spicin' up the sex

  we've been banging for a few weeks now, and are pretty much comfortable with one another in bed (as well as emotionally if you care about more relationship-y things, but that's not what this thread is about, it's about having better sex).

  and to give a bit of context - though I am reluctant to do so, since I'd rather not have this devolve into me having to explain my sexuality or gender to people - we're both girls, but I have a dick, so.. y'know. and I am not the biggest fan of it, so it's kind of not very much so in the picture (besides being fellated a few times) in bed. askin' that you respect that and not make the post all about that. my dick is out of the picture, I don't want to fuck anyone, I don't even really want to be touched down there.

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  anyways... as it stands, when we have sex it's more just a lot of kissing, oral, touching.. basically, no genital-on-genital contact going on, and I think we both want to have more interesting sex - though cuddling and physically getting one another off in simpler ways is great and all.

  and basically, my only understanding of what my options are insofar as sex come from hentai and porn, and well.. they generally aren't the most useful insofar as what to do if you're a lesbian. unless it's be cute and gay and kiss affectionately on the lips a lot. and we've got that part down.

  I'd -like- to start using dildos or some sort of toys, but she doesn't seem to like the idea. Says she doesn't think they're hot. and on top of that, I don't even know how to bring up the subject of her doing the penetratin' with them, because she's.. well, she just doesn't really think about that, she's pretty vanilla. though I'd really like that to be a thing. like, a lot. I've never done anything insofar as penetration goes, so I dunno if I'd have to work up to it or what.

   and like, I don't want to have to go out and get a harness and a dildo (or just a strap on, though that is kinda limiting compared to a harness + one-or-more dildos, I'd imagine) - because that's not exactly cheap, and we sure as hell aren't going to be boring anyone's sex toys - if she's not going to want to ever use them.
...yeah...


I just dunno.
Basically I'm bouncing ideas off the wall here and looking for input. Not exactly sure where I'd go for advice of this sort. I don't know if the community here is all that good on this sorta thing, but may as well ask.

This is all kinda sex-ed-y, I know, but.. there isn't much sex-ed to be had on my particular.. sexual situation, I guess. Unless I go by what doujins have taught me, which is to find a man who is somehow my size (I'm small but I'm not that small) and get fucked silly by him. But I kinda like my girlfriend so I don't think that's an option.

I believe this tumblr post might be able to help you.

http://siripornstar.tumblr.com/post/41914609049/do-you-think-a-relationship-could-work-out-if-one#disqus_thread

I suppose so!
Now I still have to figure out what to do, dang. :S

Basically follow Siri's advice and have a conversation with your partner. One free of judgement about your needs and desires. Offer one of her fantasies with one of yours and see if she is open to doing them.

Other than what Tsujoi said, it doesn't seem like you got a lot of options.
Talking more extensively is your best route for now.

id say get a strap on. it works

you can do light bdsm. just spanking, maybe get use a brush to hit each other if you cant buy a flogger?

i tried this with a woman once, experimenting. you know you dont always have to penetrate each other. sometimes you can just touch each other. spend an hour just doing that and it can change your view on physical affection really.

i dont know if your on horms, if you are youd love touching then

as for her doin the penetratin, sometimes theres just nothin you can do about it if she doesnt wanna. :( you can try to bargain with her maybe.

one alternative too is swinging, get a guy that you two can share for fun?

just finger other too

exert the roughness through other means if you cant through penetration.

you can try doing things in public too, not visible like play with other in the car. or you two being girls, go to a stall in the girls and do stuff there. we tried it a few times, it ws funny hahahaha or one time we took turns sucking each others tits at the movie place

I think the problem is more a compatibility issue. I don't think you necessarily need to 'spice things up', you need to broaden your options. As a M2F transgender, you are a woman and desire to have sex as a woman. Your partner needs to understand and recognize that. It seems to me that you need to have a good talk with her about it and perhaps invest in a strap on. If cost is an issue then get an adjustable one that you can share and wash in between.

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Be more clear, are you female, male, transgender? Since you said you have a dick (and it didnt look like it was metaphorical) ill assume you are transgender.

