Weddings?

So I'm getting married :DDDDDDD
And now I have the daunting task of planning the wedding, since my guy and I don't really have the money for a wedding planner, lol.

My question is, what all goes into a wedding? I have no clue.
I know I have to pick a place, pick invites, a dress, rings, etc etc, but there's a bunch of other little things that I need to do, but I don't know what those all are.

So for those of you who are married, what did you do for your wedding??

Also, wedding traditions, recommendations, anything else related??
Any advice is very appreciated c:

Have this at your wedding. It's awesome.

We just when to the courthouse and the judge did it. She didn't want to hassle with the church since... well... let just say she should never wear white. doesn't help im excommunicated and she Catholic.

Heh, I would, but it's a little too Asian for what we're going for. Thanks though! I actually have a thread up for wedding music here.



Hmm, I would have opted for that since it's cheaper, but my guy wants to spoil me and give me a full wedding ;/////;
How'd you manage to get excommunicated? :o if you don't mind me asking. lol

I'm not married nor am I planning on getting married, but weddings can be fun so I'm not "100% not interested" in weddings.

So, I know that weddings are a huge thing in the US and weddings there are a bit different from what we have here (finnish people usually have smaller weddings with not even half of the decorations and stuff you see in wedding tv shows)

But since some people like theme weddings, imo first you should thinnk what kind of wedding you want. Do you want any themes for your wedding.and if you do, after choosing that some other things will be easier to choose like the cake, decorations, dress, food, invites and so on.

So other than the possible theme you'll need:
- choose who to invite and think about how many people you want there. And then the invites for those people
- Food, cake and drinks and snacks and stuff. And dont forget that some of the guests might have allergies and make sure you have enough food for eveyone.
- Your wedding dress, suit for the man and bridesmaid dresses + the rings
- choose the place for the wedding and then if needed, choose the decorations.
- Band?
- if you want to give gifts to the guests, then the gifts too (I have never really understood this)
- Dont stress too much!

Aaaand I'm trying to think about all the things I've seen on wedding tv shows but I cant think of anything else right now. At last the fact that I have my tv on almost all the time has paid off D:

Hahaha, thanks so much! I managed to find something online that has a huge guide, but I'm still kinda stuck :v
I guess it's just pretty hard to plan this out when my family lives 2000 miles away, and we're kinda broke. I doubt my mother will want anything to do with it, especially financially. :/
But whatever, I'm sure we'll figure something out.

Really? Gratz :D
Inb4 this is up on the page... If not, it will be soon! >:L
edit: Balls. Ah well, commented on your post. son.

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There's the whole 'something old, something new, something gold, something blue' not sure about gold, but it's something like that for a tradition :D
Also, don't go too overboard, just get like nibblies, have a reception at a interested or something for food. Have a small band play some toonz whilst everyone mingles and waits, and then they play the wedding march (or if you like metal, get them to do a slightly heavier version of the wedding march. that'd be funny and awesome >:D

Close enough! It's something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. :)

Also congratulations!

Traditionally you have a dress, flowers, a rehearsal dinner, a reception, then the cost of place you will have the wedding, and a honeymoon if you can afford it. Now that times have changed, weddings have become more unique and expressive of the people having them

I am not married, but I like the idea of having something quirky and not so closely related to a church (renting out a church is expensive and troublesome depending on your religions). When my parents got married they just went to the Court House and had a huge dinner afterwards for their peers.

Etsy has a bunch of handmade a DIY ideas and tips if you are interested in looking.

Ah, excellent. Thanks! :D

And agreed. I'd love to just have a wedding on a beach or something, but if my partner is religious, I'd go for a church, just so it's official in their religion or what not. Otherwise, have a proper wedding there, then have a fake wedding on a beach somewhere :D Whatever it's called (I know there is a proper name for it... Brain has run off on me... Doesn't help that it's 4:43am)

But yeah, wedding on the beach, with a dinner and party at probably mine afterwards (if I have a house that's big enough) else, just a reception at a restaurant :D

Beat the shit out of a priest. Made inappropriate comments to my friends' mother about his funeral prep and his soul being in hell with all the faggots and suicides. Tough to be gay in the land of the popist neoconservatives. The Bishop sent him to some other parish, but alast Nemini Reservatæ because i abuse a minster which the bishop then lifted after the priest was arrested for abusing kids with flagellation.

I just say screw it since i don't follow the dogma of the church. Plus abuse made me think twice to coming back.. im happy with the church i serve now. They don't judge others.

I was married in a tiny chapel with about 40 guest then reception was at a private function room at a hotel.
We made the invitations ourselves, very little responded by the RSVP date so ended up calling everyone and asking.
My wife sorted out all the bride maids and wedding dress stuff.
I picked the cake out which was a 3 tier with different flavours for each tier
We had a DJ for the reception.
But in the end it costed just under $14,000

It's "Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue."

OT:

I -really- don't want to rain on your parade, but I have a friend who had a long-term boyfriend, they were engaged for well over a year, she actually started planning the wedding - picked out the dress, the color scheme, etc.... and... they broke up about a month ago.

I'm not saying I know anything about your situation, but you're young. Stay young and happy. You don't need to break up but you don't need to get married to know a person is your soulmate. Marriages at a young age rarely last - maybe not because it's the wrong person, but because you need to really know yourself before taking the leap. What have you always wanted to do, by yourself, that you haven't? What are your dreams? Hopes? How do you know you've even tasted a piece of the adventure that could be your life as a single or no-ties young woman?

I just... I don't know. I've seen a lot of 20-somethings get so wrapped up in their significant other that they commit, without ever having truly explored themselves as an individual, and again - it's not about it being the wrong person, but the wrong time. You may feel so strongly now, but after a year or two or.. ten of marriage, you'll wake up and realize you never found yourself as a strong, independent woman. Take it slow. Enjoy your life right now and don't rush into this - marriage should be final. It's a vow, not just a promise, that rain or shine, thick or thin, you will love each other and support each other. You can just as easily follow that without getting married. I'm not saying your feelings about him will change, but they might. The 20's are like a second puberty, you're just finding your footing as an adult and swearing yourself to someone in this uncertain stage is just... not in your best interests. There's no reason you shouldn't put on cruise control, and enjoy your life as it is.

Who knows? You could end up marrying him in the future anyway, but trust me - taking the time to really focus on what makes you happy, and finding your own identity apart from another person.. is essential in making a marriage work.

Just be simple.
What's important in weddings is the solemnity and the sincere love to each other of the people getting wed.

The worst part would be decorations and food, my sister went through all that.
You have to do some budgeting, once you come up with a number, times it by 2 just in case anything happens. You know, shit happens.

But- but-

D 8


WAS THAT ALL A LIE???

Don't expect that a wedding will go perfect like the movies, instead you guys should go for a more natural wedding with a crowd YOU KNOW and not invite any guests whom you have no acquaintances with, that is just my guests.

Decorations .... I would say depends on the season ... white has been a tradition, but been used over zigillions of times, so maybe pick a set of colors that will lighten the mood and give off positive energy.

Food, well .... like I wrote about the guests, a good guest doesn't just eat and run, instead he stays, interacts, eat, have fun, and in the end leave as a gentlemen or as a lady .... so pick foods that will make the guests stay longer ... Cake is a must, but also little snacks and also a dinner .... oh and no sloppy foods, they should be well neat and easy to eat with.

Locations .. why not at a local place where it is big enough to hold a wedding, or maybe outside at a park when it is a nice day, or maybe even renting a big hall for a day ..... locations are important .. it should be attractive, holds enough guest, and most important of all, AIR CONDITIONER!!!!

I have seen many weddings and been to one .... however I am giving just neutral advices ... in the end .. the decision is up to you on how your wedding should be like.

Oh my, congratulations! I love weddings. Have you decided on the theme? Like I saw this bleach(anime) themed wedding.

Nope, I just wrote that before we agreed to get married. And I'm dead serious about that.
One day you're gonna wake up in a room you've never been in before and then I'll bring you something to eat and then we'll talk and I'll tell you that I kidnapped you and we got married while you were unconscious we got married somehow. And you can never get back to your old life again and we'll live happily ever after <3

Wow. That's really... Depressing. But I guess it's good to diversify the posts here.

Well anyways, Congratulations! Weddings are one of the biggest highlights in a persons life so the number one thing you should focus on is making this as memorable as possible! If heard couples would get married by a judge then later in life, after they've saved up, would hold an actual wedding ceremony. So there's always that option

I'd come willing, but if you'd rather come over here and get me, I'm fine with that too.



Not so much depressing as it is plain old sense.

The 20's are when we're beginning life. We've no idea where the hell we're gonna end up.

Kinda sucks when people in love are broken up- not because it didn't work out- but because of circumstance.


"Honey, I love you- but I need to fuck off because I got a job over there".

"I love you too, wish I could come along, but I still have two years to go before I get my degree."

"Well."

"Yeah- sucks."

"Yeah... See ya, I guess."