misunderstandings
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Ah yes.... The proverbial misunderstanding..... each relationship goes to that stage, checking the tension of the cable.... if it breaks..... well its over... if it doesnt..... another will come soon..... what you see is right cannot be seen by your partner as right is most common in these cases.... so.... guys... and girls..... how do you settle the small skirmish before it goes out of hand?
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in my case..... as always.... i was collateral damage of my from my inner circle and her bf....
told the guy to go to the store room to get some things, but along the way he was accompanied by our older female colleague.... while the three of us were talking in the lobby, he started to get all friendly like with her.... and in the gf came.... saw what he was doing, got so pissed off, and threw the fat book at both of us (i was near him) which hit me in the brow, and then screamed, "you dickhead!" before running in the halls with him chasing after her. that was the first time i saw a couple fight in my entire life.....
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in my case..... as always.... i was collateral damage of my from my inner circle and her bf....
told the guy to go to the store room to get some things, but along the way he was accompanied by our older female colleague.... while the three of us were talking in the lobby, he started to get all friendly like with her.... and in the gf came.... saw what he was doing, got so pissed off, and threw the fat book at both of us (i was near him) which hit me in the brow, and then screamed, "you dickhead!" before running in the halls with him chasing after her. that was the first time i saw a couple fight in my entire life.....
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deftera_mirage wrote...
God more flags. You lucky bastard.no..... its not for me...... didnt i say it? my friend got pissed at her bf..... i was collateral because she accidentally hit me (apologized later after they cleared the little skirmish) when that hit was meant for him.... also.... remember that i am a middleman..... so cant take sides when it comes to this kinds of things.....
i was so shocked and amused at the same time when that happened... its not like you get to see any guy run after his girl after the misunderstanding everyday now....
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ZeKeR wrote...
deftera_mirage wrote...
God more flags. You lucky bastard.no..... its not for me...... didnt i say it? my friend got pissed at her bf..... i was collateral because she accidentally hit me (apologized later after they cleared the little skirmish) when that hit was meant for him.... also.... remember that i am a middleman..... so cant take sides when it comes to this kinds of things.....
i was so shocked and amused at the same time when that happened... its not like you get to see any guy run after his girl after the misunderstanding everyday now....
It's amazing how you get to see everything unfold right infront of you.
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Well, I consider myself to be a pretty reasonable girl. A pretty reasonable lover as well. I won't be like, "YOU CALLED MY HAIR PRETTY?! WHY ISN'T IT LOVELY?! F*CK YOU IM LEAVING!" but even the most reasonable girl can have her moments..trust me. It seems as if the quick dumb little fights are common place, no matter how perfect a chemistry might seem.
All I suggest to recover from misunderstandings is to let the person who is enraged cool off for a while and when they have then you talk to them and explain what you did...but when you do explain make it so you're not trying to defend yourself to your last breath...just approach the situation as it is..a misunderstanding and with time, a CALM explanation, and maybe a good cuddle or kiss, you should be back to normal.
... let's hope.
All I suggest to recover from misunderstandings is to let the person who is enraged cool off for a while and when they have then you talk to them and explain what you did...but when you do explain make it so you're not trying to defend yourself to your last breath...just approach the situation as it is..a misunderstanding and with time, a CALM explanation, and maybe a good cuddle or kiss, you should be back to normal.
... let's hope.
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Zeker you got a really interesting life....lol
Well, just think about it yourself...if you see your girlfriend talking intimately with other guy, won't you be at least bit jealous or pissed?
He should just apologize and try not to get too friendly with other girls...
Well, just think about it yourself...if you see your girlfriend talking intimately with other guy, won't you be at least bit jealous or pissed?
He should just apologize and try not to get too friendly with other girls...
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willy191 wrote...
He should just apologize and try not to get too friendly with other girls... for now.
Fix'd
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deftera_mirage wrote...
ZeKeR wrote...
deftera_mirage wrote...
God more flags. You lucky bastard.no..... its not for me...... didnt i say it? my friend got pissed at her bf..... i was collateral because she accidentally hit me (apologized later after they cleared the little skirmish) when that hit was meant for him.... also.... remember that i am a middleman..... so cant take sides when it comes to this kinds of things.....
i was so shocked and amused at the same time when that happened... its not like you get to see any guy run after his girl after the misunderstanding everyday now....
It's amazing how you get to see everything unfold right infront of you.
ever since i took the middleman role..... it happens non stop....
@willy191: i dunno what happened after their fight... but they were encased in ice for the next week when we met again.... the only things i misunderstand between girls are communications.... i know some girls who SLAP their BF's whenever theres some miscommunication between them......
@ayanami00: whoah..... i feel sorry for the guy that sparked your anger........
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Well, if I was the guy, I'd man up and do the relationship talk instead of acting like a girl. The girl should be able to listen to his side of the story and then express her feelings too. That's how it works. If neither side wants to listen then what's the point really? How is that a working relationship?
If neither get it and it's going to get out of hand. One person has to give way and ease the tension, particularly by not sounding rude and loud.
But both of them need to give each other a chance to try to understand the other's feelings, be empathetic or the relationship won't work in the long run.
If they need a middleman to settle their relationship stuff, should they really be in a relationship? Are they like 12? Really..there adults, they should be able to handle this stuff on their own.
If neither get it and it's going to get out of hand. One person has to give way and ease the tension, particularly by not sounding rude and loud.
But both of them need to give each other a chance to try to understand the other's feelings, be empathetic or the relationship won't work in the long run.
If they need a middleman to settle their relationship stuff, should they really be in a relationship? Are they like 12? Really..there adults, they should be able to handle this stuff on their own.
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iast wrote...
Well, if I was the guy, I'd man up and do the relationship talk instead of acting like a girl. The girl should be able to listen to his side of the story and then express her feelings too. That's how it works. If neither side wants to listen then what's the point really? How is that a working relationship? If neither get it and it's going to get out of hand. One person has to give way and ease the tension, particularly by not sounding rude and loud.
But both of them need to give each other a chance to try to understand the other's feelings, be empathetic or the relationship won't work in the long run.
If they need a middleman to settle their relationship stuff, should they really be in a relationship? Are they like 12? Really..there adults, they should be able to handle this stuff on their own.
i get you...... but i didnt take the guy's offer to help him since this isnt in my boundaries of interventions....
that aside... dont base the couple i saw... rather....
how would you quell the bad blood between you and your partner?
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Dude, start taking the sides the reason why you are a middle man is because you let yourself become one.
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Hazah wrote...
Dude, start taking the sides the reason why you are a middle man is because you let yourself become one.i agree. and pick the side that is the same gender as you. everytime i was a middle man, the male eventualy decided i was moving on his girl. i will still stay friends with both, but i just pretend to be on his side more.
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Mr.Shaggnificent wrote...
Hazah wrote...
Dude, start taking the sides the reason why you are a middle man is because you let yourself become one.i agree. and pick the side that is the same gender as you. everytime i was a middle man, the male eventualy decided i was moving on his girl. i will still stay friends with both, but i just pretend to be on his side more.
well the 'i think he's gunning on my girl' thought came but never could prove it since he has no concrete evidence.... im not prejudicial when it comes to gender.... 'coz i sometimes get paid and its against my rules to use extreme unfairness....