Mom help
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1st I'm not sexually interested in my mom
Ok so I'm confused on this I'm 21 n idk what 2 do I got a job as a construction worker I work Monday - Saturday I wake up at 4 start at 6 fin between 2 n 5 sleep at 9 n repeat every day i was job hunting 4 2 months b4 dis so at home i cleaned cooked washed my lil bros made my ma tea when she came home n washed da dishes everyday just n got my lil bros ready n da morning but I was a couch potato 19-21(college years) so the change n life style is tough plus I go to the gym after work so I'm tired well my ma got into a big argument on how I'm being rude not helpful around the house and she wants the old me back woke up she also wrote 3 pages on how I'm practly being a bad son that was almost 2 weeks ago I mean I've been working 4 a month my feet still swell a lil after work n I'm a construction worker but no I'm being disrespectful idk what I did wrong I don't have a room n da house so I sleep onthe couch iI slept on the floor cause she told me not to anymore cause theres no where to sit except her bed or the table cause I leave my blankets on it when I leave i keepp them there so not 2 go n lil bro room at 4 n da morning but when i return I shower n lay down n get ready 4 work I honestly don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong and it hurts she rather a couch look presentable 4 r imaginary guest than me sleep on it when I spoke 2 her about my feelings she said the problem is I don't see how I'm bring disrespectful so some 1 please tell me what 2 do or stop doing p.s in college I messed up she paid a$1100 bill 4 me I owe her $500 now plus I give 4 groceries I'm a good person T.T
Ok so I'm confused on this I'm 21 n idk what 2 do I got a job as a construction worker I work Monday - Saturday I wake up at 4 start at 6 fin between 2 n 5 sleep at 9 n repeat every day i was job hunting 4 2 months b4 dis so at home i cleaned cooked washed my lil bros made my ma tea when she came home n washed da dishes everyday just n got my lil bros ready n da morning but I was a couch potato 19-21(college years) so the change n life style is tough plus I go to the gym after work so I'm tired well my ma got into a big argument on how I'm being rude not helpful around the house and she wants the old me back woke up she also wrote 3 pages on how I'm practly being a bad son that was almost 2 weeks ago I mean I've been working 4 a month my feet still swell a lil after work n I'm a construction worker but no I'm being disrespectful idk what I did wrong I don't have a room n da house so I sleep onthe couch iI slept on the floor cause she told me not to anymore cause theres no where to sit except her bed or the table cause I leave my blankets on it when I leave i keepp them there so not 2 go n lil bro room at 4 n da morning but when i return I shower n lay down n get ready 4 work I honestly don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong and it hurts she rather a couch look presentable 4 r imaginary guest than me sleep on it when I spoke 2 her about my feelings she said the problem is I don't see how I'm bring disrespectful so some 1 please tell me what 2 do or stop doing p.s in college I messed up she paid a$1100 bill 4 me I owe her $500 now plus I give 4 groceries I'm a good person T.T
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An earlier 2day her n her bf my lil bros dad was at the table eating I told dem my 3rd fav coworker died yesterday n how he use 2 call me white folk n I call him old man Jenkins n said he's the 1 who gave me the tooth ache advice he's a lil old missing teeth n stuff she tried making a joke 2 her bf about him having 3 teeth cut her off n ended the conversation didn't ask how I felt anything at all maybe I'm looking to much n2 did but that was the straw that mademe do dis
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I REALLY tried, but I couldn't finish your first post. Let alone the second. Please don't use so much text talk if you are typing so much. It hurts to read...
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animefreak_usa wrote...
Simple answer is move out.Can't I would have 2 quit the gym n stuff it would hurt my future goals I'm only staying still January just don't wannabe hated from the person who birth me
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
Grizzinmypants wrote...
I REALLY tried, but I couldn't finish your first post. Let alone the second. Please don't use so much text talk if you are typing so much. It hurts to read...This... I just couldn't bring myself to read the posts... They were so badly written. I think the first post was literally one whole sentence
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623
FAKKU QA
Uhh...well what I could decipher from your posts is that your mom is kind of a bitch and that you should try and move out if you can like freak said.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
Translation wrote...
First off I'm not pining for the arse of my mum.Ok, so I'm confused about this - I'm 21 and I don't know what do. I got a job as a construction worker, I work Mondays to Saturdays. I wake up at 4am, start at 6 and finish between 2-5 in the afternoon, then when I get home I go to sleep at 9pm and repeat. I was job hunting for two months before this, so at home I cleaned and cooked, washed my little brothers, made my tea when she came home and washed the dishes every day, and got my little brothers ready in the morning. I wasn't always like this though, I was a lazy shit when I was 19 years old until I turned 21 so the (fairly recent) change in life style is tough. To top it all off, I go to the gym after work so I get pretty tired.
