Stages of intimacy
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What sort of "system" of escalating physical intimacy do you go by when starting a relationship?
For example, at what point do you first feel it is appropriate to touch, hug, kiss, makeout, other bases, etc... What are your "standards" for what is appropriate by what day of dating/ stage of relationship?
Does it throw you off (or scare you off) if a guy/girl moves too fast?
Or do you just go with what you feel like at the time?
For example, at what point do you first feel it is appropriate to touch, hug, kiss, makeout, other bases, etc... What are your "standards" for what is appropriate by what day of dating/ stage of relationship?
Does it throw you off (or scare you off) if a guy/girl moves too fast?
Or do you just go with what you feel like at the time?
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
just go by what you feel pre-much... i find kissing and saying 'i love you' to be the hardest to tell when it's the right time.. as too early and shit gets awkward, and too late and she gets pissy >.>
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Pretty much go by feeling, since every person is different there is no real way to schedule out when and how much intimacy is involved, one girl might move a bit faster than another, whatever feels comfortable for both parties involved is a good rule of thumb
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Honestly, I use a system of Flags like galges which actually do seem to help and help me analyze the situation.
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Oh, and to clarify, I also meant like: what are your standards for like, first date, second date, etc behavior?
When do you feel it's best to start making serious moves and such.
When do you feel it's best to start making serious moves and such.
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gizgal wrote...
Oh, and to clarify, I also meant like: what are your standards for like, first date, second date, etc behavior?When do you feel it's best to start making serious moves and such.
first date is just basically a meet and greet, talking joking and showing her a good time is probably as far as i will go. if she is trying to "get down" on the first date then she probably aint the relationship type. the second third fourth and so on Ill probably play it by the mood but if i aint touched her by the fourth date then she is automatically friend zoned.
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Firstbornnyc wrote...
gizgal wrote...
Oh, and to clarify, I also meant like: what are your standards for like, first date, second date, etc behavior?When do you feel it's best to start making serious moves and such.
first date is just basically a meet and greet, talking joking and showing her a good time is probably as far as i will go. if she is trying to "get down" on the first date then she probably aint the relationship type. the second third fourth and so on Ill probably play it by the mood but if i aint touched her by the fourth date then she is automatically friend zoned.
But what are YOUR standards? Not what you judge in a partner ;p
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My standards require at least a date and seeing how she likes my place. I also kind of require for the said girl to at least share some interest as I do. (Of course this is kind of hypocritical of me since I have had one-night stands before) For long term ^. I can write a book but just not feeling it right now. Offtopic: My issue is that I can't seem to have my cake and eat it too when it comes to women. (Meaning can't have a decent looking girl with similar interests, these kinds of girls always seem to be always taken and or gay)However, I have learned that by putting myself out there and getting myself involved in social gatherings the higher the likely hood I would get at least some action. (Has always worked, just got to keep yourself busy)
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gizgal wrote...
Firstbornnyc wrote...
gizgal wrote...
Oh, and to clarify, I also meant like: what are your standards for like, first date, second date, etc behavior?When do you feel it's best to start making serious moves and such.
first date is just basically a meet and greet, talking joking and showing her a good time is probably as far as i will go. if she is trying to "get down" on the first date then she probably aint the relationship type. the second third fourth and so on Ill probably play it by the mood but if i aint touched her by the fourth date then she is automatically friend zoned.
But what are YOUR standards? Not what you judge in a partner ;p
my standards? i never really thought about it, the date is never about me its about the girl, if she is uncomfortable, then im uncomfortable, is she wants to wait or go all the way its all up to her, my standards dont really matter so i have never developed any, if that makes any sense.
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It would be okay for me to kiss, hug and make out on the first date if the 'chemistry' is right. It's not that serious business, and if it feels right to give and receive a few kisses and cuddles, then why not.
I think sex comes with trusts, and how fast that builds up depends on many factors. If have known them online for a long time, I might trust him/her even before meeting, even though it's unlikely. Also some people are more open and more willing to share personal feelings and info among other things, which makes it easier to trust them.
As a rule, no sex with anyone you wouldn't give your car keys to or whom you wouldn't let be in your apartment unguarded. Casual touchy feely is fine from the point you have decided to try having a relationship of some sort.
I think sex comes with trusts, and how fast that builds up depends on many factors. If have known them online for a long time, I might trust him/her even before meeting, even though it's unlikely. Also some people are more open and more willing to share personal feelings and info among other things, which makes it easier to trust them.
As a rule, no sex with anyone you wouldn't give your car keys to or whom you wouldn't let be in your apartment unguarded. Casual touchy feely is fine from the point you have decided to try having a relationship of some sort.
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gizgal wrote...
What sort of "system" of escalating physical intimacy do you go by when starting a relationship?For example, at what point do you first feel it is appropriate to touch, hug, kiss, makeout, other bases, etc... What are your "standards" for what is appropriate by what day of dating/ stage of relationship?
Does it throw you off (or scare you off) if a guy/girl moves too fast?
Or do you just go with what you feel like at the time?
As far as i can see its about the connection you have. for instance i once met this Girly from the UK will i was dating this other girl at the time. me and UK hit it off like two halves of a whole coming together! we were talking outside while my gf was talking to UK's sister. oh i remember UK=Fiona) that was her name. GOD WAS SHE SEXY LUUUVVV THAT NAME! anyway outside talking drinking some coffee and we start zipping through topics like dying by bleeding out, her grandpa or someother dying of alzheimers, but either way i was sure that if i would have sat next to her she wouldnt have pulled away, she would have leaned in even though she had a bf. so its all about comfort zones. if it sounds awkward chances are it is D:
