Is it possible....? [Dating Question]
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[size=12]So~ I'm an 18 (almost 19) year old and I consider myself kinda cute since people have asked me out and given me their numbers but I've never actually gone out with someone or gone on a date or anything.
So now that I'm partially interested in dating I was wondering if its even possible to find someone who was okay with having a completely innocent girlfriend who's never even kissed someone before.
I don't really know how I would even bring up that fact since people around me have already assumed I've dated people or am currently dating someone (which I don't know why they've jumped to this assumption as I don't hang out with anyone).
On top of this is it even possible to find someone who's interested in anime/manga?
This might seem like a foolish question but I'm genuinely concerned so go easy on me...Tips or advice is welcome. Thanks guys^^[/h]
So now that I'm partially interested in dating I was wondering if its even possible to find someone who was okay with having a completely innocent girlfriend who's never even kissed someone before.
I don't really know how I would even bring up that fact since people around me have already assumed I've dated people or am currently dating someone (which I don't know why they've jumped to this assumption as I don't hang out with anyone).
On top of this is it even possible to find someone who's interested in anime/manga?
This might seem like a foolish question but I'm genuinely concerned so go easy on me...Tips or advice is welcome. Thanks guys^^[/h]
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Reported it to be moved, but I suppose I can answer while it's still here.
Answer: yes, it is very much possible. There are many out there who actually like the appeal of the completely innocent virgin. One thing you can do to ease your mind of doubt is to remember that EVERYONE started off innocent and without experience at one point. You'll stay that way, however, if you don't try.
My advice: get out there, meet more and new people, and if any catch your eye, don't be afraid to ask them out. Remember, dating is the stage where you get to know the other person more and see if you two can work. It's not just something reserved for already-couples/lovers.
As for your second question, let's bring some numbers into this. Fakku has hundreds, if not thousands, of fans coming to read perverted manga and talk to other people who like perverted manga. These people will also obviously like non-H manga and anime too. Taking into account those people who enjoy just non-H content, there must be hundreds OF thousands of fans out there! And they're most likely going to seem like your average every day person too, unless you dig deeper and get to know them more. They're out there, believe me.
To increase your chances of finding more people interested in anime and manga, look online to find clubs near you, and see where conventions are held and plan for them.
Answer: yes, it is very much possible. There are many out there who actually like the appeal of the completely innocent virgin. One thing you can do to ease your mind of doubt is to remember that EVERYONE started off innocent and without experience at one point. You'll stay that way, however, if you don't try.
My advice: get out there, meet more and new people, and if any catch your eye, don't be afraid to ask them out. Remember, dating is the stage where you get to know the other person more and see if you two can work. It's not just something reserved for already-couples/lovers.
As for your second question, let's bring some numbers into this. Fakku has hundreds, if not thousands, of fans coming to read perverted manga and talk to other people who like perverted manga. These people will also obviously like non-H manga and anime too. Taking into account those people who enjoy just non-H content, there must be hundreds OF thousands of fans out there! And they're most likely going to seem like your average every day person too, unless you dig deeper and get to know them more. They're out there, believe me.
To increase your chances of finding more people interested in anime and manga, look online to find clubs near you, and see where conventions are held and plan for them.
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First of all, a lot of people like the appeal of having an innocent girl. People have different preferences.
Second, trying to find someone who like anime and manga is not that hard. If you go to conventions or maybe some clubs in school it shouldn't be too hard. The hard part is finding someone like that who is attractive in various ways.
The problem with conventions and clubs is that a substantial % of them will either be neckbeard weeboos or asians. So if you don't like asian people, you're gonna have a hard time.
Second, trying to find someone who like anime and manga is not that hard. If you go to conventions or maybe some clubs in school it shouldn't be too hard. The hard part is finding someone like that who is attractive in various ways.
The problem with conventions and clubs is that a substantial % of them will either be neckbeard weeboos or asians. So if you don't like asian people, you're gonna have a hard time.
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Innocent girls turn me on a lot. And then upon sexual exploration, when you become hesitant to touch me, it's a major turn on.
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Everyone has to start somewhere, really.
The best course of action is to develop a friendship [or friendships - i.e. finding a club or group that meets to discuss something you're interested in] with someone based on mutual interests and see if chemistry develops. If it does and you decide to go out, I have some advice.
1. Give the penis a chance. Get to know it. Play with it. Poke it through their boxers. Lick it. Do things to it. Spend a lot of time socializing with it. I know it sounds weird, but it does wonders if you get right in there and familiarize yourself with it. It's really a delightful organ that's quite enjoyable once you get over penis fear.
2. Guys are pretty simple creatures. If you're horny, tell the guy. Just muscle up the courage, because 'ladylike' girls don't get laid [or, as often] as girls who are freaks in the sheets.
