Opposites... do attract?
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I've always disliked the phrase "opposites attract" when applied to anything that isn't related to science. That phrase was never meant to be applied to such a broad concept as love, but now I'm beginning to question myself on having such a firm stance.
I always wondered why some people get in a relationship with someone who is so clearly different from them. I've always thought you have to be able to share a great deal of common interests to satisfactorily be in a relationship with someone, but now I'm beginning to see the appeal just a bit.
You see, I've always had a problem with being over-opinionated, my sister and I have both managed to get ourselves in hot water by voicing ourselves, aggressively, when our opinions were not warranted. Sometimes it is just best to keep your mouth shut. There are certain times for everything in life and that goes for voicing your opinions too. It has taken me years to understand that.
Anyway, where am I going with this? Well, that girl I had been talking about in my other topic, is awfully different from me. I noticed that I am often so nervous around her, and sometimes I struggle to say anything to her because I get so worried about how she will react. I don't wanna upset her kind of thing. Yeah, I know, the sick puppy condition, but that isn't this topic is about.
Point is, she's the only person I know who has made me act the complete opposite of how I typically do. I just now only realized it, and realized that is part of what I love about her. Then I realized how contradictory that is to how I view love. I enjoy acting completely different around her, because of her? How does that make sense? Now I'm beginning to understand the appeal of liking someone so different from yourself. It is exciting.
Ironically, despite the fact that "opposites attract" is based off of a scientific principle, I tried to apply some kind of mathematical formula to love despite the fact that it simply doesn't work.
I always wondered why some people get in a relationship with someone who is so clearly different from them. I've always thought you have to be able to share a great deal of common interests to satisfactorily be in a relationship with someone, but now I'm beginning to see the appeal just a bit.
You see, I've always had a problem with being over-opinionated, my sister and I have both managed to get ourselves in hot water by voicing ourselves, aggressively, when our opinions were not warranted. Sometimes it is just best to keep your mouth shut. There are certain times for everything in life and that goes for voicing your opinions too. It has taken me years to understand that.
Anyway, where am I going with this? Well, that girl I had been talking about in my other topic, is awfully different from me. I noticed that I am often so nervous around her, and sometimes I struggle to say anything to her because I get so worried about how she will react. I don't wanna upset her kind of thing. Yeah, I know, the sick puppy condition, but that isn't this topic is about.
Point is, she's the only person I know who has made me act the complete opposite of how I typically do. I just now only realized it, and realized that is part of what I love about her. Then I realized how contradictory that is to how I view love. I enjoy acting completely different around her, because of her? How does that make sense? Now I'm beginning to understand the appeal of liking someone so different from yourself. It is exciting.
Ironically, despite the fact that "opposites attract" is based off of a scientific principle, I tried to apply some kind of mathematical formula to love despite the fact that it simply doesn't work.
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Takerial
Lovable Teddy Bear
It is doubtful that she is your exact opposite. Just a different personality in certain areas. Just because they have a different aspect doesn't mean it is your opposite.
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The only pure truth about love is that it doesn't make sense.
While some people like being with someone they have lots in common with, others enjoy the intense chemistry experienced with their complete opposites.
People are attracted to each other for any number of reasons, and act different when they're together because they just share that certain spark.
But there is no telling which two people will click, and which ones will simply not get along- nor is there any way to discern why.
While some people like being with someone they have lots in common with, others enjoy the intense chemistry experienced with their complete opposites.
People are attracted to each other for any number of reasons, and act different when they're together because they just share that certain spark.
But there is no telling which two people will click, and which ones will simply not get along- nor is there any way to discern why.
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Opposites attract can strictly only be applied fully to science however in my opinion it can be PARTIALLY applied to relationships. What I mean by this is say theres this gorgeous girl who for some reason I really like both personality wise and physically. We have to have some things in common so we cant possibly be the polar opposites of each other but there may be certain things we have opposite opinions on, an example may be music or something. She might love country music and I might like heavy metal and we might both hate our partners choices of music with a passion but at the end of the day we might also like the fact that she hates our choice of music. (This was a terrible example choice but imagine it with something relevant to personality. She might be indecisive whilst you might be very decisive and that indecisiveness could be very annoying yet cute at the same time.)
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bongzilla
Your Weird Cousin
Sometimes, really deep relationships develop between differing personality-types simply because they compliment each other. Similar to OP's example, you can have someone who is normally highly opinionated or even argumentative who gets along with a more quiet or less opinionated personality type simply because the two of them can find a balance between each other. A more abrasive person might soften up a bit and not take things so out of proportion when they have a partner who takes things in stride and doesn't sweat the small stuff. At the same time, a less confrontational person may take strength in their partner's more "in-your-face" personality during times when they need to stand up for themselves. I like to believe that this is where the term "better half" comes from, as some couples can find such compatability with each other that they work better together than apart.
