need some advice
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guys... Im in a stuck here... well.. I just recently break up wif my gf.. it is a mutual agreement.. Im not really attracted to her anymore... but sometimes i wonder why tat sometimes i do feel sad tat she take this break up really well... Is it that deep down i still hav some feelings 4 her.. or is it something else..?
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Luke Piewalker wrote...
Are you sure you're not attracted to her anymore? Be honest.well Im not really sure though.. i guess im not.. by i noe tat even i hav a relationship back wif her... it will nv work out
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kenayagami wrote...
Luke Piewalker wrote...
Are you sure you're not attracted to her anymore? Be honest.well Im not really sure though.. i guess im not.. by i noe tat even i hav a relationship back wif her... it will nv work out
Well, if it appears she's taking it so well, it's most likely a lie since women are much more emotional than men. She's most likely hiding the way she truly feels. Or maybe she is cold like winter.
Either way, the best move would be to find a really engaging hobby, or simply pursue another girl who you are sure that you're attracted to.
Any more questions?
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I dont get what you mean when you say how she took the breakup so well, and then you say if you still have feelings for her... Maaaan i need more stuff to support me with before I make any assumptions.
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I get what your saying, you were through with the girl but i kinda bruised your ego to think that she was on the same page and not attracted to you anymore.
what you wanted-
You:I dont think this relationship is working
Girl:(cry) NOOOOO!!!!!! PLEASE DONT GO ILLL DO ANYTHING!!!!!!!(Sob)
You: im sorry its not you its me, one day you will be fortunate to find another, but im moving on. (inside your like hehehe this bitch was in love with me!!)
what REALLY happened-
you: I dont think this relationshp is working
Girl: aight peace.
You:.......well damn..........
what you wanted-
You:I dont think this relationship is working
Girl:(cry) NOOOOO!!!!!! PLEASE DONT GO ILLL DO ANYTHING!!!!!!!(Sob)
You: im sorry its not you its me, one day you will be fortunate to find another, but im moving on. (inside your like hehehe this bitch was in love with me!!)
what REALLY happened-
you: I dont think this relationshp is working
Girl: aight peace.
You:.......well damn..........
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Luke Piewalker wrote...
kenayagami wrote...
Luke Piewalker wrote...
Are you sure you're not attracted to her anymore? Be honest.well Im not really sure though.. i guess im not.. by i noe tat even i hav a relationship back wif her... it will nv work out
Well, if it appears she's taking it so well, it's most likely a lie since women are much more emotional than men. She's most likely hiding the way she truly feels. Or maybe she is cold like winter.
Either way, the best move would be to find a really engaging hobby, or simply pursue another girl who you are sure that you're attracted to.
Any more questions?
well... true at least need 2 do something 2 get my mind of things...
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Firstbornnyc wrote...
I get what your saying, you were through with the girl but i kinda bruised your ego to think that she was on the same page and not attracted to you anymore.what you wanted-
You:I dont think this relationship is working
Girl:(cry) NOOOOO!!!!!! PLEASE DONT GO ILLL DO ANYTHING!!!!!!!(Sob)
You: im sorry its not you its me, one day you will be fortunate to find another, but im moving on. (inside your like hehehe this bitch was in love with me!!)
what REALLY happened-
you: I dont think this relationshp is working
Girl: aight peace.
You:.......well damn..........
lol... wat u say might be true... cos i dun really know wat I really want.. things is not as pretty in reality I guess.. ^^.. but at least I wont break up wif a girl just becos of my ego issue...
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kenayagami wrote...
guys... Im in a stuck here... well.. I just recently break up wif my gf.. it is a mutual agreement.. Im not really attracted to her anymore... but sometimes i wonder why tat sometimes i do feel sad tat she take this break up really well... Is it that deep down i still hav some feelings 4 her.. or is it something else..?What are your feelings towards her now? And how did she make you feel when you still were attracted to her? I mean, our feelings change in relationships, it happens to everyone. The feeling you get in the beginning of a relationship fades away and you wont get butterflies in your stomach anymore. At this point many people think they dont love their significant other anymore, but they just dont get it that the love changes, or more like the crush starts to change into love. And sometimes its hard to realize that you're in love when you're together all the time, but after being apart for a while, you start missing the company of your SO.
But yeah, nothing you can do atm. If your gf wanted to break up too, then just move on. Wait for the possible wounds to heal and start looking for a new girlfriend.
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Firstbornnyc wrote...
