Online Dating
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So I this girl that I work with at the college book store, found her current boyfriend on WoW...World of Warcraft! They met in real life and now are currently living together. I felt so jealous when I heard this story. The guy is quite handsome and not the typical stereotype you would usually imagine when one hears anything about WoW. I mean guys like girls that game right?
Could online relationships work? I mean in the past people use to have pen pals and romance started through mail. Has anyone on fakku started a relationship online and met in real life?
I'm pretty sure there's a topic about this somewhere here, but search function is not working.
Could online relationships work? I mean in the past people use to have pen pals and romance started through mail. Has anyone on fakku started a relationship online and met in real life?
I'm pretty sure there's a topic about this somewhere here, but search function is not working.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Mickey D's wrote...
Has anyone on fakku started a relationship online and met in real life?Yes, actually. I know of two couples. Who met right in this very site.
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Love/feelings can spark anywhere, the location doesn't matter.
As Art said, nthere a couple that started here and met off line, and there are even more couples here that are planning to meet.
As Art said, nthere a couple that started here and met off line, and there are even more couples here that are planning to meet.
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All of my relationships started or existed totally, online. My longest and most recent relationship began online - we lived together for 3 years before I left, due to extreme and extenuating circumstances [don't ask].
That being said... all that's required to feel love is an emotional connection. Online, the only kind of connections are emotional. You go off of communicating with the other person. Obviously, it's easy to lie and make up outlandish stories, but it's also just as easy to feel comfortable enough to completely be yourself.
Online relationships however... don't work. You need to be with the person for things to work out. It really doesn't take long for the pining to get to be too much. Sure, phone and cyber sex is hot, but it loses its zing fairly quickly - no amount of talking can compare to the real touch of the one you love. Not even necessarily sexual.. but being able to hold, feel, see before you the person you love... is something definitely worth prioritizing over online relationships.
That being said... all that's required to feel love is an emotional connection. Online, the only kind of connections are emotional. You go off of communicating with the other person. Obviously, it's easy to lie and make up outlandish stories, but it's also just as easy to feel comfortable enough to completely be yourself.
Online relationships however... don't work. You need to be with the person for things to work out. It really doesn't take long for the pining to get to be too much. Sure, phone and cyber sex is hot, but it loses its zing fairly quickly - no amount of talking can compare to the real touch of the one you love. Not even necessarily sexual.. but being able to hold, feel, see before you the person you love... is something definitely worth prioritizing over online relationships.
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Mickey D's wrote...
Could online relationships work?
Yes, that possibility exists. The odds unfortunately aren't in any ones favor. I do like hearing stories like the one you just shared. Only wish i heard more of it.
I personally find it rather hard for me to try and make these work (I've been in 2 so far). Sure, the feelings and the attraction are there, but i find the lack of physical contact(Ms. Kitty explains it well, so i won't bother) to be a rather glaring setback. These sorts of relationships, i believe, should be made with the intention of working towards actually meeting each other eventually (and actually follow through with it. Talk is cheap).
The road is usually rough for couples online, but if you have any intentions of entering one, then i wish you good luck in finding your prince/princess.
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Mickey D's wrote...
Could online relationships work? I mean in the past people use to have pen pals and romance started through mail. Has anyone on fakku started a relationship online and met in real life?
Well, first of all. Guys generally enjoy it when girls play games. It usually gives another thing to do/thing to talk about. You know, besides being fun as heck lol*shoots more zombies*. (though to be fair if you say that you just play "call of duty" or something then that isn't really playing games, it is playing a game. It means more if you have your own preferences in games)
And yes online relationships could work. They need a bit of effort on both sides with regards to communication and such but are totally workable. I must admit that it is a nice story in my view because I do spend a lot of time on the internet/playing games and am not particularly skilled at meeting somebody(never). Even so I don't see it as being odd in terms of a relationship. Although with so many guys posing as girls/faking who they are (which is infamous in some games) it doesn't hurt to check first if you first met w/o any sort of voice chat lol. But that is the internet.
Online dating comes with it's own problems. The lack of physical contact makes it somewhat difficult for any of your traditional types of dates, movies, dinner, and so on. And the time difference can also be a problem if you two live in two different timezones, it makes schedules conflict and the time when you actually can meet and talk very limited. But again, if you are able to talk to each other and communicate I think it can work out well.
All that said, I think that the feeling of wanting to spend more time with a person to make up for the small problems with living somewhere not close by is really nice.
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I agree with Lolli really, I tried it multiple times, it just gets too hard.
It can work if it starts online but you two are ATLEAST on the same state or county so meeting each other is not as hard as 2 or 3 times in a whole year.
A day together to me is equal to chatting by text for a month or more.theres just SO much that you cant see over the phone or monitor. SO MUCH.
You two are in each others comfort zones, so certain things dont matter
It can work too even across the continent, but you need an assurance that IT IS TEMPORARY and theres a specific time frame on where that ends.
