Sex Friend

You mean 'fuck buddies', or 'Friends With Benefits?'

Nah, would like one though. Don't really see a problem with it as long as both people respect the boundaries.

Is there a difference ?

Fuck buddies tend to be just that. You fuck and done. Friends with benefits are usually good friends who occasionally have sex. As long as both people (or more) know exactly what is going on I don't see a problem with it. It isn't as easy as it may seem, but what is?

But for you this isn't a normal situation because you have a relationship. Communication is key and since you feel nervous about your fiancee's response it probably means you don't think they would approve. Its a bit late to "fix" it. You've made your bed and now you've gotta lie in it. I wish you luck.

On a personal note did you really think your fiancee would be all hunky dory with this when you started? I don't know what your relationship is like, but when you ask someone to marry you (or vice versa) it usually means you want to be completely mutually exclusive. (unless otherwise stated)

I dont want to sound like an ass, its the truth. Living in japan makes no excuse for having sex friends. sex is sex nothing of it is an excuse. You are a total ass for doing that even though you have a fiance. That guilt that you have will pile up, and if you continue to do so, id suggest leaving your fiance if you cant even stop having sex with other people.

I personally don't mind sex friends/friends with benefits when you're not in a relationship and masturbation just isn't cutting it.
I myself had a few, but it didnt work out after a short for multiple reasons.

In your particular situation, I don't deer why you would bother with having them, especially when you're engaged. I'm assuming the relationship isnt open to allow something like that, and with all that in mind, not telling is an insult to the trust youre fiance ought to have in you.
You need to tell her

I don't really do the whole girlfriend thing, but I do have sex friends.

I don't like being being settled down with one women.

There's a lot of ppl with that name. Which one are you?

my pic is my fiancee with a pedobear seal

SexFriend = Friends with benefits = (Y)

But if you have a fiancee for a long time and he/she has no idea whats going on,
God Help You

let me tell u something. trust is one of the most important thing for relationships. if she trusts u right now, think to urself, do u deserve her trusts?

U have 2 choices. u can pick ur fiance, or u can pick ur sex friends. who is more important?

you're cheating on your fiance that beautiful? if i had a girl who liked me, i'd actualy cherish her for it...

Wow its been 7 years since this post but here’s an update on what happened
I told her the truth and she forgave me for what i had done but she said she wanted some time off and really think about everything. It took us about 1 1/2 year before we could restart our relationship and were married with a 1 year old daughter
For all the people that gave me advice on this thread.
Thank you all of you, without you i would have made it secret and keep that guilt for a long time.
Thank you for giving me the strength and courage so i could tell the truth to her and because of that i am truely happy of my life right now.

I just found out about this thread, but I'm glad everything turned out well for you! I agree that the keystone for a happy relationship is trust and communication and not keeping any secrets from each other. So good for you!

I'll never understand how anyone stays or even gets back together once cheating is admitted.

I mean you have some seriously good luck on your side. Or maybe other factors which would seem rude to mention are involved.

Either way don't screw it up, this is a happiness you don't really deserve. The only thing you can really do to wash away this black mark is to be the best mate/husband and give 200% effort to make it up to her.

A friend of mine got cheated on by his girlfriend with her ex she was still hung up on, and I lost all respect for her after that. They got back together against our advice, and then he cut ties with us. Hasn't spoken to us for 4 years. They're now expecting a kid.

More power to them I suppose as long as he's happy, but I still think she doesn't deserve him since he was loyal to her all throughout until she cheated on him. A happiness that she doesn't deserve as far as I'm concerned.