I get what your saying, you were through with the girl but i kinda bruised your ego to think that she was on the same page and not attracted to you anymore.Probably this. Frankly it might have been a relief that you wanted to break it off. Break ups are messy, nobody wants to look like the bad guy in the relationship.
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Raparperi wrote...
kenayagami wrote...
guys... Im in a stuck here... well.. I just recently break up wif my gf.. it is a mutual agreement.. Im not really attracted to her anymore... but sometimes i wonder why tat sometimes i do feel sad tat she take this break up really well... Is it that deep down i still hav some feelings 4 her.. or is it something else..?What are your feelings towards her now? And how did she make you feel when you still were attracted to her? I mean, our feelings change in relationships, it happens to everyone. The feeling you get in the beginning of a relationship fades away and you wont get butterflies in your stomach anymore. At this point many people think they dont love their significant other anymore, but they just dont get it that the love changes, or more like the crush starts to change into love. And sometimes its hard to realize that you're in love when you're together all the time, but after being apart for a while, you start missing the company of your SO.
But yeah, nothing you can do atm. If your gf wanted to break up too, then just move on. Wait for the possible wounds to heal and start looking for a new girlfriend.
well is true tat we dun hav the honeymoon feelings anymore rite after we move in 2gether.. well I guess there is no point crying over spill milk... anyway.. thanks 4 the advise ya.. really helps ^^
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
People like relationships. Even if they know it's one that wouldn't work out, they really like them.
There's some sense of comfort in them regardless of emotions (well, non-abusive types anyways.)
So the sadness is partly due to that loss of comfort. What you had as a constant (someone there) is gone and so you miss them even though you might not have any romantic feelings for them anymore.
And you also don't ever just get completely over someone. There's bound to be some lingering feelings for them even if its not love. I mean, you shared things you wouldn't with friends and so you just have a different type of attachment that you are sad to see gone.
And it could be possible that you do love her and just didn't realize it until after the breakup. Though that's not typical of mutual break-ups. If it is the case, you'll notice it if you still feel this strongly about it a month or so down the line.
But you're more likely to just look back fondly of the time and nothing more.
There's some sense of comfort in them regardless of emotions (well, non-abusive types anyways.)
So the sadness is partly due to that loss of comfort. What you had as a constant (someone there) is gone and so you miss them even though you might not have any romantic feelings for them anymore.
And you also don't ever just get completely over someone. There's bound to be some lingering feelings for them even if its not love. I mean, you shared things you wouldn't with friends and so you just have a different type of attachment that you are sad to see gone.
And it could be possible that you do love her and just didn't realize it until after the breakup. Though that's not typical of mutual break-ups. If it is the case, you'll notice it if you still feel this strongly about it a month or so down the line.
But you're more likely to just look back fondly of the time and nothing more.
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Takerial wrote...
People like relationships. Even if they know it's one that wouldn't work out, they really like them.There's some sense of comfort in them regardless of emotions (well, non-abusive types anyways.)
So the sadness is partly due to that loss of comfort. What you had as a constant (someone there) is gone and so you miss them even though you might not have any romantic feelings for them anymore.
And you also don't ever just get completely over someone. There's bound to be some lingering feelings for them even if its not love. I mean, you shared things you wouldn't with friends and so you just have a different type of attachment that you are sad to see gone.
And it could be possible that you do love her and just didn't realize it until after the breakup. Though that's not typical of mutual break-ups. If it is the case, you'll notice it if you still feel this strongly about it a month or so down the line.
But you're more likely to just look back fondly of the time and nothing more.
hmm... never really think about it.. but thanks... maybe thats 1 of the reason tat I feel uncomfortable wif it.. I guess oni time will tell
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Raparperi wrote...
kenayagami wrote...
guys... Im in a stuck here... well.. I just recently break up wif my gf.. it is a mutual agreement.. Im not really attracted to her anymore... but sometimes i wonder why tat sometimes i do feel sad tat she take this break up really well... Is it that deep down i still hav some feelings 4 her.. or is it something else..?What are your feelings towards her now? And how did she make you feel when you still were attracted to her? I mean, our feelings change in relationships, it happens to everyone. The feeling you get in the beginning of a relationship fades away and you wont get butterflies in your stomach anymore. At this point many people think they dont love their significant other anymore, but they just dont get it that the love changes, or more like the crush starts to change into love. And sometimes its hard to realize that you're in love when you're together all the time, but after being apart for a while, you start missing the company of your SO.
But yeah, nothing you can do atm. If your gf wanted to break up too, then just move on. Wait for the possible wounds to heal and start looking for a new girlfriend.
Yeah that.
