What To Say When Your Girlfriend Asks You If She Looks Fat

I was watching a comedian on TV who was talking about what to say when your girlfriend asks "does this dress make me look fat?". The comedian said that you should just immediately say No, cause any other response will get her mad at you. But I think I've come up with a much better response to the aforementioned question and I'd like to share it with all of you and see what you think.

When your girlfriend asks you "Do I look fat in this?", look her up and down for a few seconds, as though seriously considering.

Then you tell her to turn around. When she does so, say "No, no turn around slowly." in a sexually suggestive manner.

Once she is finished turning around slowly approach her, slip your hands around her waist and draw her close to you. Then say something like, "Hmmm, its hard to tell, I think I need to see you with it off first." Then kiss her.

You could stop there, but if the mood is right an even better thing to do would be to carry your woman to the nearest bed, and sex her up.

This is because it is my understanding that when your girlfriend asks you if she looks fat, she is really asking you if you think she looks attractive. So by taking the actions I just described you are not only reaffirming that you think she looks attractive, but that she's so hot that you just had to pick her up and take her to bed right there right then!

Plus you both get to have sex which is another point in favor of this maneuver.

You say yes.
Then you fuck her stupid for her to forget/confirm that you give two shits about that question.

if shes fat just say it for what it is. usually people lie about it and say they look fine and all that crap but it doesnt really help em. they end up believing crap instead of knowing what it really is and be able to WORK on it

me, if someone says im fat, yeah ill feel bad. but id rather hear that and know the truth, than some bs crap that doesnt help me.

as people say, its the criticism that helps us get better. by knowing what is wrong about us and improving it

No. A world of no.

A woman asking that question, is actually asking whether or not she's still doable. If the answer is yes, it overrides the 'fat' part. Women have associated 'fat' with 'completely undesirable'. Address the root of the question, and the question will become obsolete. It doesn't do a woman good to constantly hear flattery. You have to show a woman she's still hot in your eyes.

That being said, OP is right on the mark.

Seems about right. The action of showing her she is attractive is a hell of a lot better than just telling her "Yeah, yeah you sure are." So yes, it would be quite effective.

wow gettin personal are we

I'll say this atleast. You know something... theres a LOT of fat people out there that really score big and plenty. and no theyre not whores. why, its not always about the physical.

n me on just being not hot in general,

hell a physically undesirable woman can outmatch a pretty hot chick if that hotty is just a bitch

but if a person is not so and is a bitch at the same time well...

'sometimes its not the physical really'

'Fat' girls are more often passed up than 'bitchy hotties'. I'm not sure what you're basing your statements on...

One guy here actually said [and then others agreed on the sentiment] "I can have sex with an insufferable human being - It's not like I'm fucking her personality."

my statements are from the people I know who are fat and is married, sleeps with guys, has bf's, engaged etc etc etc

and im talking about the good kind of sex(according to some people), not even just mindless fucking

hell, one of em just got married a month ago so eh?

So, all of them said 'Yeah, my significant other/sex partner told me 'You're fat', and I said 'hey, thanks! I'll start losing weight immediately.'' ? That doesn't sound quite right to me. If that were the case, wouldn't all of them be 'thinner' by now?

I tell her the truth. 'I'll fuck ya!'

that is actually my response to something else than the original post.

point being, one shouldnt feel so bad on being told that you are fat. just as associating being fat from not being 'doable' because its not like that.

and if youre asking your bf, and your bf is fucking you already, meaning you are 'doable'. why would you ask that? isnt that more along the lines of "hey baby you think other guys would like to do me?" I mean... right?

and just to say it. I was fat like 260+ lbs at 5'6. what helped me get what i wanted to achieve was the info on where I really stood, and not just comfort words that really dont help anyway, it just steers you away from the matter really

I don't understand why you can't answer your girlfriend honestly. Personally, I think this is just a matter of maturity. I've gained weight recently, and I'm also in that period of life where you're naturally beginning to toss out more childish clothes in order to gain a more adult wardrobe. So, there have been numerous times lately where I've had to ask my boyfriend for his opinion on a certain outfit, and I -do- want a genuine response about whether or not it is presentable to wear. Him jumping my bones would be nice and all, but it doesn't answer the question. It isn't helpful. I think what needs to change is how we ask and answer the question. "How does this look on me?" is a far better (and more accurate) question to ask then: "Does this make me look fat?" I'm sure there are outfits out there that just DON'T look good, even if it has nothing at all to do with how your weight is distributed and presented in the clothing. So, basically - serious questions deserve serious answers; passive aggressive questions deserve a moment to rethink why you're with such an immature person.

Firstly, I see where you're coming from. I do.

Secondly, That's how -you- feel. That's what -you- want.

Sure, there are moments when a woman genuinely wants to know whether or not her outfit is becoming of her.

There are also, more of the time, moments when you feel insecure and want to know that you're desirable. "Does this look good?" is a very different question from "Do I look fat?" often times, the question of 'Am I fat?' has actually nothing to do with her outfit. Unless she is wearing something she didn't actually try beforehand, in front of her friends.

From all of your posts... it just really seems like you have exhaustively high standards of how people should act, and feel. There are going to be moments of insecurity. There are going to be situations where humans succumb to their human nature and feel a moment of general weakness. It doesn't mean the person is such an awful choice in significant other. If it's constant or often, it'd be a problem.

It just really seems sometimes, that you think everyone should operate at a certain level of maturity/self-security, 100% of the time. No one is that perfect, and no one can be. Every now and then, people will have their moments.

In any account, I really feel like each couple should be able to self-determinate
about do's and don'ts. Sure, any woman or person anywhere can try to be more concise about the type of information they're looking for, but every now and then, Dia.. people just want to know they've still 'got it'. And in those cases, a completely objective and emotionless response is not going to suffice.

Okay. I still have no idea why someone can't just ASK for the kind of response that they're looking for. Communication only works if both parties know what the other is looking for. Being passive aggressive, wishy-washy, or just plain indirect about what you're looking for is only going to get the same in return. Ask direct questions, and you'll be more likely to get direct answers. I'm not saying that everyone should be perfect 100% of the time, but I am saying that we shouldn't act like the emotional equivalent of a toddler in the middle of a temper tantrum the moment we see a bulge or two we don't like in the mirror. Have a cry about it or whatever you need to do, but don't project your insecurities on an unwitting second party. If you want to be reassured, the easiest way is to admit that you're feeling insecure and to ask for it. I don't know - makes sense to me. Half the issues in relationships stem from the fact that one or both parties involved seem to think that the other has telepathic abilities and is capable of zoning into exactly what they want at exactly the right time. Reality is that people don't work like that, and expecting them to is what is the truly exhaustive thing here.

The correct answer is NO and it must be delivered exactly 2.3 seconds after the question is asked. Too early she will think it's a knee jerk response, too late and she will think you are lying.

They want you to lie. Their so self concerned about appearances that they lost that respectful part of their brains. Women don't want truth... their happy with bold face lying. If you think your fat in that dress or heavy in general... you are even if you man doesn't think so. If he with you then be glad and hurry the fuck up we're late.

I agree with Dia on this one. If someone asks what your opinion on something, then you should give them the truth. Even if it hurts, the truth is what should be said instead of a lie. Although the fact that we're expected to say what is less hurtful is kinda sad, since the truth is always better in the long run, as compared to what is wanted to be said is not.

You tell her the truth and tell her it doesn't matter. This might sound weird coming from a guy, but I asked my girl this question when I stopped running for a year and she said yes but it's not that big a deal. It didn't make me lose hope, I just took it for what it is. I then decided to start running again. I know girls take it differently, but she has the power to change how she looks not just for you, but for herself. If she just simply gives up or cries after the truth even if you tell her you still love her, then she is at fault.

this is easy. Tell the truth, nothing but the truth. :D

I don't understand why everyone thinks I'm lying to my girlfriend in this situation?

The way I pictured the situation is that I do genuinely find my girlfriend attractive, its just that she's feeling insecure about her looks and how I feel about her(as we all do from time to time), and needs reassurance.

What better way to reassure your romantic pardner that you do indeed find them physically attractive then by acting upon the feelings that their physical attractiveness arouse within you? Its certainly better than just blurting out "No!" like the comedian I mentioned suggested.