Is it okay to ask somebody out through facebook?

I'm asking this because I am a real lameass. During one of my classes this past semester I met a girl whom I enjoyed talking to and she seemed to at least tolerate me. As the semester went on, I continued to talk to her a bit more and we became friendly. At some point I started to grow romantic feelings for this girl and decided that on the last day of class I would ask her out. Well the last day of class came and I chickened out and didn't get her number or anything. All I said was, "Hey keep in touch won't ya?" What an asshole.

Anyway, I'm already friends with her on facebook and I've been sitting around feeling like a total dick for not getting over my anxiety and just asking her out. So I'm wondering, since I already have her as a friend on there, would it be completely wrong of me to ask her out via facebook? Maybe if I just asked for her number and alluded to wanting to ask her out on a date? I'm really not too sure. I feel like I might come across as a total douche if I do that.

Any thoughts or opinions? Be as blunt as you want, I don't mind.

[font=Verdana][color=green]NEVER ask girls out over Facebook XD Trust me, it won't leave a good impression and it reeks of cowardice.

I suppose what you should try and do, however, is arrange to meet up with her as friends; or even with friends. Have no such insinuations that it's a date, and try and get her number. Not exactly great, but so much better than Facebook. If you want to, ask her out for a date when you meet up with her. Much better.

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NEVER EVER EVER DO IT OVER SOMETHING LIKE FACEBOOK. It very cowardly to do it like that, plus, people get more of a connection if done personally. A relationship is something always done personally, and should be kept personally, whether it's either asking out or breaking up.

Ask if she wants to hang out or something, and then pop the question. It's probably better too if she or you can bring a couple of friends over, just to make it something more casual. And if you can't say it in front of her/your friends, you can always ask her to deviate from them for a second and then ask her out. If you still can muster up the question of asking her out yet, just ask her for her number. This way, you guys can be in touch easier.

In any case, just do it as casually as possible. This way, you'll keep yourself more calm, and if she says no thanks, it's no big deal, and if she says yes, then you got yourself a GF.

Hope this helps!

~Saka

If you know them as in IRL sure. Online friends... it's a trap.

I only know her by seeing her in class all semester and talking to her. No outside contact outside of comments on FB haha. It's my own fault for waiting until the last day isn't it? BLAH.

i haven't read anything posted.

But to answer the title of the thread, no it isn't unless you are a nutless sack of shit. I mean for that to sound mean so you realize that I am being quite serious, if you aren't man enough to ask a girl out to her face then she will more than likely say no every time.

If you had read the post I made you would have seen why that is no longer an option unless destiny gets involved and we end up running into each other in another class or something.

Nonono, asking on Facebook is a bad choice, xD. It's best if you tell her in person. Wish you luck~ :3

Eh, maybe to just chat.
But never to actually ask... always wait till you're either with them or have their number, then CALL them!

The having obtained the phone number shows she trusts you with it, so confirm her trust that you're worthy of having her number ;D

Plain and simple: No it's not.

Don't do it...it's better to meet up with her, but DO Not ask her right away either.(unless you know she has feelings for you)

You should face the fact that you are a pathetic coward. This is very well illustrated by the fact that you are essentially trying to get permission from a hentai site to perform the cowardly act of asking a girl out through facebook because you lacked the balls needed to make a move before it was too late.

This girl has, most likely, already forgotten all about you for the most part and it is highly doubtful she has any interest in you at all.

If she did, you wouldn't be trying to figure out if you should ask her out through facebook.

Give up, grow some balls so you might have enough courage to actually ask out the next girl you are thinking about.

Yeah I was thinking the same thing haha. Ah well. I may see if she just wants to hang out or something and try to take it from there but I'm pretty sure that's just a dumb idea at this point. Thanks for saying what I was already thinking.

Hell, in this modern world, even SKYPE would be semi-acceptable.
Just make sure it's a personal connection, not unfeeling text.

So, a no it is then?

my friend just got a girl through facebook funny shit man

You should really man up and do it before it's too late,your shy and all and that nice guy but your not gonna get anywhere with her if you keep chickening out i mean she might get sweept up by some other guy who has the guts to go get her before you do and you'll regret not doing it sooner.so there's no point in waiting believe in yourself and go for it before you stay in that friendship zone because that's not what you want and you want her if she doesn't want you well it's her loss.

Asking people out indirectly rather than face-to-face tells me that man doesn't respect me enough to tell me,it's cowardice.Telling her directly shows her that your a man of integrity and she'll respect you more for it.Showing a woman that your confident in yourself and what you want is important.If not so your probably not ready to be in a relationship and should just focus on yourself.

[color=blue]If you can see the girl in person, it's always better to ask them there. After all, through the internet you can only send a couple words. It's tough to convey emotions and the like. If you can't do it otherwise, then go ahead, but be prepared to be hit with a rejection while if you did it in person, that might not have happened.[/color]

So you think I can ask her to hang out through facebook since I never obtained her number and then ask her out for real in person? I wonder what I could say to initiate some kind of meeting without coming across as too ask out-ish haha.

[color=blue]That seems like a good plan, yeah.

Just ask her if she wants to hang out once, since you guys haven't talked in a while. That's normal, right?[/color]