What should I do?
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So there's this girl that I really like, I'm good friends with her, but I lost her trust a while back. Turns out, she liked me and I didn't know, and that was when I had decided to give up on her.
She's one of those shy girls that don't open up much at all. So I ended up with another girl and hurt her really badly, but I didn't realize it. After a while though, I broke up with my girlfriend, because I realised that I would rather be with the girl I first liked.
But I got the feeling that she didn't like me anymore, and wanted to move on, I wasn't too sure though. So I talked to her casually, just as friends, to try and get her trust back, but I don't know if i ever got it back... :S
Then, I told her that I liked her, and just told her everything about how I was feeling. I asked her if I could get a second chance, and she said "probably not". Then I asked her if there could ever be anything between the two of us, and she said "not at the moment" and that I should just take her answers as "no, for now".
So here's the thing, I honestly have no idea what to do anymore, should I just give up? or should I just talk to her normally for a while and see how things go? D:
any advice is much appreciated (: and sorry its a pretty long post lol :S
She's one of those shy girls that don't open up much at all. So I ended up with another girl and hurt her really badly, but I didn't realize it. After a while though, I broke up with my girlfriend, because I realised that I would rather be with the girl I first liked.
But I got the feeling that she didn't like me anymore, and wanted to move on, I wasn't too sure though. So I talked to her casually, just as friends, to try and get her trust back, but I don't know if i ever got it back... :S
Then, I told her that I liked her, and just told her everything about how I was feeling. I asked her if I could get a second chance, and she said "probably not". Then I asked her if there could ever be anything between the two of us, and she said "not at the moment" and that I should just take her answers as "no, for now".
So here's the thing, I honestly have no idea what to do anymore, should I just give up? or should I just talk to her normally for a while and see how things go? D:
any advice is much appreciated (: and sorry its a pretty long post lol :S
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Sounds to me like she wants to see if you mean what you say.
My advice is to stick with it for as long as you can, dude. In due time, I think she'll open up to you again, and you'll be able to get something going. It'll just take some time.
My advice is to stick with it for as long as you can, dude. In due time, I think she'll open up to you again, and you'll be able to get something going. It'll just take some time.
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It is either you are too dense to realize her affection or she is too shy to show up her affection.
Anyway, how can you knew that she like you?
And if you like her from the start,how can you decide to be with another girl?
If you still insist to love her,just stick with her.
but seeing how she answer your question about whether there could be anything between you two, i think she still have some feeling for you.
At least she didn't deny that possibility,so there is still hope
Anyway, how can you knew that she like you?
And if you like her from the start,how can you decide to be with another girl?
If you still insist to love her,just stick with her.
but seeing how she answer your question about whether there could be anything between you two, i think she still have some feeling for you.
At least she didn't deny that possibility,so there is still hope
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You hurt her once...she's just afraid you'll do that again...
stick to her...and see what happens after some time...
stick to her...and see what happens after some time...
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meh best course of action is just to be friends even though she may not want to start a relationship with you.
Trust takes time to build.
Trust takes time to build.
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wilstreak: I know that she liked me, because I asked her if she ever did... and when i went out with that other girl, my feelings had faded too much i guess, but they all came back after, which made me regret going out with that girl. I just kind of hate myself for hurting her like that :S
hmm, well i think i will wait, only time will tell right? I just hope that she'll trust me again...
thanks for the advice guys (:
hmm, well i think i will wait, only time will tell right? I just hope that she'll trust me again...
thanks for the advice guys (:
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arcanumx wrote...
wilstreak: I know that she liked me, because I asked her if she ever did... and when i went out with that other girl, my feelings had faded too much i guess, but they all came back after, which made me regret going out with that girl. I just kind of hate myself for hurting her like that :Shmm, well i think i will wait, only time will tell right? I just hope that she'll trust me again...
thanks for the advice guys (:
Wait, something doesnt add up, she lost trust in you because you started going out with a girl while you were single?? how can she hold that against you?
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Firstbornnyc wrote...
arcanumx wrote...
wilstreak: I know that she liked me, because I asked her if she ever did... and when i went out with that other girl, my feelings had faded too much i guess, but they all came back after, which made me regret going out with that girl. I just kind of hate myself for hurting her like that :Shmm, well i think i will wait, only time will tell right? I just hope that she'll trust me again...
thanks for the advice guys (:
Wait, something doesnt add up, she lost trust in you because you started going out with a girl while you were single?? how can she hold that against you?
If she was friends with him before, she may have thought he understood her feelings for him. Also, some girls can be possessive of guy friends, or at least protective if they start seeing other women.
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gizgal wrote...
Firstbornnyc wrote...
arcanumx wrote...
wilstreak: I know that she liked me, because I asked her if she ever did... and when i went out with that other girl, my feelings had faded too much i guess, but they all came back after, which made me regret going out with that girl. I just kind of hate myself for hurting her like that :Shmm, well i think i will wait, only time will tell right? I just hope that she'll trust me again...
thanks for the advice guys (:
Wait, something doesnt add up, she lost trust in you because you started going out with a girl while you were single?? how can she hold that against you?
If she was friends with him before, she may have thought he understood her feelings for him. Also, some girls can be possessive of guy friends, or at least protective if they start seeing other women.
but she cant blame him for that, i dont understand how she can have trust issues when they never were together.
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Firstbornnyc wrote...
but she cant blame him for that, i dont understand how she can have trust issues when they never were together.
Oh I agree, but that's probably her rationale.
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Just keep the pressure up dude, Youve gotta EARN it!
(To quote John Candy from the film Brewsters Millions "If you dont make any calls you dont make any sales"...)
But be nice dont hound her.
Be like Carlton! :P
(To quote John Candy from the film Brewsters Millions "If you dont make any calls you dont make any sales"...)
But be nice dont hound her.
Be like Carlton! :P
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it feels like she wants you to reassure her of your actual honesty. if you truly want to be with her. keep pressuring, but know when its too much and when its not enough.
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ahh, well she had trust issues from the beginning. From what I know she doesn't trust or open up to a lot of people at all...
I think there's not much I can do but wait and see if I can earn her trust back...
:S
I think there's not much I can do but wait and see if I can earn her trust back...
:S
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Remember this. Trust is something that is built. Asking for it is one thing, but earning it is another. You have basically started from the bottom again, or probably even below it. I would stick by her side and earn her trust again. She seems like a keeper if she would care that much about what you do.
Edit: Oh, and if she said "No, for now" it seems like she just needs some time but will maybe give you a second chance. Keep this in mind when you are talking to her so that you will be able to do the right things to get her trust back. She doesnt seem to have given up on you completely, so neither should you.
Edit: Oh, and if she said "No, for now" it seems like she just needs some time but will maybe give you a second chance. Keep this in mind when you are talking to her so that you will be able to do the right things to get her trust back. She doesnt seem to have given up on you completely, so neither should you.