3. You will be -really- bad in bed for a while. It's not like hentai where all of a sudden you know what to do. Your body -may- operate on instinct, but it will STILL, regardless, be pretty awful and clumsy and awkward but guys feel about sex the way they feel about pizza - even when it's bad, it's still pretty good because SEX.
4. Oh, and one last thing: Guys look at porn. Yes, they think about having sex with other girls. Yes, they notice other girls and think about how attractive they are.
They do not, however, compare them to you. If they do, it's because they're not really happy in the relationship and likely want out. If you see a guy looking at porn or other girls, shrug it off, because in their mind, it's as natural and separate from your relationship with him as browsing the menu at McDonalds. He'll always order you, but it's natural to look at the McNuggets too.
Advice from manwhore.
There's more truth to this than how it sounds. Sex to guys represents intimacy. While guys are great at compartmentalizing and separating sex from love, in a relationship, guys incorporate sex into their emotional need for intimacy. Women need verbal communication and quality time to feel loved, Guys need sex to feel loved.
I suggest having your first time with someone you consider a best friend. You definitely want it to be someone you've known for a while and know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you can trust. We're talking years, here, not someone you met in class and 'really like'.
The best course of action is to develop a friendship [or friendships - i.e. finding a club or group that meets to discuss something you're interested in] with someone based on mutual interests and see if chemistry develops. If it does and you decide to go out, I have some advice.
1. Give the penis a chance. Get to know it. Play with it. Poke it through their boxers. Lick it. Do things to it. Spend a lot of time socializing with it. I know it sounds weird, but it does wonders if you get right in there and familiarize yourself with it. It's really a delightful organ that's quite enjoyable once you get over penis fear.
2. Guys are pretty simple creatures. If you're horny, tell the guy. Just muscle up the courage, because 'ladylike' girls don't get laid [or, as often] as girls who are freaks in the sheets.
3. You will be -really- bad in bed for a while. It's not like hentai where all of a sudden you know what to do. Your body -may- operate on instinct, but it will STILL, regardless, be pretty awful and clumsy and awkward but guys feel about sex the way they feel about pizza - even when it's bad, it's still pretty good because SEX.
4. Oh, and one last thing: Guys look at porn. Yes, they think about having sex with other girls. Yes, they notice other girls and think about how attractive they are.
They do not, however, compare them to you. If they do, it's because they're not really happy in the relationship and likely want out. If you see a guy looking at porn or other girls, shrug it off, because in their mind, it's as natural and separate from your relationship with him as browsing the menu at McDonalds. He'll always order you, but it's natural to look at the McNuggets too.
animereak_usa wrote...
Put out and any man will love you.Advice from manwhore.
There's more truth to this than how it sounds. Sex to guys represents intimacy. While guys are great at compartmentalizing and separating sex from love, in a relationship, guys incorporate sex into their emotional need for intimacy. Women need verbal communication and quality time to feel loved, Guys need sex to feel loved.
I suggest having your first time with someone you consider a best friend. You definitely want it to be someone you've known for a while and know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you can trust. We're talking years, here, not someone you met in class and 'really like'.
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I would have to agree with most of the posts here, it is fairly easy to find somebody who is interested in anime/manga. The key here is being able to relate to them on interests since obviously there are a bunch of people who like a bunch of different anime and manga. Not all of them are going to like the same thing.
Some people really value the whole innocence thing although honestly it doesn't matter since everybody does indeed start somewhere. Half-Jokingly, think of it this way an innocent girl is a common and well liked trope of society so you should actually be fine (but still have some reasonable standards). On the other hand a guy who is innocent is not valued at all :P.
I would suggest starting to get to know people, you would be surprised at what you find whether they are significant others or friends. I know somebody who I met recently who is really cool and we share the very similar interests and all that right down to what games and characters in anime and manga we like. She has a boyfriend and I am not interested romantically since that would be a lost cause but as a best friend she is an awesome person. Just figure out what you like and talk to people to be friendly and find that type of person. Nothing really will change if you don't try, and a lot of girls simply don't get out there and talk to people from what I've seen and just wait around until a guy asks them out. That is not the way to approach getting into a relationship imo.
Some people really value the whole innocence thing although honestly it doesn't matter since everybody does indeed start somewhere. Half-Jokingly, think of it this way an innocent girl is a common and well liked trope of society so you should actually be fine (but still have some reasonable standards). On the other hand a guy who is innocent is not valued at all :P.