I dont know what you have tried or not yet, but i assume 69 would be pleasurable for both you and your girlfriend. Try high intensity vibration coupled with small electric shocks (such as in a prank pen) on some sensitive spots such as nipples, clitoris etc. If you have a prostate, then stimulating the point between the anus and vaginal opening (if you have one) with a solid spherical object that vibrates on high intensity pressed firmly into the point can also be very pleasurable.

if you are open minded you could try having sex while under the influence of GHB (both of you at the same time). GHB is most famed as a date-rape drug, but what people dont know is that when taken in small amounts, it produces intense euphoria during sexual intercourse, and artificially increases your feeling of affection while under the influence, so it will be even more pleasurable than just simple euphoria. Also, various opiates such as morphine and codeine are great during sex, because it makes you very sensitive to touch, and you will find you derive pleasure from touching, fondling, vibrating devices etc.
But i dont really recommend doing drugs if you arnt already a drug user. You are responsible for your own actions, so if something happens, im not to blame.


Hope you and your girlfriend will have fun :3

I'm transgender, and I'm intersex, but was assigned male.
So I'm XX (which I only found out quite recently!), have internal female genitalia (that don't work right ;~; no kids for me) and external male genitalia. Long story short, I'm a girl with a dick. How is that "fuck logic?"

And dude, don't be dissin' no trans people, they're male or female just the same as cis people. I'm not exactly typical for a trans person, but still, that shit ain't cool, a transgender woman who has a penis is still a woman. I don't want to rant or anything, but yeah, be more mindful of that, y'know?


Also, good advice, thanks, though I'm not sure that my girlfriend is big on drugs... she doesn't even like to drink or smoke weed. But where would I get GHB?

Not dissing anyone (in fact, i find it quite hot when people are intersex, and since im bi, its like 2 birds with one stone), im just straight to the point (also, keep in mind that English is my 4th language, and my least proficient one, so sometimes i can come off as rude, because of the style i write in).

Do you have a prostate and a clitoris(internal?)? If you do, you have sooo many possibilities. Oh, and what are your sensitive spots? I know that when someone kisses me on the cheek i get this super tingly feeling down my back, all the way down to my left butt cheek (and i find it pleasurable), so you might want explore those things.

If you put your mind to it, you can orgasm just about anywhere on your body with the proper stimulation. Hell, i even achieved an orgasm in my right index finger once before by keeping it inside this vibrating thingy that i made for various purposes for 20-30 minutes

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Also, i talked to a pair of shoes today, and they said that GHB can be easily made. The shoes ran off again before i could ask them for details, so youre on your own from here on luv' ;3

I don't know if I have a clitoris. I don't think so, because I don't have a vulva. Definitely have a prostate though.

Ok, thats still plenty. Do you enjoy anal stimulation (like using a buttplug)? Do you enjoy using your penis for penetrative sex (if you do, then does your girlfriend enjoy penetrative sex via your penis?)?

If you enjoy having sex with guys (and threesome's), then you could do lots of stuff. Like for example you could get a guy to ravage you from behind while you do the same to your gf missionary style. Or you could give the guy head while doing it with your gf in all positions. You could do a triangular 69. You could have the guy do your gf and do him from behind (although i doubt youd let anybody do your gf, just thought id throw it in there as an option). You could get more than one guy to join. You could give me a call, and then id come over with a whole brigade wearing nothing but combat boots and pirate eye patches to deliver you and your girlfriend pleasure. The possibilities are endless.

If you are not a fan of pardon the straight forwardness, sticking things up your ass, you can still stimulate the prostate externally, you dont even need toys and vibrators for that, you can just use your fingers by firmly pressing into the spot thats between your anus and where the vaginal opening would be, but more closer to the anus. Youll know when you hit the right spot.


If you like using drugs, then you could perhaps do the following (its called "shooting stars"):

Get naked, erect, and tell your gf to give you a handjob. Once you are near climaxing crouch down, and slam some heroin (or even better, a speedball) count to three and then jump up as high and fast as you can (this will bring on INTENSE euphoria, and by intense i mean it will kick your ass). Once you land on the ground in whatever position, your girlfriend should immediately give you strong and fast head, so that you climax/ejaculate very quickly (ideally within 15 seconds after the jump), and tell her to keep on blowing you even after you ejaculate and then start flailing your arms because of it becoming unbearable.

^^ I guarantee that afterwards you will tattoo my username on your forehead, so that every time you look at yourself in the mirror you will remember me.

Dude, I don't want to be that girl, but you're kind of breaking a pretty solid rule, here, with your advice.



I... I need to report you. D: