Needs help with a girl...

So she's your typical teenage asian girl next door type. She's never had a boyfriend before or had much of an interest in having one until i confessed to her this year. The problem is there's another guy that confessed to her, i did confront her about it before but she never gave a clear cut answer on who she rather be with and tell me things like her mom doesn't want her to get distracted from her studies or that we're still young and that maybe i would find a better girl in college. She would hang out with both of us normally if we approached her. So my question is why would she leave us both hanging like this? Honestly it's quite exhausting, i can't really move on cause I've actually fallen for this tsundere archtype = = and i can't push harder for an answer cause i don't want to make her feel bad either. If it's relevant to the situation, we're in highschool and this has been going on since January.

well, there's always the choice of asking her again.. if she says no, you tried, might as well stay as good friends a little bit longer.. or you can give up on her, honestly, i would because its not worth for me to be waiting forever for an answer that wont come.. i have my own life too and she has hers, if she decides to go with the other guy, you should respect her decision.. she might be wrong too you know

All that and pretty good points you gave Genqe.

She totally wants you. Go for it. If she says no she's just playing hard to get.

[font=comic sans ms]I don't think it's worth the trouble. If you really wanted her you'd be more bold and not let her dangle you on a string.

I think she's the type of the person who hesitates with these type of matters in a slow progressing matter. So that is why i think she hasn't given you a clear response. (Or she may be different else wise). I don't think she's doing it on purpose. But perhaps you can try to make things work and pursue her.

She left you both hanging because she's not really interested. Ask her again, get your answer and be done with the matter one way or another.

Didn't you answer your own question? Mom doesn't want her to date right now. Some asian parents are pretty strict about that.

Also, don't be the pushy guy...girls don't like that. Just focus on the interactions, this is what really matters.

This. Even if millions of guys confess to a girl, it doesnt mean she has to choose one. If she's not interested in either of you or if she just doesnt want a relationship yet, then thats it. Its better that she doesnt start dating you (or that other guy) than that she starts going out with one of you without feelings towards that person.
And if you're wondering why she doesnt just say it, maybe she doesnt want to hurt you? Its not easy to say "no" in a situation like that.

Or, she might like you both equally, and doesnt want to hurt neither of you. Or she actually does value what her mother says and because of that she wont date you.

Well that's pretty much what i have been doing so far. i did try asking her if we had a chance with all that i would wait etc with her mom's opinion aside but she kinda avoided the question by pointing at my history with other girls. I was quite open about it since i notice she had a small trust issue, her mom's doing i guess, she talks to her mom about me sometimes = =.

Actually I have thought about that, that's exactly why it's so frustrating ~~ =/ but even if its difficult to say no cause of a reason like 'not wanting to hurt me' i did make it clear that it wouldn't hurt me if she said 'no' since i did go through this kind of shit once and that's what i told her to put her quire to rest.

I know :( but no matter how many times i rammed my head into the wall, the fact that it's just not worth it won't stick. i rather not jump to conclusions since it's never a good thing to do. i may be a highschool brat but i promise i won't do anything stupid if she drops me and do stuff like ima kill you all or suicide @ @ that sounds like a cheap chinese drama.

today after a little push she told me that she treats me as friend she's comfortable to be around that's easy to talk to and also a few stuff she mentioned before like not thinking of a relationship currently, she went on about it for a few minutes though i couldn't catch some of it cause it was quite noisy at the time. I think she might be telling the other guy the simillar things too cause his facebook is full of i loves jus and i should make decisions that make jus happy when i'm not(annoying bastard). ah well, for now i think i'll continue being there for her without jeopardizing my education and dignity(wait that's almost gone), thanks for the support everyone.

good luck on your love life sir and continue being the best friend she might get, everything starts with the small friendships

That is a very pushy question...with a lot of pressure behind it. Most girls would be uncomfortable with it.

Its not worth it, you have millions of other options, I'm sure she is not the last nor the first girl you will go out with if you succeed but if she isn't willing to give you an answer and drags it as much as possible its a high chance that she is either being a bitch and leading you on and teasing you, listening to what her mother says and if she didnt decide to follow her own decision until now then she wont or she simply doesnt have interest in you and is just avoiding the answer. Either way its not worth the trouble of waiting and waiting for something that might never come, also if you go and search you will find some other girl probably better, and there is also the chance while youre searching that this one will come around. Honestly I'd rather go for a guy who doesnt droll after me and plays it cool and charming while always being there if I need something, also they say that you look the best when youre trying something very hard so why not start doing something useful like playing an instrument or doing sports if you want to impress her.

Welcome to the friend zone.

lol friend zone ._.>>> I kinda figured things wouldn't happen quite a while ago, thanks for the advice though. I didn't exactly tell her off though since it wasn't a nice thing to do, now i'm just getting my lazy ass out of the i don't want to let go phase. Thankfully i did all this dumb stuff while i'm young so i guess it's not a total loss. But as far as impressing a girl goes i don't do anything cool~ wire art, cooking and sewing is all i got _-~-_.