Is monogamy natural ?

Cheaters exist everywhere. Men and woman cheat, though men seem to be treated more harshly for it. People seem more sympathetic toward women.Sometimes I really think people just weren't meant to be monogamous. It seems there are just too many people who feel the need to spread their sexual encounters around between multiple partners. We try to hold ourselves to this "moral standard" of monogamy because that's what tends to be considered "correct" but I wonder if we are just denying our natural instincts in the name of being "better than that".

Strangely enough I've had this thought too, wondering if we're just denying human nature to have multiple sexual partners to fit it in with some sort of social code of monogamy we created for ourselves over generations. If you think about it like that, you could then assume that monogamy is taught, while polygamy is human nature.

In the end though I just put it down to humans being horny fucks in denial.

Let me ask you a question.

You have a wife, but she decided to have another husband, how would you feel?

My point is, a preventative action is needed in case these kinda things happens.
Why not just stick with one partner? If you're bored or thinking that things would not work out, break up, and move the fuck on.

What you're talking about is polyandry.

I understand, that is precisely why Monogamy should be considered "normal".
If it's not considered as normal, as the way things are right now, would you even imagine if polyandry is considered normal?

You should note that monogamy is considered "normal" only in western civilisations. there are many countries and religions that authorize and/or precognize polygamy, harems, polyandry, etc. The western civilizations have been formated by the christian religions, the Bible telling of the first couple, adam and Eve. "And thus shall it be, till the end of time!"

That's just the standard right now. In some african countries, a man can have many wives.

I've never heard of a country where one woman has many husbands (no whore jokes) but thats just because of how the position of women in society turned out. If women were as strong as men physically, then all combinations would probably exist.

I think that its all a matter of personal belief or preference. What I do think is natural is the desire to have sex. A lot of sex. As much sex as you can. Many people will take that and believe that it means you have to have multiple partners. You could have a lot of sex with just one girl you know? I don't really think it is or isn't natural. The person chooses whether to do it or not.

I personally don't think so.

From a more scientific standpoint the goal of living is to spread your genes. This means having lots of offspring. Multiple partners accomplish such a goal much more effectively. So no, I think monogamy is unnatural.

Then, what makes us different from animals?

Technology, developing our own languages for direct communication rather than relying on body language, opposable thumbs, problem solving skills, the ability to adapt to almost any living environment and our lust for knowledge.

It'd be crazy to think that we didn't retain some of our old animalistic traits, hence evolutionary baggage.

Personally speaking, saying Monogamy as unnatural for me is a morale degradation.
Sure, we still excel in many things compared to animals, but as humans, we still have something called morale. Animals don't have that.

WE created something called morale, and instead of improving, people plan on degrading morale? Really? Forget all those scientific stuff we discover, no matter how many things we have discovered, without morale, we're no different with animals with technology.

Truedat, completely forgot about morals

I am not saying that morals is all about monogamy, no. But, it's a step towards a moral degradation.
Who knows what's gonna happen after that, if that ever actually happens.

It definently isn't. In the natural state of the world, all animals don't really care how many mates they have. They just want the best ones so they can have the best children so they can survive. Animals don't marry, they just survive.

That being said, I mean natural as in our instincts. The beauty of humanity is that it can be whatever it wants to be and is not held back by nature. That is what seperates us from every other animal in the world, our ability to think for ourselves rather than just follow instincts.

Also as previously stated monogamy is a mainly western ideal. At the same time though, people being treated equally regardless of race and kissing is a western invention so I wouldn't say anything criticizing western ideals too much.

So dose anyone have a good case against monogamy? Is the socity you live in becoming more monoganis or less as time gose by ?

OP, fix your spelling. You might not be a native English speaker. So do I.
But, how hard is it to spell properly?

[EDIT] From the country I was born at, I've been hearing news that people having two wives or trying to do so, and uses religion as a cover. I personally am disgusted at those people, using religion as their play thing, but when a religion instructed them to do something against their wish, they just outright deny it.

everybody has different morals is how i think about it. for some people you're probably right, but there are people who just be monogamous instinctively.

although with the things ive seen women who cheat get a lot less sympathy than men do, with men usually women bad talk them but they usually have no trouble finding another person to be with, whereas women get bad talked by both genders more often after cheating, and few people who know about it would be likely to try something with them.

Nothing. Humans are glorified animals.

Some, because some still have morals within them which differentiate them with animals.