Which would you prefer?

I'll be as straight forward with this as possible... I promise nothing.

So, we're all a little different, with our up sides and down sides, and when it comes to our significant other, there's always certain things we want or expect. I won't get into a heavy amoun of detail, so I thougt I'd ask everyone jus straight up;

Would you prefer someone who succeeds greatly at being a boyfriend, but is less successful at being a lover, or, would you prefer someone that is lousy as a boyfriend, but is a awesome lover? And why, just for shits and giggles?

Your question is kind of confusing, if you mean awesome lover as in a good sexual lover and a good boyfriend, I like both, considering my boyfriend is an amazing boyfriend and absolutely godly in bed too.

Call me selfish, but if he doesn't know how to use it, and you can't teach him, he's out. I'm a very sexual person, so if you're lacking in skills and can't seem to learn anything, our relationships not going to go to well. Sex is an important part of a relationship to some people, not as in a I need sex, but to me sex with a lover is a trust thing, it's intimate, and it's a just the two of you time, skin to skin, nothing in between, it's pure bliss when you can be absolutely comfortable with someone else sexually and it feel good.

Urrgh I want to vote "I am forever alone" so bad but this vote is clearly for the female forum members...I'll probably do that anyway to see poll results. I suppose I would be interested in what people have to say since I've never really come across this question anywhere. I would hope the first option gets the most votes because it is timeless but you never know with people.

I expect both simply because I was brought up with the ideal that I deserve the best and that what I give I receive in return. And that if I want mr right he will be the best lover and an amazing boyfriend.

It all starts with friendships.

I'm a little fan girly with the romance stuff lol

I absolutely agree with you, No relationship starts without friendship. I am very selfish when it comes to relationship. Part of me wants him to only look at me, but part of me tells me that I don't own him.

I definitely prefer both. But I can be flexible. If he's a great boyfriend, then I'm okay with him being a little clumsy in bed, because I'll make sure he improves.♡

I'd prefer a better lover than a boyfriend. I'm very selfish and guarded about my selfishness. I prefer to play emotionless and rely on my emotional distance to make up for the fact I'm actually a very clingy and possessive person. I'm in therapy for these things and a myriad of other reasons, and prefer to just not be emotionally involved at all. It takes a lot for me to even get invested like that to begin with.

I also put leagues more stock in sex than in chemical sensations anyhow.

Holy shit son, necrobump.

ot: I'd prefer both, but if not, I'd prefer they were a great girlfriend/ boyfriend... whatever. Sex can be improved, their ability to be a good boyfriend/ girlfriend cannot/ is a lot harder. I stand by the belief of not wanting to change them. They are who they are, and if I don't like it, I'm not going to change them just to suit me. I feel it's selfish, and I'm not like that

Total Loner :D

If you are honest and open with each other, both can be achieved.

So I'm a guy, yeah, but I'll take a great Significant Other every time and then work with them to improve their lovemaking.

I've yet to find someone who can't improve their lovemaking. If they're not interested in trying to improve when you bring it up, they're either not interested in sex at all or interested in a different *kind* of sex than you are or not interested in you enough to make the effort. Or a jerk/ette who doesn't deserve your attentions.

Being a great Significant Other is hard to achieve, and can't be done if they're not willing to change the things they're lacking in. Willingness to do things differently to be a better S.O. marks them as a Keeper in my book; unwillingness means you need to extricate yourself so you can keep looking for a better (not necessarily perfect) match.

Both. There's no middle ground unless the "lover" is a fuck buddy - No Strings Attached.

I'm a boy so I wouldn't want a boyfriend

I would prefer the "better boyfriend, worse sexual lover" option because sex can be improved and is expected to be improved over time (on both parties' accounts, to be fair). If you're in a loving relationship and he genuinely cares, his natural response should include consideration for his partner and making the experience awesome for both.

If said guy is not willing to negotiate, then forget it: find a guy that can fulfill both roles successfully. Don't underestimate the female libido.

Selfish and want both. Honestly I don't think you can have a fully satisfying relationship, whether you're male or female, if your partner doesn't mesh with you on either aspect.

Even if they're the best significant other in the world, but they never give you sex, you're still not going to have your needs fully met. I mean lets be honest here, we all need sex.

But further than that, let's say you're in a friends with benefits situation and the other person just... doesn't give a fuck about you. That situation sucks, believe me. You need love AND sex.

This goes for guys dating girls too honestly. If she's a scumbag girlfriend, OR if the sex is nonexistent, get the fuck out. There are so many better people you could be pursuing.

Don't believe in love for a person except family. My love is for everything that is perverted. :) *ForeverAlone

Selfish, I expect both.

Of course, that doesn't mean i'm not unsatisfied because of my expectations.
I used to consider myself preferring a better boyfriend over a better lover, but later found this was unrealistic. The lack of having a good lover in bed builds up and leaves me sexually craving for more. No matter how nice that sounds to say I'd rather have a better boyfriend, it's not realistic. So, I expect both.

Worship me...

I choose both.

Not because i'm selfish. But if the guy is compatible with me, both emotionally and physically, i get both lover and a boyfriend. I believe there is that kind of person for everyone. I've found him, btw. And he never tried to be a lover or boyfriend, ever. He is just comfortable with me, as much as i'm with him.

Btw, a lousy bf is someone who doesn't respect u. A lousy lover is someone who doesn't understands u.

I'm a hikikomori, so that makes me forever alone by default. OTL

But if I could get a boyfriend, I'd want both. Though since I'm on the pill right now (period regulation) my libido is shit. I should probably stop taking it though, since I'm not getting laid anyway.

That is a bit grim for being forever alone =/ I'm sure things will change and such. Just talk to people even if it is on forums and such. I know a few people who met each other initially on a forum or on facebook or something like that. So be hopeful and stuff. Get outside and if you like stuff like video games get dat XD. It'll give a good excuse to get out of the house.

Lots of responses here about wanting both. Interesting, although a bit concerning as a foreveralone guy lol. I do not know things and how am I supposed to learn when people want both from the get go XD. Maybe I'll worry about that later. I just spend my time playing games (pokemon X woo!) and watching tv such as Agents of Shield ><. Oh and studying, there is that.