It can work if it starts online but you two are ATLEAST on the same state or county so meeting each other is not as hard as 2 or 3 times in a whole year.
A day together to me is equal to chatting by text for a month or more.theres just SO much that you cant see over the phone or monitor. SO MUCH.
You two are in each others comfort zones, so certain things dont matter
It can work too even across the continent, but you need an assurance that IT IS TEMPORARY and theres a specific time frame on where that ends.
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My reply from HERE:
Oh, and we're still together and sharing an apartment. Almost three years and going strong~
And HERE:
Online dating is useful, because you get to sort of "weed through" the kind of people you don't want to date. For instance, I always had trouble with getting attached in a relationship, and THEN realizing that we were completely mix-matched on our fundamentals and morals. What do you really do then? You're already devoted to a relationship that isn't going to work out! But, online you get to read profiles, exchange messages, and get a good idea who the person is before you start dating. And there's no awkward business of having chemistry with someone, and then finding out they're already dating someone and/or aren't interested anyhow. Everyone on a dating site is LOOKING TO DATE!
This is also helpful for those who get "friendzoned" a lot... in example, my boyfriend is a really nice guy. I think if we hadn't met online I might've made the mistake of pushing him in the friendzone - simply because he was a shy guy that took awhile to make a move, so I might've given up or stopped seeing him that way. What a shame that would've been! But if you meet up with someone, you know that they like you already and you're willing to hold on. There's no confusion.
On OkCupid especially, they ask TONS and TONS of questions from sexuality, to family values, hobbies, drug/alcohol usage, blahblahblahblah... so, if there is something you DEFINITELY don't or DO want in a partner all you have to do is compare your questions to see if you two would be compatible (although the nifty "match" percentage helps give you a bit of a guess).
Don't give up on love! Not all of us have an easy time finding it, and the person who is right for you might be closer then you think. Goodluck!
So, online dating can work, but I generally suggest that you use the internet to meet someone in your area. You'll be a lot happier that way, and have a better chance of success as well.
HappyDia01 wrote...
Andrew and I initially met on an online dating site, but decided to meet up after we exchanged a few messages over the course of a few weeks or so. We just seemed really in-tune with one another. At that point, we both knew what we wanted and were serious about finding a good relationship. So, we didn't play games with one another - we were completely honest from the start. However, it definitely helped that we were in the same general area, and could test out our attraction in person.Oh, and we're still together and sharing an apartment. Almost three years and going strong~
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HappyDia01 wrote...
I'd recommend online dating. There are a lot of sites out there catered towards people looking for love, even if you don't have money (plentyoffish, okcupid... etc). Personally, I met my boyfriend on OkCupid, and we've been happily together for 2, almost 3 years now, so it can work! And trust me, it is becoming much, much more common, so there isn't as much stigma anymore. Whenever I was shy about telling people about it, I usually got replies like: "What? So did I!"Online dating is useful, because you get to sort of "weed through" the kind of people you don't want to date. For instance, I always had trouble with getting attached in a relationship, and THEN realizing that we were completely mix-matched on our fundamentals and morals. What do you really do then? You're already devoted to a relationship that isn't going to work out! But, online you get to read profiles, exchange messages, and get a good idea who the person is before you start dating. And there's no awkward business of having chemistry with someone, and then finding out they're already dating someone and/or aren't interested anyhow. Everyone on a dating site is LOOKING TO DATE!
This is also helpful for those who get "friendzoned" a lot... in example, my boyfriend is a really nice guy. I think if we hadn't met online I might've made the mistake of pushing him in the friendzone - simply because he was a shy guy that took awhile to make a move, so I might've given up or stopped seeing him that way. What a shame that would've been! But if you meet up with someone, you know that they like you already and you're willing to hold on. There's no confusion.
On OkCupid especially, they ask TONS and TONS of questions from sexuality, to family values, hobbies, drug/alcohol usage, blahblahblahblah... so, if there is something you DEFINITELY don't or DO want in a partner all you have to do is compare your questions to see if you two would be compatible (although the nifty "match" percentage helps give you a bit of a guess).
Don't give up on love! Not all of us have an easy time finding it, and the person who is right for you might be closer then you think. Goodluck!
So, online dating can work, but I generally suggest that you use the internet to meet someone in your area. You'll be a lot happier that way, and have a better chance of success as well.
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My guy and I met on 4chan, moved in with him after 3 months due to various circumstances, and we've been physically together for about..4 and a half months so far. Like Loli said, online relationships definitely need shitloads of effort. My past 3 relationships were pretty much online/text based, since I only saw the other person at school for a couple hours a day.
The big killer is the lack of physical contact whether that may be sexual or not. Chances are (and those chances are VERY high), you or your partner will eventually get bored of never seeing each other, and the talking will eventually dwindle. There's only so much you can talk about in a day, and it just gets old, honestly.
