Is it just me, or is sex overrated?

Virgin speaking, but I can tell you're probably not the only one who feels this way. Likewise, I'm sure there are many others who are the complete opposite: they feel immense pleasure from sex.

I'm kinda getting the feeling that you may also have fapped solo a lot. I heard overdoing it can lessen sensitivity even more when it comes to the real thing.

Your username plus this whole issue makes me wonder if you are simply trolling but I'll ignore this, perhaps bogus, idea.

I have never heard anything about fapping reducing sensitivity but, I believe in Christopher Hitchens' book «god is not Great», he says that the true agenda of circumcision is to reduce sexual pleasure (since religions have always been so obsessed with sex, for some reason...). I have also read that on a couple of websites with information on the subject so, while this issue is divided because people think it is attractive to have part of your genitals chopped off, it seems plausible that being circumcised takes away pleasure especially if it wasn't properly done.

Other than that, I don't know. Could be a whole number of things but to answer your question, no, I wouldn't say sex is overrated.

Statistically speaking, one of your sexual partners should've been able to 'get the job done', so to speak.

There are many different issues that could attribute to an inability to achieve orgasm through intercourse, oral, or any of the other options you have explored through coitus.

How long have your sexual acts lasted? If it was only ever a few minutes, that may have been the problem..

Could you tell me a lot more detail about the kinds of acts you've engaged in, and how long they lasted?

Perhaps you just have reduced sensitivity.

Do you feel much at all besides the handjobs?

What about in regular, everyday life? Stubbing your toe? Whacking your knee into the corners of tales? i.e. Have you ever had the feeling that you don't feel pain as much as other people seem to?

Talk to a doc about it, because my only guess is that it's probably linked to your getting your dongle trimmed- I've heard that it can reduce sensitivity.

Either that or you've just had terrible luck and ended up with bad women with burlap sacks for vaginas.

May be what I will tell isn't totally relevant, but I remember some studies about people not reaching orgasm because they were too focused on giving one to their partner.

If you feel too concerned about giving pleasure to your partner, it could become difficult to focus on other stimuli, contrary to fapping when you can fully focus on yourself.

Efkiel u are hitting the nail on the head, what u refer to is one major part to orgasm.

I am quite a sexologist, and I like learning about sex and trying those learnings out. I am a guy also known for taking long to orgasim (im getting better), and who is also circumcised. So i can relate.

1stly sex is all physical. GOOD sex to great sex is an experience. The number one reason people dont organism (men take note so u can help ur lady friends), is because your mind is not into it. Good sex means getting intouch with raw bare lust, and ecstasy . Im not saying that your not focused, being focused is kinda bad.

What i mean is to be relaxed, to allow ur fantasies to come alive in front of you. Also when I say sex i mean foreplay too, dont rush to vaginal becuase thats how society programs us.

What ive said is kinda general but for more help go to the website mytango ,
the article is "4 simple steps too Your Best Orgasm Ever!" its more of an introductory to orgasming really, but s good start.

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/sean-jameson/how-orgasm

Any way i hope this helps sir ^-^.

Well, are you able to bring yourself to jizz when you fap? Or is it just during sex with these people that you cant orgasm? Do you find yourself ever aroused during the day or night? Orgasm from fapping is emotiontally different from orgasm from sex. I've had about the same number of partners in my life so far, and only one of them has been able to satisfy me sexually. Mostly because we were together for years and she knew exactly what i liked and knew what she was doing.

It is possible that these people all just really bad at fucking.

Bro the bees knees all the way!!!!!!

I'd say nop, It's pretty bloody awesome.

It can be overrated, I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 years. Sometimes it's great sometimes it's just average. I am circumcised as well but I luckily have no sensitivity issues. Moreso I'm sometimes over sensitive and it SUCKS lol I don't feel like getting into that though.

Problem could be your circumcision, I know I don't wanna do it to my child, I'll let him choose when he's older. But living in a huge christian family while you're not sucks, I know they'll give me a hard time about it.

Anyways, good luck on your endeavour of achieving climax. Haha

You have reduced sensitivity for some reason.

The most likely reason could be as stated above, you're focusing too much on the orgasm part of things. Sex should be more about feeling good instead of focusing on the 'end result'.

If you're not even feeling good then yeah, it won't mean anything to you and will be overrated.

Changing the way you think about things should help with this aspect.

IF this doesn't help then you could have deeper psychological issues that is causing the block.

Or it could be an actual physical condition that is causing the lack of sensitivity. Circumcision does reduce sensitivity, but not to this degree, unless something went seriously wrong with it.

just my opinion but naturally doesn't the mood strike you at all? do you begin your intimacy hoping you orgasm this time or feel slightly uncomfortable. i think you really need to find what turns you on more and ask your partner to do it. think fore-play is major role.sounds like you've done everything though. the problem has to lie with you perhaps and not with them. just my opinion. i could be wrong.

I think sex is wonderful.

If you're unable to spew during coitus but are able during masturbation then there's no problems physically. I know that feel, I've had 7 partners and only once achieved orgasm during coitus. For me it's mostly worrying about achieving orgasm and being able to perform adequately, even when I am performing. It's a mental block above all else and I think you could be suffering the same thing. My best advice is to not worry about achieving orgasm, go with the flow and just make each other feel good.

Also I find that the Frenulum, the part of skin underneath the head of the penis, is the most sensitive spot on the penis, though it could be different for everyone. When receiving oral get your partner to slide her tongue over it. See how it feels. For me it feels fantastic.