makes up for, so that alone is probably the key factor that we work out so well.
Sometimes people will ask me how our relationship ended up working as if I hold a secret on how to get an online relationship to work and it really wasn't something I'd suggest to anybody else
When Fpod and I started talking, that's all it was, we never imagined we'd get close, let alone move in together.
It wasn't until he asked what I wanted to do for a career and told him I was moving out of state to go to a university that he realized the university I wanted to go to was 40 minutes where he lived.
And I didn't meet him until my mom couldn't come with me to Georgia for the college tour because of health issues. I couldn't rent a car because I'm not 25, so I asked if he'd pick me up at the airport and take me to the campus for a tour.
We enjoyed our time together, and we knew we had feelings for each other after spending months talking to each other online and on the phone a lot and then spending a few days together.
We moved in rather quickly, and I would absolutely never suggest the idea to anybody else. I needed a roommate, and he wanted out of his parents house. We had feelings for each other and we figured we could work things out between us.
I only got to meet him a few times between the move to georgia and when I lived at home. He'd travel up to see me whenever he was on the road and heading in the general direction.
We've lived together for a year now, and we're still in a healthy relationship with each other, and both of us see each other as a long term/permanent partner. There are sometimes tiffs that come up, and sometimes we get frustrated at each other - but if we NEVER disagreed on something, we wouldn't be human.
But quite honestly, if there's no intention of one person relocating from a long distance to a local relationship - I don't see it lasting. At some point somebody has to relocate.
aww..such a nice story..makes a good novel too...ahahaha...
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I've had a few e-relationships on various online mediums (forums, sites, avatar-based things) but the most any have really ended up as were long dist. friendships.
Trust me, meeting up in person with someone you're shown "pics" to and other things is actually super awkward. Plus, people act much more affectedly in real life than online: your superfreak might really be a prude! lol
Trust me, meeting up in person with someone you're shown "pics" to and other things is actually super awkward. Plus, people act much more affectedly in real life than online: your superfreak might really be a prude! lol
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Hello guys (and girls :)) I just joined here cause of that very topic, I am myself in a LDR, we met on the Internet, and I think most of you know that very website : MyAnimeList.net. We talked a lil on the website through comments and such, then we started to IM...we both fell for each other in about hm a week, and both of us couldn't admit it, then I told her, and one day later, she did the same.
So now it's been almost 5 months that we're together.
The problem of our situation, is, as I said, we are far away from each other, see below.
Indeed. I am French (so therefore I live [for now :3] in France, ORLY ?), and she is...Russian. (Oh yeah, I know, the joke about the Russian ladies and such, everyone already did it :D)
So she is 3600Km away from me, she's out of the Schengen Space, so all the damn administration problems are applying, moreover, she is not legal yet, she turns 18 on December of this year, and I'm 2 years older than her, so it's me who's coming at her place.
I am actually doing my best to earn the necessary money to go there this summer, in July. After this summer, we planned to see each other at least 2 times a year, for the next 2 years. Yes, we planned things that far. We even talked about marriage in fact. And in 2 years, she haves the opportunity to come in France to do her studies, and we plan to settle together at this moment :)
So here's my story.
LDR, ignited by Internet or not, can work. All you need is an absolute trust in each other, the WILL to make it work out, communication, a lot (for example, we're chatting through IM hmm about 2-5 hours each day, and around 3-10 hours with Skype [God bless that software...] per week) and of course, Love :)
Feel free to ask me anything, you're welcome~
So now it's been almost 5 months that we're together.
The problem of our situation, is, as I said, we are far away from each other, see below.
CPOK wrote...
Cross state boarders fine, International lines start to get a tad hard (unless its like Australia/New Zealand Canada/US.)Indeed. I am French (so therefore I live [for now :3] in France, ORLY ?), and she is...Russian. (Oh yeah, I know, the joke about the Russian ladies and such, everyone already did it :D)
So she is 3600Km away from me, she's out of the Schengen Space, so all the damn administration problems are applying, moreover, she is not legal yet, she turns 18 on December of this year, and I'm 2 years older than her, so it's me who's coming at her place.
I am actually doing my best to earn the necessary money to go there this summer, in July. After this summer, we planned to see each other at least 2 times a year, for the next 2 years. Yes, we planned things that far. We even talked about marriage in fact. And in 2 years, she haves the opportunity to come in France to do her studies, and we plan to settle together at this moment :)
So here's my story.
LDR, ignited by Internet or not, can work. All you need is an absolute trust in each other, the WILL to make it work out, communication, a lot (for example, we're chatting through IM hmm about 2-5 hours each day, and around 3-10 hours with Skype [God bless that software...] per week) and of course, Love :)
Feel free to ask me anything, you're welcome~