Now if you and your other made plans to see each other every so often, or eventually move in (like I did, it just got jumpstarted by the circumstances I was in), that definitely adds a new spark to the relationship, because it gives both of you something to really look forward to.
But the only downside of visits is that you'll probably miss the fuck out of the other person until the next visit comes around, and that can turn sour too. One or both could get tired of waiting.
The big killer is the lack of physical contact whether that may be sexual or not. Chances are (and those chances are VERY high), you or your partner will eventually get bored of never seeing each other, and the talking will eventually dwindle. There's only so much you can talk about in a day, and it just gets old, honestly.
Now if you and your other made plans to see each other every so often, or eventually move in (like I did, it just got jumpstarted by the circumstances I was in), that definitely adds a new spark to the relationship, because it gives both of you something to really look forward to.
But the only downside of visits is that you'll probably miss the fuck out of the other person until the next visit comes around, and that can turn sour too. One or both could get tired of waiting.
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I tried it once,met this girl online and we chatted everyday and even went on skype almost everyday as well. We even send each other gifts and stuff by mail. After many months later,she told me she likes some other guy :/
Online dating didn't work for me it seems :(
Online dating didn't work for me it seems :(
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online dating is definitely risky imo. Its one of those things that everyone wants to workout but more often than not backfires and blows up in your face. The person could be lying to you and not be who they are, look like what they say they look like, or act differently in person. Its a Toss up.
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
hiirana wrote...
My guy and I met on 4chan, moved in with him after 3 months due to various circumstances, and we've been physically together for about..4 and a half months so far. Like Loli said, online relationships definitely need shitloads of effort. My past 3 relationships were pretty much online/text based, since I only saw the other person at school for a couple hours a day. The big killer is the lack of physical contact whether that may be sexual or not. Chances are (and those chances are VERY high), you or your partner will eventually get bored of never seeing each other, and the talking will eventually dwindle. There's only so much you can talk about in a day, and it just gets old, honestly.
Now if you and your other made plans to see each other every so often, or eventually move in (like I did, it just got jumpstarted by the circumstances I was in), that definitely adds a new spark to the relationship, because it gives both of you something to really look forward to.
But the only downside of visits is that you'll probably miss the fuck out of the other person until the next visit comes around, and that can turn sour too. One or both could get tired of waiting.
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Gravity cat
the adequately amused
hiirana wrote...
My guy and I met on 4chan, moved in with him after 3 months due to various circumstances, and we've been physically together for about..4 and a half months so far. Like Loli said, online relationships definitely need shitloads of effort. My past 3 relationships were pretty much online/text based, since I only saw the other person at school for a couple hours a day. The big killer is the lack of physical contact whether that may be sexual or not. Chances are (and those chances are VERY high), you or your partner will eventually get bored of never seeing each other, and the talking will eventually dwindle. There's only so much you can talk about in a day, and it just gets old, honestly.
Now if you and your other made plans to see each other every so often, or eventually move in (like I did, it just got jumpstarted by the circumstances I was in), that definitely adds a new spark to the relationship, because it gives both of you something to really look forward to.
But the only downside of visits is that you'll probably miss the fuck out of the other person until the next visit comes around, and that can turn sour too. One or both could get tired of waiting.
Pretty much sums up why I stopped e-dating altogether.
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I tried it once. Met her on a forum, added her on MSN and it evolved from there.
Though I ended it because I just know there was no way we were gonna meet up any time soon.
Online dating is all well and good for some people but I need that physical touch which dating online will never provide.
I think it depends on how long you're willing wait before you do meet in real life and if you have a solid plan on actually travelling to said person. Otherwise it's best not thinking about.
Though I ended it because I just know there was no way we were gonna meet up any time soon.
Online dating is all well and good for some people but I need that physical touch which dating online will never provide.
I think it depends on how long you're willing wait before you do meet in real life and if you have a solid plan on actually travelling to said person. Otherwise it's best not thinking about.
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How does one even start an online relationship? It seems more like "lol we're dating online, hurdur!" whenever I think about it.
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Of course they can work if both people are mutually dedicated to make it work.When its online the person is forced to focus on the personality reference then on the look reference and so when the couples acutally meet..it wouldnt be hard for them to further the relationship on a deeper level.. learned that off of eroge games
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Lollikittie wrote...
Online relationships however... don't work.hmmmm,the vast majority don't turn out well, but there are cases the LDR actually work quite nicely.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
mayunnaise wrote...
Lollikittie wrote...
Online relationships however... don't work.hmmmm,the vast majority don't turn out well, but there are cases the LDR actually work quite nicely.
Perhaps, but the problem is that, for a relationship to really work, that physical intimacy needs to be there at one point too. Staying online forever is just gonna cause problems constantly, from what I've seen.
So it's basically a matter of, long-distance/online relationship can work, but only if they couple plan on, and are able to close that distance eventually.