My friend might be gay/bi not sure though o.o (opinions?)

Ok so for like this entire year ive been majoritarily hanging out with a friend of mine and hes a really cool dude and definitely a hell of a lot better with chicks then me (idk how most of the time though since he dosent entirely look insanely attractive for the girls he gets).

But recently ive noticed that while we were both [under the influence of a rather common substance] he would start acting really gay with me it wouldnt be anything like trying to feel me up, but hed do subtle things like always letting me sit down and doing everything for me so i didnt have to do it myself or smacking my ass in a joking way and stuff or complimenting me in a joking way as well. Which wasnt all that alarming since we were both pretty out of it until the time where he suggested we both jack off together and eventually after a bit i agreed(To clarrify i was plastered and i was just sorta like "sure why not im not doing anything better xD" i really wasnt into it though i couldnt even finish too because he was there with me and it made it hella awkward)

The question is though do you think he might have some bisexual or gay tendancies that he just only admits too when hes [under the influence of a rather common substance] or that its just him not caring as much about what i think and just doing funny shit?

Important note: Whether or not hes gay wont actually affect our friendship at all i was just looking for another opinion on the matter to see if my view on the matter was grounded or not. Any opions on the matter are accepted so feel free to say what you want ^.^



also i didnt really know where this fit so i just figured sexuality went along with romance and relationships

So he gets high then he fay? That just the pot butt. Or is this meth because meth increases your libido. Weed just loosens your wall of shame sometimes. I personally get more normal in the sex dept.

Edit. fucking auto correct.

He might secretly be bbisexual, and he trusts you enough to be open about it, the substance may just help with his openness.

You should check by offering to blow him or vice versa.

Have you tried asking him about it? You'll likely only receive answers based entirely on conjecture.

Get him high again, as apparently that seems to be the only time he opens up, and ask while "under". If he denies it or doesn't answer, tell him you're still his bro regardless of sexual orientation and give him a man hug; if he pops a boner he's definitely bi/gay

All this advice is just terrible. And mildly to severely offensive.

Make him comfortable, it -might- benefit to get him high to do so. When he's loosened up and in a good mood, ask him outright. Have your arms uncrossed, with your hands palm-up [It seems stupid, but it's the 'I'm open' body language. It helps people to subconsciously relax.] and let him know that no matter what, you're still friends.

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no.sis

Not you, love. You still didn't give him advice though. Just an opinion.

Does it really matter? Just ask him about it, like loli said. If he denies, just move on. Either way, it's not like he'll jump you and have sex with you >.>

Either way, adopt a gaydar

Well, you said yourself it doesn't change your friendship, so do you need to know? If he hasn't told you he could just think that it isn't a big deal (really it isn't), and doesn't think it warrants telling. It could, and I argue should, be considered inconsequential. If that's the case, then just go on about your life without caring, not because you don't care about him as a friend, but because you were right in saying that it has no bearing on your friendship.

hmmm...I'm having the same issues with my gym trainer. 0.o

This, make him feel comfortable in a chill area and ask him outright. You have to get to the bottom of this if you want to be fully reassured.

But honestly, you should just let it go unless it's being brought up or escalated to a point you're really uncomfortable. When he makes a advance, just ask him outright.