My crush's best friend likes me D:
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I don't know what to do lol
See, my friend I met some months ago is starting to hit on my bestfriend.. The thing is that I have a crush on her.
And that womans best friend is in love with me, but I don't really want to notice her since I don't want to break her heart by telling her I don't like her back. And If she gets sad she might not want to be around me anymore and then her friend (the person I like) doesnt want to be with me either.
But I don't really want to tell the girl i like how i feel because she might not like me back. And that would probably hurt her friend too.
So what in the fuck should i even do..
See, my friend I met some months ago is starting to hit on my bestfriend.. The thing is that I have a crush on her.
And that womans best friend is in love with me, but I don't really want to notice her since I don't want to break her heart by telling her I don't like her back. And If she gets sad she might not want to be around me anymore and then her friend (the person I like) doesnt want to be with me either.
But I don't really want to tell the girl i like how i feel because she might not like me back. And that would probably hurt her friend too.
So what in the fuck should i even do..
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
So you have a crush on your friend, who flirts with your best friend and doesn't see you the same way. Their best friend fancies you, but you don't feel the same? Is that right?
When something like this arises, the best way to deal with things is to talk it out. Arrange for the four of you to meet, talk to each other about this little love square that's developed and come to a compromise that everyone can agree to. Otherwise if this keeps up it's only going to end in catastrophe for all concerned.
When something like this arises, the best way to deal with things is to talk it out. Arrange for the four of you to meet, talk to each other about this little love square that's developed and come to a compromise that everyone can agree to. Otherwise if this keeps up it's only going to end in catastrophe for all concerned.
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
Advice: someone is gonna get hurt.
In this sort of situation where people like other people, either the feelings will go away through force since no one wants to ruin a good thing or they will ruin the friendship. I would suggest being honest and upfront if you don't like the girl who is hitting on you. It isn't good to lead a person on, even by not answering, just because you don't want to hurt her feelings/wanna keep on good terms with her friend that you like.
The other advice I will give is to decide this: either ask the girl you like out or just forget it and move on. The worst that will happen is that you loose her as a friend (I know you don't want this, but it will happen if this crap continues).
Do what you need to and don't keep on going with the 'whale in the room' feeling, or with the feeling of 'unrequited love' and make a move!
If it doesn't work, grieve and eventually just move on. You never know until you try.
In this sort of situation where people like other people, either the feelings will go away through force since no one wants to ruin a good thing or they will ruin the friendship. I would suggest being honest and upfront if you don't like the girl who is hitting on you. It isn't good to lead a person on, even by not answering, just because you don't want to hurt her feelings/wanna keep on good terms with her friend that you like.
The other advice I will give is to decide this: either ask the girl you like out or just forget it and move on. The worst that will happen is that you loose her as a friend (I know you don't want this, but it will happen if this crap continues).
Do what you need to and don't keep on going with the 'whale in the room' feeling, or with the feeling of 'unrequited love' and make a move!
If it doesn't work, grieve and eventually just move on. You never know until you try.
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Seriously I am telling you this. The one you like, may not even know you like her, have you gave her any signs? she might have even liked you too but got tired of waiting so she now starting to look at your friend with those big ol eyes. you need to do a surpise kiss. Get her to look at you as male, not a friend. and please leave out the date rape drugs lol
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Thanks for all the advice. I tried to tell her how I feel but she just told me it would be awkward. So I guess nothing will ever happen *sigh*
FRIENDZONED HOW NICE! I'm going to break my bff's spine if they starts to date
And I'll just continue to kinda ignore her friend and move on. I just hope that she isnt one of those girls who cut themselves, cause she told me she is depressed now and I feel really bad for her..
WHY DO I CARE ABOUT PEOPLE SO MUCH?!
FRIENDZONED HOW NICE! I'm going to break my bff's spine if they starts to date
And I'll just continue to kinda ignore her friend and move on. I just hope that she isnt one of those girls who cut themselves, cause she told me she is depressed now and I feel really bad for her..
WHY DO I CARE ABOUT PEOPLE SO MUCH?!
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
JimmyThePlayBoy wrote...
Thanks for all the advice. I tried to tell her how I feel but she just told me it would be awkward. So I guess nothing will ever happen *sigh*FRIENDZONED HOW NICE! I'm going to break my bff's spine if they starts to date
And I'll just continue to kinda ignore her friend and move on. I just hope that she isnt one of those girls who cut themselves, cause she told me she is depressed now and I feel really bad for her..
WHY DO I CARE ABOUT PEOPLE SO MUCH?!
I wouldn't ignore the friend. I suggest being upright honest about it.
Because honestly, what you're doing to her is the same thing this other girl did to you. Giving false hope to avoid 'making things awkward'.
If you do it upfront instead of when she 'works up the courage to confess' (fucking high school shit) you can actually save pain that way as well.
You can even be honest about how you were pretty much rejected as well.
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Why not try going out with the girlsbest friend she is obviously interested in you might as well give her a chance. If you say you ignore her then youprobobly don't know much about her she could end up being an awesome person and your perfect match I say give her a shot I met the women of my dreams a yearand a half ago and I never thought much about relationships for me since of how bad my last one ended. Getting off topic so just to get back on try talking and hanging out with her there is nothing wrong with just wanting to hang out and who knows hopefully she is someone who you might want to get in a relationship with just go for it.
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Hazama11590 wrote...
Why not try going out with the girlsbest friend she is obviously interested in you might as well give her a chance. If you say you ignore her then youprobobly don't know much about her she could end up being an awesome person and your perfect match I say give her a shot I met the women of my dreams a yearand a half ago and I never thought much about relationships for me since of how bad my last one ended. Getting off topic so just to get back on try talking and hanging out with her there is nothing wrong with just wanting to hang out and who knows hopefully she is someone who you might want to get in a relationship with just go for it.Yeah well, she is pretty nice.
But I've become closer to her and appearently the one I like got jealous of our frienship. And she thinks that we are going to leave her alone, since she don't have much friends and all..
So I don't really think it's a good idea. :/
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If she does not have much friends then that should be even more of a reason that maybe she just needs someone to open up to her i dont know her whole story im just throwing my thoughts out there
there. That dosnt mean ignore you other friend im not saying that but, maybe try doing some one on one things with the friend who likes you open up to her a little more maybe go on a date or 2 see what happens from there. If your firat crush is gonna get upset then thats ridiculous just say you said you didnt like me and your moving on. Since your getting close to her how do you feel about her if you arent up for posting on the forum you can always pm me and id be happy to give what advice i can.
there. That dosnt mean ignore you other friend im not saying that but, maybe try doing some one on one things with the friend who likes you open up to her a little more maybe go on a date or 2 see what happens from there. If your firat crush is gonna get upset then thats ridiculous just say you said you didnt like me and your moving on. Since your getting close to her how do you feel about her if you arent up for posting on the forum you can always pm me and id be happy to give what advice i can.
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JimmyThePlayBoy wrote...
Yeah well, she is pretty nice.But I've become closer to her and appearently the one I like got jealous of our friendship. And she thinks that we are going to leave her alone, since she don't have much friends and all..
So I don't really think it's a good idea. :/
Just like Misaki_Chi said
Misaki_Chi wrote...
someone is gonna get hurt.With that said you should keep talking with this girl you like now. Personally I wouldn't worry too much about X. In the end you come first before anybody.
Probably not much advice (or any at all).
Also a question, are you positive that she is jealous about your friendship with her friend?
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