Well my mum got into a big argument with me on how I'm being rude and not helping around the house. She wants the "old me" back. One morning I woke up to 3 pages written by her on how I'm pretty much being a bad son, that was almost 2 weeks ago. I've been working nonstop for a month, my feet still swell a little after work and I'm a construction worker - but noooooo~ I'm being disrespectful! I don't know what I did wrong, I don't have a room in the house so I slept on the couch until my mum told me not to because there's nowhere to sit in the house (besides her bed or the table) so I now sleep on the floor. I leave my blankets on it[size=10](on what?)[/h] when I leave for work and I keep them there for when I get back.
I honestly don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong and it hurts that she'd rather a couch look presentable for her imaginary guests than me sleep somewhere comfy. When I spoke to her about it she said the problem is that I don't see how I'm being disrespectful.
Please can I get some advice about what to do, or stop doing?
P.S In college I messed up for some untold reason, and she paid a $1,100 bill for me. I'm still in debt with her by $500 and I chip in for groceries.
Second post is unimportant.
You need to sit down and talk with her about what exactly you're doing wrong - listen to her side of the story, then tell her yours. Take turns to speak. You need to do this calmly without full on confrontation (that means don't let emotions get the better of you or let voices raise because that won't help). It could just be that she's misinterpreting your behaviour as rude, though disregarding the 3-page essay without actually taking on on board about how she felt probably didn't help much.
TL:DR
Spoiler:
If she won't listen to you or it turns into a shouting fest then it's probably best that you move out or stay at a friend's for a while. Give each other some space.
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Gravity cat wrote...
Translation wrote...
First off I'm not pining for the arse of my mum.Ok, so I'm confused about this - I'm 21 and I don't know what do. I got a job as a construction worker, I work Mondays to Saturdays. I wake up at 4am, start at 6 and finish between 2-5 in the afternoon, then when I get home I go to sleep at 9pm and repeat. I was job hunting for two months before this, so at home I cleaned and cooked, washed my little brothers, made my tea when she came home and washed the dishes every day, and got my little brothers ready in the morning. I wasn't always like this though, I was a lazy shit when I was 19 years old until I turned 21 so the (fairly recent) change in life style is tough. To top it all off, I go to the gym after work so I get pretty tired.
Well my mum got into a big argument with me on how I'm being rude and not helping around the house. She wants the "old me" back. One morning I woke up to 3 pages written by her on how I'm pretty much being a bad son, that was almost 2 weeks ago. I've been working nonstop for a month, my feet still swell a little after work and I'm a construction worker - but noooooo~ I'm being disrespectful! I don't know what I did wrong, I don't have a room in the house so I slept on the couch until my mum told me not to because there's nowhere to sit in the house (besides her bed or the table) so I now sleep on the floor. I leave my blankets on it[size=10](on what?)[/h] when I leave for work and I keep them there for when I get back.
I honestly don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong and it hurts that she'd rather a couch look presentable for her imaginary guests than me sleep somewhere comfy. When I spoke to her about it she said the problem is that I don't see how I'm being disrespectful.
Please can I get some advice about what to do, or stop doing?
P.S In college I messed up for some untold reason, and she paid a $1,100 bill for me. I'm still in debt with her by $500 and I chip in for groceries.
Second post is unimportant.
You need to sit down and talk with her about what exactly you're doing wrong - listen to her side of the story, then tell her yours. Take turns to speak. You need to do this calmly without full on confrontation (that means don't let emotions get the better of you or let voices raise because that won't help). It could just be that she's misinterpreting your behaviour as rude, though disregarding the 3-page essay without actually taking on on board about how she felt probably didn't help much.
TL:DR
Spoiler:
If she won't listen to you or it turns into a shouting fest then it's probably best that you move out or stay at a friend's for a while. Give each other some space.
I'll talk 2 her Sunday I'll try not 2 be emotional or defensive thx 4 da advice
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Lol your translation is awesome n I wasn't a lazy shit T.T full time college student n part time worker not lazy =_=
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
dmans2021 wrote...
I wasn't a lazy shit T.T full time college student n part time worker not lazy =_=but I was a couch potato 19-21(college years)
That sentence was very vague. It implies you did nothing during your college years and you didn't mention part time work. You also didn't specify that the college course you were on was full time, so I just settled with the term "lazy shit" for convenience.
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Gravity cat wrote...
dmans2021 wrote...
I wasn't a lazy shit T.T full time college student n part time worker not lazy =_=but I was a couch potato 19-21(college years)
That sentence was very vague. It implies you did nothing during your college years and you didn't mention part time work. You also didn't specify that the college course you were on was full time, so I just settled with the term "lazy shit" for convenience.
Oh ok I see what u mean left 2 many blanks n what I wrote lol smh
