Should I?

The question here is: Is love enough?

I broke up with my problem boyfriend almost a month ago I believe. We just saw each other in person only a few hours ago. We discovered that we love each other more than words can explain. I have decisions and risks to take here. We both have promised each other things will be different; that we won't fight often and be mean to each other. The passion and love cannot be denied between us. We fit perfectly together. I just don't know if this love is enough to take the plunge and risk going back into the cycle of a "toxic relationship"

"Love is for the lucky and for the brave"

If your brave take the leap and get back together though there might be problems talk them out. Communication is key in any relationship. If it was that bad of a relationship then don't do it since it will make you go through the same things as before. Have you guys broken up before?

No. A big, fat, Rosie O'Donnell-sized no.

Love and "passion" alone is not enough for anything. You, of all people, have certainly showed us that (though I honestly doubt this love you have). You need communication; you need trust; fucking hell Shiki, you need a DAMN STABLE MIND THAT WON'T BITE YOU IN THE ASS WHEN YOU'RE NOT LOOKING.

You've taken the risk already, and it didn't pay off. You made the decision to leave him, so stick with it.

P.S. Congratulations, you're the first example I'VE seen of a girl stuck in a "toxic relationship" as we all put it. Really given me a view on how crazy they can be. <3

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO look why would you want to get back in a toxic relationship its like you got two doors one with a bunch of crazy killer zombies who want to eat your brains or a room with a duck who cant die and lays golden eggs everyday and going into the room with the zombies knowing there are zombies.Look I honestly would write out a contract with rules regarding dating with a infidelity clause if you go back to that guy(just in case)

however it maybe you just want some vitamin D / protein

why not ask if he wants a fuckbuddy that way you know what your getting into without the heartache and keep it a purely a mutual benefit agreement if thats what you both want

And i agree with Artcellrox for the congrats if you can pull it together

shiki-pick me my middle name is trust well not really but if it would be my second pick to my real middle name(hypothetical/offer stands)

No, I agree with artcellrox don't get back together theres too much drama.

No, no, no, no, no, no, and more no's than the number of days we've waited for Final Fantasy Versus 13. This girl and her ex are not fit to be in any sort of relationship right now. Her previous thread proved it, and having personally talked to her to know her more, I can vouch for that. The sex is only going to confuse and delude them into thinking lust equates love.

Also, no. This is not the place to hit on anyone, plus you know what they say about sticking your dick in crazy.

Good point/my mistake and ive never heard that expression but it sounds like it would be bad

i dont know you well Artcellrox if i may call you Art(no disrespect intended i just like to keep it simple) but you ought to get a tv show about relationships probably do really well

i would go with this:(shiki)Eskimos put their elderly(ex) on ice floes to die?yes and they never saw them ever again most likely and i mean this metaphorically

I originally picked the option for you two to get back together, but then Art pointed out that thread that you made before. Yeah, don't get back together with him. Judging from what I read in your previous thread, he's not worth anything at all. Also, just imagine that one of the votes for getting back together was moved to staying apart.

Leave. Do yourself a favor and just end it. Thumb through my older topics, or ask Dai, Art or Lolli, this cannot and will not end well, I would know.

I say no, especially since you say he was your problem boyfriend. If the two of you were perfectly suited for each other like you claim, you wouldn't have the problem of fighting so often in the first place. If you two get back together, both of you may end up hurting each other more in the future. Even if both of you promise not to fight or hurt each other, people don't change so quickly even if they want to.

Personally I don't think getting back together would be a healthy decision. You make it sound like the two of you fight a lot, so I see the possibility of a cycle forming where you two break up and get back together multiple times. Those kinds of relationships aren't very healthy and I don't hear about many of them working out well in the end. I'm not saying that it definitely will happen, just that there is a possibility from what you have told us.

I hope that didn't come out sounding too harsh. I have a bit of experience with on again-off again relationships and they were pretty turbulent to say the least.

Nope. You broke up for a reason. If you get back together, the chances of things working out are extremely low.

Art is exactly right. You've taken the risk once before, if you get back together, it WILL go back to what it was. Unless on some very very slim chance one of you (whoever was at fault) actually accepted they were at fault, and are going to change (in which case, they probably will go back to what they were like) You can't change people.

Everyone calls hims Art, so don't sweat it.

OT: I would personally not get back into a relationship that has failed before. It will fail again, no matter how hard you try. You guys are bound to say, "It'll be better, and we'll try harder," but the history of your relationship is still there and will affect the relationship. You will most likely reflect on it later on (if you continue this relationship) and regret it, as will he. Besides, your relationship failed for a reason... didn't it?

What has changed in both of you that you think this relationship can work?

Nvm, I actually don't care. You should get back together, have a kid, and get married.

Codependency isn't the same as love. You left because you weren't really in love with him. It's breakup goggles. You'll get over it.

The sad truth is, it'll probably happen, anyway.
I know I did it a few times, ask for help on whether I should do something, knowing full well I was going to, but just wanted somebody to talk to. She'll probably go through with it, and regret it later.
IF she doesn't, good work. Keep looking, you'll find somebody better. Just gotta keep your head up (but not in your ass, that's a bit too far up)

Well it didn't take long for the cycle to start again.

I've been talking to him. We have decided not to get into a relationship. But to start out and friends, talk a little, and see where things go. I made it perfectly clear that I do not wish to rush into the sex like we did last time. I want to get to know him better and see if things could possibly work out. If they can't, I will not commit to him. In addition to this, I was to blame just as much as he was or maybe more. I'm still not too sure about that one. I was just a lil too crazy, and he was just a little to angry. But small steps into an unknown path is what we're doing. And we'll just have to see where things go. Thank you for all the feedback guys. I'm sorry that I keep posting about my relationship problems. But my friends really suck about giving me feedback. They only tell me what I want to hear.

... I still say it won't work out.

I voted that I'll leave a comment but honestly I'm leaning towards leaving. If the relationship was really toxic then how do you know it won't be different the second time around? It is nice to think that it will but reality often has a cruel nature and it probably won't be that much better.

I am sure we are all missing some key details but I generally agree that getting back into the relationship after you just broke up with him probably isn't the best idea.