I would suggest starting to get to know people, you would be surprised at what you find whether they are significant others or friends. I know somebody who I met recently who is really cool and we share the very similar interests and all that right down to what games and characters in anime and manga we like. She has a boyfriend and I am not interested romantically since that would be a lost cause but as a best friend she is an awesome person. Just figure out what you like and talk to people to be friendly and find that type of person. Nothing really will change if you don't try, and a lot of girls simply don't get out there and talk to people from what I've seen and just wait around until a guy asks them out. That is not the way to approach getting into a relationship imo.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
It is possible to find someone with your interests, you just have to make your interests known to attract the right sort of person you're looking for.
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I had to make an account just to respond to this.
Let me stop you there.
1) I don't know why you're claiming it's just men, because it also applies to women. You're a woman, you should know that.
2) Sex is awesome and it isn't always just for the intimacy. That's why Fuck friends/Fuck buddies/Friends with benefits exist.
Not all men are soppy dogs constantly pawing for physical attention so don't speak for the entire male population when your point doesn't apply to them. In fact men and women aren't all that different, besides anatomy.
One-sided and untrue. Either you're sexist or just ignorant.
Lolnope never mind. You're sexist.
Wasn't it you who claimed in past posts that you used to have a lot of sex with a previous boyfriend? I only remember it even now because it was pretty hard to ignore. No doubt you instigated it, but you did because it was a combination of sexual attraction and the feeling of love, right? I'd say "because you loved him" is in the same league as "emotional need for intimacy".
Let me stop you there.
1) I don't know why you're claiming it's just men, because it also applies to women. You're a woman, you should know that.
2) Sex is awesome and it isn't always just for the intimacy. That's why Fuck friends/Fuck buddies/Friends with benefits exist.
Not all men are soppy dogs constantly pawing for physical attention so don't speak for the entire male population when your point doesn't apply to them. In fact men and women aren't all that different, besides anatomy.
Women need verbal communication and quality time to feel loved, Guys need sex to feel loved.
One-sided and untrue. Either you're sexist or just ignorant.
Guys are pretty simple creatures.
Lolnope never mind. You're sexist.
in a relationship, guys incorporate sex into their emotional need for intimacy
Wasn't it you who claimed in past posts that you used to have a lot of sex with a previous boyfriend? I only remember it even now because it was pretty hard to ignore. No doubt you instigated it, but you did because it was a combination of sexual attraction and the feeling of love, right? I'd say "because you loved him" is in the same league as "emotional need for intimacy".
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Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
1) I don't know why you're claiming it's just men, because it also applies to women. You're a woman, you should know that.
2) Sex is awesome and it isn't always just for the intimacy. That's why Fuck friends/Fuck buddies/Friends with benefits exist.
Not all men are soppy dogs constantly pawing for physical attention so don't speak for the entire male population when your point doesn't apply to them. In fact men and women aren't all that different, besides anatomy.
1. I wasn't claiming it was just men. I was directly replying to the OP, who is a heterosexual girl. O_o I was explaining what to prepare herself for, when it comes to a sexual or romantic relationship.
2. I also never claimed it wasn't. You're putting words in my mouth. I also specifically said this:
While guys are great at compartmentalizing and separating sex from love, In a relationship, guys incorporate sex into their emotional need for intimacy
Of. fucking. course. women can experience a purely sexual relationship, I even allowed room for that in my original post, which you obviously blazed right over without reading. I advised her giving her virginity to someone she can trust - mainly to avoid the all-too-common mishap of being disrespected afterward. Trust does not equate to romantic or emotional involvement. It just means trust. Trust to not be treated poorly or completely ignored afterward. You certainly don't want your first time to be with someone who's a total ass about it afterward.
Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
One-sided and untrue. Either you're sexist or just ignorant.I'm a woman, and I'm speaking on a general consensus. I'm not saying women don't need physical intimacy, but there is a noticeable, observable difference in what means the most to either sexes. I'm not saying 'omgsodifferentlol'. But... lovely how you throw words out like that.
Mrs. Merryweather wrote...
Wasn't it you who claimed in past posts that you used to have a lot of sex with a previous boyfriend? I only remember it even now because it was pretty hard to ignore. No doubt you instigated it, but you did because it was a combination of sexual attraction and the feeling of love, right?No, it wasn't out of love. It was mostly out of a desire to 'be like the good couples I read about, who have, like, sooooooo much sex', and the fact I had been a virgin when I met him, so sex was this whole new world that I wanted to gorge myself on.
Ultimately, there was no emotional intimacy, so the sex was just sex.
I -wanted- it to be about love. I -wanted- sex to mean intimacy, because neither of us had any emotional intimacy or spent an quality time together. His idea of cuddling on the couch was playing Diablo III on my laptop and not looking at me. Or talking to me. It took only recently for me to realize how unhappy I was.
I've spoken to a lot of guys, and have done a lot of research. My post was based on a consensus, not on an absolute statement that applies to every person, ever.