What the heck, hot best friend?

Alright. SO. Long story that I will try to make short as possible.

My best friend has this habit where she... She misleads men because she can't be honest in front of guys. She's flirtatious and sort of...acts like she's listening sincerely to everything they say, and then later mocks them or talks about how much she dislikes that guy for being this way or that way. Sometimes it's legitimate, but...

She wants me to help her find someone that she can have a chance with, but I feel like giving her to a guy who just looks at her and sees a pretty face rather than her...difficult, if creative and engaging mind (she's a trial, but a lot of people like people like that) is in for a horrible surprise.

Within days she'll start giving a guy mixed signals and never seems to grasp that she's doing this, or how cruel it is to them, and I try to tell her and explain it. I really try. I feel so bad for these guys and my friend for this...inability she has to really deal with guys. Main example is this college guy a few months ago who told her how shy he was, and when he put the effort in to be with the pretty girl who was giving him signs she might like him, she started completely confusing him while telling everyone else just what she DIDN'T like about him, etc. etc. This is a nice person she could be friends with, yet she's utterly destroying it by...behaving like this, rather than just going 'I'm not sure I want to be with you right now but let's hang out and find out' or something.

Long story short, what can you do? What would you do? What do you think could even politely be done? I want to give guys a warning label about her, but I'm her best. friend. The saddest part is these are often the shy gamer guy types who I would love to be friends with, but when you have a friend pulling this stuff....

Ugh. I just want to make friends, but the question is, again: should I just...ignore that she does this stuff? I feel like it's wrong to not hold up a sign for these guys going LOOK, SHE WILL HURT YOU, PLEASE FIND SOMEONE GENTLER. I wish there was a way I could be a supportive best friend and still...stop the incoming world of hurt for some of these wide-eyed shy guys who see her pretty face and expect her to be as gentle and kind as she looks.

tl;dr, I know. Also, I'm a horrible friend. D:

Sounds like a typical women.

Tell her to stop being so mean to them?

either that, or talk to the guy she goes for next time and make him act like such an asshole to her, so that she knows what it feels like, and tell her that's what she's been doing. Or if you rather, just tell her she's being a bitch to these people, and to cut it out. etc.. iunno, i'm sleepy, and i was half distracted by pokemans, so i half forgot what you said

well, for her to be mocking about what she pretended to listen to was ambigous.. i mean, she can't criticize what she doesnt know in the first place..

btw, if a person really loves someone, they work for it.. they dont go meet them and tell them they smell nice and stay together forever, there's this courting and stuff I really cant seem to get but from what I've experienced so far (by simply getting hurt), giving a lot of effort would pull it off..

well, my answer to your question would be to advise would be similar to Drifter995's answer but a revision, tell the next guy she goes after that he should put up with her for a little while (PS girls change with a little loving)

Wow, a two faced cock tease. Sadly there's not much you can do, people rarely change...and if they do, it's because of some immense pain. All you can really do is warn your friends and let them learn their lessons.

When dealing with the girl, you can stop participating in her behind-the-back trash talk and start talking about positive things instead.

Well...how old is she?
Girls who are just getting themselves out there tend to be a bit ignorant. Sure, she'll act a little reckless and she'll get hurt, but hopefully she'll learn from her mistakes. I would leave her be and let her figure it out by herself.
If she continues on this path or it gets worse, have a talk with her.

yeah, that works better than mine.. choose that. ^^ I should revise mine at some point when i'm not in bed, :D

send her to me, i'll go out with her. it'd be nice to have someone that could criticize me and hopefully get me to actually do things..... but if you want something simpler..... just let her do it. there's bound to be a guy out there that'll stay, or someone that will finally get her to change

i think you should still be friends with her either way.

I guess I should be sad for this. I've been going head over heels for a girl thats kinda like this. :/ Stay friends with this person and keep trying to make her understand what she is doing. I know what it's like to be hurt by these people.

I would love it if you could find a guy she actually wants to date and then watch her drive him away with this bad habit. Usually the most brutal methods are the most effective.

Take her on the sidelines and run some serious introspection. If she just can't see the point of you helping her then you need to let her make mistakes over and over again until she learns. It's a painful process, but some people just need to learn the hard way. (I used to be this person.)

She may be your best friend, but people need to figure out this kind of stuff on their own, you can tell her a hundred times, pound it into her skull, but she won't get it until she's ready.. It's her mistakes to make and her own lesson to learn. You can't fix it. You can give fair warning to guys, not in a mean way, just let them know she's a bit of a handful. In all honesty, sounds to me like she's not ready to be dating.

:| Sounds like a stereotyped sexist, but I won't judge.


OP, I won't lie: if you don't have your friend's best interests in mind, that isn't very friend-like.
Sure she is giving mixed signals, but is that any reason to wish her ill?