Love or friendship, how do you know the difference?

I've met a girl I like a lot, and love talking to and being together with.
Problem is, I don't know whether I love her or just like her as a friend. How do you know the difference?

you'll start acting a bit weird when you see someone you love.do you?

Lover should be your best friend. Is she your best friend? Then you could take it to the next step.

Agreed, but for a lover there has to be a physical attraction.

A friend of mine that was a girl used to do what she called "test drives" with guys she was thinking about pursuing. Basically just imagining them while masturbating, and seeing if it was able to get her off fairly well or not. I think that's not a bad idea. If you can't even get off to the imaginary idea of doing someone else it's probably not going to have any physical spark. I know it seems shallow, but if you're not physically interested in someone, you're just friends, it's really that simple.

Also though, there is more to deciding if you should date someone besides being good friends and being attracted to them. A lot of it has not as much to do with how they are specifically, and more to do with how they are WITH YOU. For example, I've known some girls that were extremely attractive, smart, funny, successful, etc. and interested in me. But I knew them well enough to know that in terms of a relationship we just wouldn't mesh well, she's a great girl, she just wouldn't be a great girlfriend FOR ME specifically. Square peg round hole and all that.

If you love being with her and want to bone her, then I'd say you might love her. You kinda just know.

If you have to ask, it's platonic.

You'll know when it changes because it'll slap you across the face when you least expect it- WHAMMO- and behold, instant revelation.

This is kinda a tricky question because love can mean a lot of different kinds of things. You can love a friend. You can love a girl you've been only going out with for a month. You can love your partner that you've been with for years. These are all very different things.

Anyway....do you really need to know you already love the girl before you start a relationship with her? That's kinda like not having sex until you get married. (A lot of waiting for no good reason.)

If you just liked her as a friend, you wouldn't need to ask this question.
I say that because, if your honestly confused to me it means that there are some extra feelings you have for her that isn't really a friendship feeling.

Plus love and like are two big different things. I believe your beginning to have a crush at her at most, because if you did love her you would know.

Well, that was a big help :s

Thanks for all the replies and sorry for not being here to answer, I've been in France for a few weeks and posted this from my PSP right before the battery died, and I didn't bring the charger -.-

Keep it simple. Could you imagine ever making love to her, or could you imagine hypothetically putting off a game or book or movie you really really want to buy so you can get her a new set of shoes?

If yes, then it's potentially love. If not, then it's probably just friendship.

then may i ask a question since the topic is one of the questions i ask myself time to time......

There is this girl.... we used to study together in the same school and class. She's a year older than me so i regard her as my big sister of some sort and i even called her sis(with her approval of course) so our relationship was just that, classmate, friends and perhaps a sibling replacement? i'm a single child by the way..... but a year later i have to move away due to my father's work so i really miss her a lot. i seem to think about her a lot nowadays..... i sms her but she never seems to reply, i've been depressed for a while now i ask some of my friends that still studies in that school and found out she changed her phone no. so i sms to that no. too but still no reply.... I wonder if this is counted as love? i'm really troubled and kinda feel mixed up i guess.....

can anyone help me? give me some advice.....




She said she doesn't hate me yess!!!1

im with you on that

ohyeah, u can't even tell if its love or infatuation.

Woah, wait - since when is wanting to bone someone love?
That's called lust.

correction, lust is wanting to bone someone without wanting to be with her. I think what Mike was trying to say was:

Quoted for truth. :)

make a move not too strong if she doesnt resist u are safe to ask her
or try again later with a different move

You're attracted to her

well I asked my friend it, didn't go to well, but were best friends now, so nt sure what you can make of that.
also If you wana bone her bad its lust!